I'm creating this post because I'm somewhat trying to talk myself out of going to the strip club. However, I do want to get this particular chick OTC. At the moment it's the typical SS...no reply to some texts, mostly just business. So, I'm just wondering from other mongers how many visits was it before the stars aligned and a stripper that was once telling you no all of a sudden wanted to OTC?
I' m not much of an OTCer - but it seems one has a better-shot if one becomes an ITC-regular for a bit and not only builds a rapport, but she'll develop a taste for your regular -$$$ and may not wanna jeopardize that by not doing OTC and have you go look for someone else and also taking your regular-$$$ w/ you
Just be direct w/ her - if she needs the $$$ bad-enough she'll contact you perhaps to come-in ITC - tell-her you wanna see her OTC instead - in the end OTC is far from an exact-science and seems to often have a high-failure-rate - sometimes a PL has to decide whether it's better to just pursue greener-pastures and not get fixated on OTC w/ a particular chick b/c it may never happen - you can still try, but don't put all your OTC-eggs in one-basket.
Texting her multiple times...taking her out to dinner with no sex...it seems you're doing everything you can to prevent it from happening. If you haven't already gone into the needy category in her head, you're well along the short ramp to it.
Honestly I don't know if this can be salvaged now, but IMHO if you want any chance of salvaging it you're going to have to blow her off for a while and be seen spending your wad on someone else. Play it cool and simple if she comes by, letting her know that it is good seeing her but that you're visiting [insert dancer name] today. If she wants to bring you back around, she'll figure out what she has to do and if she doesn't then it's on to the next one.
Don't know if it was the positive thinking (because I was just rolling the dice she might be there) as I drove on the interstate to the club, but she did text saying she had been out of town and she'd be at work tomorrow night. I proposed making something happen tonight, but she said she was already in bed.
It is closing in on the first of the month. Rent due, so money talks louder. Make the offer, but let her know you need a quick response since others are interested. First one to show up gets the prize.
Im by no means an expert but almost every time ive done it was after one epic visit, two visits in one case. Either theyre down or theyre not is how i see it. Some of these chicks will skillfully string dudes along for years just to keep them coming back. If you want p2p you need to be clear about it. Theyre professionals and theyre going to see you as a customer so you mine as well know your role and make her an offer. Sounds like you tried to hook up with her on a dinner date and she wasnt into it, prob sol here buddy. Follow dugans advice.
Oh and if youre waiting for the stars to align to pay a stripper for hotel sex... even the combined brainpower of the tuscl “otc agents” cant help you lol
i mean whats your endgame here?
Always keep in mind you're a customer. You may be on great terms- you're still a customer. Closed mouths don't get fed so speak your mind. The stars are out every night of the week
Yeah rickdugan advice is what intending to do. My in-game was to get her OTC p2p. However it doesn't look like that may be the case. On my last visit with her, I specifically asked if she's cool meeting outside the club to hang out and we keep it in the club too. It seems though she wants more or all of in the club.
I'll probably give it a couple of more visits if not just one because I don't plan on doing just VIP with her because I think she expects or believes that's our norm.
On another note I was able to get a stripper I just met tonight by only floor dances outside the club for an early breakfast. It was just cool interaction. We didn't even exchange numbers or hug and I dropped her off at home.
Ricky Boy Dugan, the proponent of the retarded “System,” is the last person you should be listening to. https://tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=6309… He still claims it works, so what happened to his recommendations to never buy dances, wear a three piece suit, and pretend to be a chemical engineer?
Don't be desperate. She knows you're interested. Let her reciprocate if she chooses to. I'm personally not into selling someone on the idea of liking or being with me. Either it happens naturally or move on.
Plus real life will never live up to the fantasy if the fantasy gets to built-up. Too much anticipation guaranties a let down if anything ever happens.
Ch, putting aside the ranting of the site whack job above, I have no vested interest in whatever direction you go in. But ask yourself this: Is what you are doing working now? If not, then why not?
Obviously it's not working, so then the only question is why. There could be any number of answers to the second. One obvious possibility is that she won't do it with anybody period, but another very plausible reason is that you're coming across as too needy and it's making her cautious.
Whichever answer is the right one, IMHO the fix is the same: You need some time and distance from her. Either this eventually results in a reboot with her, which is possible, or it does not. Either way you're spinning your wheels with her anyway, so a change will likely improve things.
Just to clarify, when you say you want OTC, what you mean is that you want sex, right?
You're posting about dinner (no sex) with one dancer, and breakfast (no sex) with another dancer, and then dropping breakfast dancer off at home (still no sex). So, as far as I can tell you're buying meals and running a free Uber.
And, if you're looking for more "cool interactions" without sex, that's fine. But it's absolutely not what most guys here consider to be "OTC".
Assuming that you want sex, I think you need to set aside both breakfast and dinner dancers (at least for now), and start fresh with a third dancer. And your top priority needs to be making it abundantly clear that if you're going to meet her OTC, then you want sex.
I find that the easiest way to get this across is to look right at her and say some version of "I want sex, specifically with you." Don't be a dick about it, but also don't be afraid to be pretty straightforward, either.
Unless she's been a stripper for less than an hour, you're not the first guy to ask her for sex OTC or ITC. You're not going to offend her, you're not going to make her cry, and you're not going to get kicked in the nuts.
