That's a no with an emphasis..
Suppose there is dancer whom you've seem to have clicked really well with. You're not too sure how much mileage can be had with her but at least according to one person she'll let you eat her box and will return the favor with a BBBJ. Say you gave it a shot yourself but got denied access and didn't get either of two yourself. The club she works at is hit or miss, some girls DO provide extras but others don't. This particular dancer goes on to tell you that she "doesn't" do extras but that guys are always asking. Every time you see her, SHE brings up the extras subject. She said she had to turn down several customers because they didn't want a dance without extras. My question is why does always have to bring that up? That she "doesn't" do extras?....Her breath is oddly peculiar. It appears to have a strange smell to it but perhaps that's an indicator of the activities that she partakes in?...There are certain aspects of her dances that are good which is why I keep taking her for spins and I enjoy them for what they are. But I just can't fathom the reason as to we she always has emphasize the "no extras" part. Is it because I've been too nice and treated very respectfully and now perhaps she feels that I "found out" the truth, this illusion of her would be shattered?....I really don't care and curiosity killed the cat anyways but what's with his "innocent girl" image she wants me to have of her.......or not? Maybe she is telling the truth? Maybe the other customer is lying? Maybe there's three sides to story will bullshit on each end and the truth somewhere in the middle. Does she feel that I would think less of her?...Im somewhat perplexed.
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She has decided to do not do extras with you.
Is her god given right, and most women right, to say NO or stop you at anytime.
You have to decide if you are happy with only the services she provides at the price you are willing to pay.
Or try proposing OTC at a rate she and you find acceptable, as a win win arrangement. She gets more and doesn’t have to share with the club and you get more.
But be prepared to end the relationship if she doesn’t want OTC, and she doesn’t want to continue the current situation.
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Who knows? But from your perspective it doesn't matter. Whatever the reason, she doesn't want to do them with *you*. That's the only thing that should concern you.
You see the same thing with the sugar babies. What many of them are doing is getting money to have sex with an older man. Since they might have a date before having sex or hang out with the sugar daddy in addition to sex, they reason they are not actually prostitutes.
To answer your questions:
Q: What I don't get is why SHE keeps bringing up extras and telling me that guys keep asking for full service and she keeps rejecting them?
A: Because she wants you to know that you are one more of the men she rejects, so you don’t feel singled out.
Q: Nobody asked her all of that and I haven't pushed for it either. So what is the point that she is trying to make?
A: Her point is for you to not be mad/hurt and keep paying for her low mileage as in:
“The sorrow of many is a fool's consolation".
Q: It's almost like a guilty conscience....Like a thief telling you they didn't steal something when in fact they did. What might she feel guilty of????
A: She doesn’t feel guilty about anything, she is doing what she has to do to make as much money as she can providing the least amount of services. The purest form of capitalism...
Q: I'm not tripping over this but even if I was why would she care?
You are tripping over this, and again she doesn’t care about you tripping, as long as you keep paying for her low level of service/mileage.
"Don't let the troubles in your head
Steal too much time;
you'll soon be dead."
Trying to figure out why anyone, let alone a stripper, does or says something is pointless.
I would cut back spending, get less handsy but start talking dirty to her like "I want to lick that" or "I love it when you touch my junk" All with a smile.
If you absolutely positively have to know why, you're fucked. You'll never know. Accept it and move on. Others have provided theories, I can add at least two more. Maybe she's trying to fool herself. She doesn't want to feel like just another ho at her club. Its similar to the girls who insist "I only do this with you" while they're blowing you. It makes them feel better to think you believe they don't do that stuff. Why take it away from her?
Or possibly, that's just her standard conversation. I've had plenty of one trick pony conversationalists. They've got their one topic they talk about with all their customers, every time. Sometimes it's the "I'm so glad you came in, everyone else in here is so lame, but you seem really cool" stuff, sometimes its the "all the other girls in here are dirty whores, but not me, I'm clean" or sometimes its a unique topic they actually like to talk about. You can try to break them out of it if you want, or just let it flow in one ear and out the other.