When she doesn't really put any effort in at all to get ready to see you

i always am ready when i go through the house door. washed up, hair brushed, cologne emanating, etc. so if i'm meeting a girl for the very first time in general then yeah a little effort on her part would be nice. she wouldn't have to get dolled up to the max but at the same time a disheveled look might make me shake my head a little. i mean just at least pretend to give a shit a little.

What kind of a meeting/date is this ? Is she just coming over to fuck you ? If so, then I'm not sure I would care what she wore to come over and just do that. Are you going out somewhere ? Is dinner or some event involved ? Then I do care.

My dates with my sugar babes are events in themselves. I want the GFE. We go to dinner, we hold hands, I parade her around like I"m some big shot with the hot girlfriend. I probably get an much enjoyment out of that as I do the sex. I want her looking fantastic when we get together. I want other guys to drool over her. But if this is just a transaction for some quick gratification , then it doens't matter what she wears. The quicker to take off, the better. But I'm not really willing to pay much for that.

I have rarely had an OTC meetup where the girl didn't make at least a little bit of effort.

I had one that showed up for OTC with unplucked nipple hair and untrimmed bush, which are issues for me and she knew that well. I actually told her politely no we are not hooking up like that. At least she was apologetic. We rescheduled and she showed up looking better.

The first time I met my original ATF OTC for lunch, she showed up dressed to kill and I was wearing shorts and a t-shirt. She said that it was the way her mother had brought her up.

Mom: “Make sure you look good especially when you are out whoring” 😉

For sweats "that's fine they won't stay on long".

"I look like shit" depends on the girl and what she considers looking like shit. I don't care if she's got her stripper makeup and hair on. But she should be presentable enough she could go grocery shopping.

With few exceptions, I don't run into that either. But I don't do "run to the notell motel for a quick blowy" either -- I like some public dinner, bar hopping etc. first. Sometimes, with a girl where we're a bit more comfortable (an ATF or SB), she'll ask me if she can go casual if our plans are casual, and I always let her know "fancy yoga pants are ALWAYS acceptable and appreciated". Hell, I often prefer her in nice yoga pants over whatever else she was thinking!

I tend to overdress, especially on a first meet basis. I prefer to make a lasting impression unless told otherwise that I can come casual or lazy.

Interesting and yeah I’m usually in a lot of different situations, recently though just been hooking up, not going out. Perhaps I give off a sweatpants vibe lol it’s all good and @jamesSD I have the same feeling on it, it’s all coming off anyway

@Warrior15

Your wrote:

“I parade her around like I"m some big shot with the hot girlfriend”

Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.

:D

You also said:

“I probably get an much enjoyment out of that as I do the sex. I want her looking fantastic when we get together. I want other guys to drool over her.”

Good Times, Good Times...

@Muddy

As long as she is hot, attractive to me, and she is clean, as in freshly showered, it is all good.

My ATF was hot no matter the outfit or time of the day and when we meet for OTC, she always looked hot and clean, in sandals and a light summer dress or dressed up for dinner at a fancy place.