Well... not for asking for sex...
As far as breakfast and dinner dancers, leave them alone for a while. If they approach you, tell them that you're looking to spend time with other dancers. If they press you for reasons, either cite "personal preference" or tell them what you're *actually* looking for.
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No I don't consider taking them out to eat as "OTC." With no sex, I try to refer to it as outside the club. Anyway, my goal is to get them OTC, sex involved.
Last night was a first in some respects. However, I have trumped that once when I got a dancer OTC, only sex, first night I met her.
I'm cool with taking them out to eat and even if it's mutiple of times. I feel that builds the rapport. However, I don't intend to continue pursuit too much longer when they start with SS as far as responding if we've already gotten outside the club. What gets me is the no response. Unless, they've indicated otherwise (very, very rare) that they don't mind small talk, I typically don't text them non business or small talk.
This is just my opinion - but I think you are going about this as if you were trying to bag a civilian and trying to get lucky and not screw-up - seems as if you are thinking/acting in civvie mode vs monger-mode.
At the end of the day, these girls are business-women and their involvement w/ strip-club custies revolves around money in exchange for services -at the end of the day it's a transaction and it's up to the custy to do his part so the transaction occurs and occurs in a way where both parties get what they want - taking her to dinner, etc, and hoping you get beyond first-base like on a civvy-date seems like a low-probability event w/ any woman stripper or not - as much as many on here don't like for it to sound that way, at the end of the day it's business meaning that in a business transaction one gets down to the details and a conclusion/deal-closure.
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But I never talk to women as though they are prostitutes. I treat them as I would any other woman.
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Honestly I don't know if this can be salvaged now, but IMHO if you want any chance of salvaging it you're going to have to blow her off for a while and be seen spending your wad on someone else. Play it cool and simple if she comes by, letting her know that it is good seeing her but that you're visiting [insert dancer name] today. If she wants to bring you back around, she'll figure out what she has to do and if she doesn't then it's on to the next one.
That's the route right now. I did try for the sex on our dinner date not necessarily stating it as business, but failed.
Oh and if youre waiting for the stars to align to pay a stripper for hotel sex... even the combined brainpower of the tuscl “otc agents” cant help you lol
i mean whats your endgame here?
I'll probably give it a couple of more visits if not just one because I don't plan on doing just VIP with her because I think she expects or believes that's our norm.
On another note I was able to get a stripper I just met tonight by only floor dances outside the club for an early breakfast. It was just cool interaction. We didn't even exchange numbers or hug and I dropped her off at home.
Obviously it's not working, so then the only question is why. There could be any number of answers to the second. One obvious possibility is that she won't do it with anybody period, but another very plausible reason is that you're coming across as too needy and it's making her cautious.
Whichever answer is the right one, IMHO the fix is the same: You need some time and distance from her. Either this eventually results in a reboot with her, which is possible, or it does not. Either way you're spinning your wheels with her anyway, so a change will likely improve things.
You're posting about dinner (no sex) with one dancer, and breakfast (no sex) with another dancer, and then dropping breakfast dancer off at home (still no sex). So, as far as I can tell you're buying meals and running a free Uber.
And, if you're looking for more "cool interactions" without sex, that's fine. But it's absolutely not what most guys here consider to be "OTC".
Assuming that you want sex, I think you need to set aside both breakfast and dinner dancers (at least for now), and start fresh with a third dancer. And your top priority needs to be making it abundantly clear that if you're going to meet her OTC, then you want sex.
I find that the easiest way to get this across is to look right at her and say some version of "I want sex, specifically with you." Don't be a dick about it, but also don't be afraid to be pretty straightforward, either.
Unless she's been a stripper for less than an hour, you're not the first guy to ask her for sex OTC or ITC. You're not going to offend her, you're not going to make her cry, and you're not going to get kicked in the nuts.
Well... not for asking for sex...
As far as breakfast and dinner dancers, leave them alone for a while. If they approach you, tell them that you're looking to spend time with other dancers. If they press you for reasons, either cite "personal preference" or tell them what you're *actually* looking for.
Don't be "meal and a ride" guy if you want sex.
In my organization will commemorate these occurrences, with orgies of course.
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No I don't consider taking them out to eat as "OTC." With no sex, I try to refer to it as outside the club. Anyway, my goal is to get them OTC, sex involved.
Last night was a first in some respects. However, I have trumped that once when I got a dancer OTC, only sex, first night I met her.
I'm cool with taking them out to eat and even if it's mutiple of times. I feel that builds the rapport. However, I don't intend to continue pursuit too much longer when they start with SS as far as responding if we've already gotten outside the club. What gets me is the no response. Unless, they've indicated otherwise (very, very rare) that they don't mind small talk, I typically don't text them non business or small talk.
At the end of the day, these girls are business-women and their involvement w/ strip-club custies revolves around money in exchange for services -at the end of the day it's a transaction and it's up to the custy to do his part so the transaction occurs and occurs in a way where both parties get what they want - taking her to dinner, etc, and hoping you get beyond first-base like on a civvy-date seems like a low-probability event w/ any woman stripper or not - as much as many on here don't like for it to sound that way, at the end of the day it's business meaning that in a business transaction one gets down to the details and a conclusion/deal-closure.
I never talk to them like they sell sex or like money could buy them.
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