Opening car-doors and pulling-out chairs ?
Papi_Chulo
Miami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
Saturday, December 14, 2019 7:06 PM
Sitting in a Starbucks - notice a young couple come in - from observing the body-language it may be a first-meet - they come in and he pulls out a chair for her.
I'm all for politeness, but I wonder if this kinda stuff (opening the car-door, pulling out the chair) is out-of-style today - it often feels/looks forced as if the dude is trying extra-hard to impress her and "not fuck up" per se.
What say you - and what do the ladies on TUSCL say (do you expect guys to open the car-door for you and pull out the chair at a restaurant and if he doesn't you think less of him?).
I'm all for politeness, but I wonder if this kinda stuff (opening the car-door, pulling out the chair) is out-of-style today - it often feels/looks forced as if the dude is trying extra-hard to impress her and "not fuck up" per se.
What say you - and what do the ladies on TUSCL say (do you expect guys to open the car-door for you and pull out the chair at a restaurant and if he doesn't you think less of him?).
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When I'm at a club and sitting at a table, if a dancer comes up and asks if I want company, and I want her to join me, yeah, I'll stand and pull out her chair. It's just kind of a nice thing to do.
The car door thing I think is by the wayside. It's rare a woman will wait for you to open the door for her. Usually, she just gets out.
When entering or leaving a building or room, though, I hold the door open for anyone else coming through -- man, woman, whoever. It's just a nice thing to do for other people.
We need to be nicer to each other in general. These are little things that we can do.
I once asked an older women walking with a cane if she wanted me to hold her shopping bags while she negotiated some steep steps. "No thank you, but thanks for asking," she replied.
It more important to show respect for others than to automatically and mindlessly perform some supposed courtesy. Pay attention to social cues.
The wise Papi_Chulo advises not to overthink things. ☺☺
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Honore de Balzac
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I had an OTC, around 2003, with a beautiful blonde stripper, when I when to pick her up at her apartment near the beach, I opened the car door to my convertible and then asked her if she wanted the top up or down, she responded “down of course, it is a convertible and we are in California”
She later said that she grew with thise touches of chivalry and was very happy to see that I walked on the street side “to protect her from the traffic” when we walked to the fancy restaurant.
Needles to say it was a very good GirlFriend Experience...
“People greet you according to the way you dress and say goodbay according to the way you behave"
Unless your a street walker I just picked up then disregard everything above.
However, being a gentleman, I will also occasionally make exceptions for a woman who has a nice rack and looks like she might be a desploogination service professional.
I'm with Ski on this one. I live in a high rise in a major city - constantly going through doors with people coming/going/carrying packages. It's just some common courtesy imo.
Also always let women order first. It's just stuff that I'm used to and enjoy doing.
When will a guy open the car door for his wife?
When the car is new - or the wife is.
SJG
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