Oddball acts that ~technically~ isn’t cheating
nicespice
Obviously, yes, what is considered cheating is very much up to individual relationships. For some couples, outright intercourse wouldn’t be cheating. For some, just merely meeting up for lunch with somebody of the opposite gender is. And there’s a lot of in between.
But what I’m interested in reading, are amusing examples where somebody decides to draw the line. Could be about a dancer, a friend, etc
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I’ll start:
Recently, I was hanging out with a friend who I went to college with. We were talking about somebody from our social circle who is a male.
This guy has an on and off relationship with another female, who I have never met in person but I know what she looks like, because every time they are “on” he posts a photo of this individual. For the past year or two, whenever this couple is “off”—he and my friend will hook up as FWBs.
This dude got into the conversation somehow. I have him followed on social media and my friend does not. I mentioned that it seems he’s back with the same girl again—when it’s been a long time and I thought they really had been done with this time. This was recently he posted a pic with her.
A lightbulb went off in my friend’s head. She told me how recently she went salsa dancing, and he messaged her asking what she was doing. She invited him over (not expecting him to show up, because he’s a really flaky personality). But lo and behold he does, so she invites him to go back to her place. He says he’s tired so he can’t. So as far as she’s concerned, okay have a good night. And figured that would be the end of that.
But an hour after that conversation ends, she receives snapchats from him. He decided he was going to jerk off and he sent her video footage of it.
So when she figured out from me he got back with the same girlfriend, she put two-and-two together and realized he was motivated by not wanting to cheat.
In his mind, fucking=cheating. Sending sexually explicit snapchats=not cheating. We thought it was hilarious. 😂😂
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I’m looking forward to these answers. This being a strip club message board, there *has* to be some really good stories from you guys.
But what I’m interested in reading, are amusing examples where somebody decides to draw the line. Could be about a dancer, a friend, etc
——
I’ll start:
Recently, I was hanging out with a friend who I went to college with. We were talking about somebody from our social circle who is a male.
This guy has an on and off relationship with another female, who I have never met in person but I know what she looks like, because every time they are “on” he posts a photo of this individual. For the past year or two, whenever this couple is “off”—he and my friend will hook up as FWBs.
This dude got into the conversation somehow. I have him followed on social media and my friend does not. I mentioned that it seems he’s back with the same girl again—when it’s been a long time and I thought they really had been done with this time. This was recently he posted a pic with her.
A lightbulb went off in my friend’s head. She told me how recently she went salsa dancing, and he messaged her asking what she was doing. She invited him over (not expecting him to show up, because he’s a really flaky personality). But lo and behold he does, so she invites him to go back to her place. He says he’s tired so he can’t. So as far as she’s concerned, okay have a good night. And figured that would be the end of that.
But an hour after that conversation ends, she receives snapchats from him. He decided he was going to jerk off and he sent her video footage of it.
So when she figured out from me he got back with the same girlfriend, she put two-and-two together and realized he was motivated by not wanting to cheat.
In his mind, fucking=cheating. Sending sexually explicit snapchats=not cheating. We thought it was hilarious. 😂😂
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I’m looking forward to these answers. This being a strip club message board, there *has* to be some really good stories from you guys.
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A better question to ask is can you live a compartmented life without consequences.
I had an ex-wife that thought internet porn was cheating. I never touched another women until after our divorce was final, never cheated even when we were separated, but she'll go to her grave convinced no man can be faithful.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XD6OLpp3…
So am I a cheat. I guess I am. But I don’t feel particularly guilty. I just have to draw the line in a place where I don’t feel guilty.
In other words, I don’t think there’s a need to beat yourself up over it. I made this thread more for the amusement sake than asking one to self-reflect
...you're cheating. Just own it.
Now I just need a pretty young woman to help me understand how flexible my line is.
Any volunteers?😛
One we've probably all heard at one point; a girl who will fuck and suck any dick that walks into the club, but not kiss, because that would be cheating.
As for me, lying is cheating, because that was the promise I made. Nothing else I can think of off the top of my head.
And no lying about it, cause I agree with georg.
Can you tell us more about this, how do you know about this, what is your source, and why do you think this happens?
SJG
My ex wife threw my ass out of the house, drained my fucking bank account and kept my kids from me for 6 months because she caught me watching the Playboy channel at 2 am after 17 years of marriage. She said I was cheating on her.
My new wife is 20 years younger and I busted in on her fucking someone her own age. She was definitely “cheating”. I forgave her and made a pact. I know she has her needs and I have mine. When those needs are to be met with lust outside our relationship, then we are to satisfy those needs and simply dump that need when satisfied, but NOT tell the SO.
I Meet my needs as often as I need. She does as well. Are we “cheating” on one another. Probably so, but it does not affect our relationship.
There have also been several women that I would have really enjoyed “cheating” with, but I will never engage unless the women of desire engages FIRST. She may never even know my desire. I can keep such desire pent up. If she engages and I am up for such engaging, then “cheating “ will most definitely occur WITHOUT REMORSE.
For some it’s a minor offense - but others might think only penetration is cheating. There’s lots in between.
So - I know you and I made arrangements to involve ourselves in physical activities tonight - but I want to specifically say which activities I’m actually about tonight - only because there is this guy I’m seeing that - I am sexually active with and so because of that I’m not interested in having actual sex - anything else I’m fine with - just not the actual sex part you know - only because I just don’t want to cross that line with this other person -
Sure enough - DATY, BBBJCIM, body massage, but no fucking. Ok, I understand, but only cuz I’m 47 years older the I
I had a favorite that looked at things the same way. She would give (me at least) bjs and fs itc but I couldn't get her to meet otc because she was married. They did split up a couple years ago but I've lost touch with her.
If you don't like that, then don't get married.
SJG
san_jose_guy - Commonly referred to as SJG this forum member may have some sort of mental illness and is usually mocked or ignored. SJG has a long history of posting incendiary comments including being pro-rape. His comments should NOT be taken in any way as legitimate.
1. Big thanks to President Bill Clinton for defining SEX as intercourse and not a blow job. It blows my mind (pun intended) to say that I did not have sex with a woman as she is wiping my jizz off her chin... but there you go.
2. If you never agree to a monogamous relationship, you cannot, by definition, cheat. Having said that, even in a non-monogamous relationship, discretion is a very good idea - unless your partner is a true voyeur, or can genuinely experience a sense of compersion when you have sex with someone else (look up polyamory + compersion for info).
3. To paraphrase a landmark Supreme Court ruling: "I don't think I can define cheating, but I know it when I see it."
So as others have suggested: If you think you are cheating, you are. If you think your SO will think you are cheating, you are.