Sitting in a Starbucks - notice a young couple come in - from observing the body-language it may be a first-meet - they come in and he pulls out a chair for her.
I'm all for politeness, but I wonder if this kinda stuff (opening the car-door, pulling out the chair) is out-of-style today - it often feels/looks forced as if the dude is trying extra-hard to impress her and "not fuck up" per se.
What say you - and what do the ladies on TUSCL say (do you expect guys to open the car-door for you and pull out the chair at a restaurant and if he doesn't you think less of him?).


I'm old-fashioned, so I like doing this kind of stuff ... to an extent.
When I'm at a club and sitting at a table, if a dancer comes up and asks if I want company, and I want her to join me, yeah, I'll stand and pull out her chair. It's just kind of a nice thing to do.
The car door thing I think is by the wayside. It's rare a woman will wait for you to open the door for her. Usually, she just gets out.
When entering or leaving a building or room, though, I hold the door open for anyone else coming through -- man, woman, whoever. It's just a nice thing to do for other people.
We need to be nicer to each other in general. These are little things that we can do.