Dancer about her age?
Darkblue999
Somewhere in the club
I was talking to a dancer at a club. After few minutes, I suddenly asked her age to see if she is eligible to drink. She said she is 30 yrs old. She looked like 21-22 but I told her you don't look 30 . She asked me how old I look like , I told her may be 24-25. Then I offered her to buy a drink. She opted for Whisky.
So why would a dancer lie about her age that too many years older?
So why would a dancer lie about her age that too many years older?
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But otherwise you do not ask women their age. And if they ask you to guess or to tell them how old they look, you do not answer them.
SJG
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So I said she looked 30yo.
Hysterical screaming ensued. She was 29yo.
I learned from my mistake. You don't ask women their age. You don't answer if they ask you to guess their age.
SJG
That was my thinking too. She might have thought i am matured so I may not like younger dancers. Her skin tone and face does not say she is 30, not even 24. She also told me she has been dancing for 12 years.
She did not say anything. She just smiled and diverted the topic. Also I asked her if she goes to school before asking about her age. She said she completed school. She finished nursing. Again I doubted that. She applied to couple positions. She could not get a job as nurse.
There is nothing wrong with asking her age, guessing her age or discussing her age - as long as you follow one simple rule: She is 22. It doesn't matter how old or young she looks, you say she looks 22. Always. Twenty-two.
I have conversations all the time where age may come up as part of a discussion - hers and/or mine. Maybe you think she likes older guys and you want to play up the "Daddy Like!" scenario. Maybe she thinks she is over the hill and is no longer competitive with the 20-ish waifs running around. Maybe you found common ground to talk about the topic de jour, since your are contemporaries from the same decade or era. It doesn't matter. If it comes up and you need to throw out a number: 22!
She can agree, she can opt not to confirm or deny, or she can make some response that she feels is interesting or useful to her. But that's her choice. I've never seen a dancer be insulted or upset or disappointed when I say she looks 22. The 19 year olds want to look older (so they can drink?). The 30-ish and 40-ish (gawd help you if she's fucking 50-ish!!) want to look younger.
So - 22.
Write it down on your Stripper Conversation crib notes if you have to. You know, the notes you use to wrap those condoms in your pocket in case they fall out?
SJG
I don't ask their age. Some dancers are touchy about it (be they young or old). I'd just ask "Can I buy you a drink?". If she orders alcohol then I assume that she's 21. If I'm wrong, that's for the bartender to sort out.
Also, sometimes dancers fib to customers just to entertain themselves and see how we react. Knowing that dancers are often not honest with customers, I avoid giving them more opportunities to lie than necessary.
If you buy her a drink - and she wants booze - it’s not your decision - it’s up to the bartender.
If you play a game of guess the strippers age - it’s usually a waste of time - or you could get yourself into trouble -
Recently, I’ve been amazed to find out the age of some dancers when they started dancing
Chris Rock
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Almost a week ago, some customer wanted me to have a drink (with alcohol) with him. I accepted, and then we chatted for a few songs. Then his reason for not buying a dance is “you’re too young”
I was thiiiisss close to telling him he was absolutely right and that I shouldn’t be drinking and throw the drink in his face. I restrained myself.
To his credit, I think he figured out what he said was stupid cause he called my name out when I walked off (I ignored him) and later he and his friends tipped me nicely on stage.
So @OP...it may well be the dancer you spoke with has heard the “too young” line before and wanted to preemtively strike. If you specifically used the phrase “old enough to drink” at her—then can you blame her?
But personally speaking, her ways are different than my ways. I lie down about my age when asked just for the simple reason I don’t want to listen to the customer be all “naaah really” and drag out the conversation unnecessarily.
Reading your story, I have been validated that my way is the correct way to proceed is talking.
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Going slightly off tangent , There was another customer later that night, while dancing for him, who wanted to guess my age and pegged me for “between 25 and 27”
I get impressed and slightly unnerved when a customer is able to figure out my real age.
Agree. I'll either ask if I can be her a drink, or sometimes, tell her I'd like to get her a drink and ask if she's old enough. I understand why random guys on their once-a-year big stripclub night ask questions like her age, but PLs should probably know better
I never faced any objection when I asked age question without hesitation. I ask to find if they are eligible enough to drink. Sometimes I ask after they ask me about my age.
So coming to this dancer, after buying her a drink we went to 30 min VIP. Based on her dances and the body goods she does not look/feel like 30 year old.
I don't really agree with this. For us, it's a fantasy world. For dancers, it's a job. And I don't care how deeply invested you might be in the fantasy, everyone brings some baggage and sensitivities into the club with them.
I have frank discussions with dancers, but mostly avoid topics like age, family, politics / religion, etc., because even fantasy lands have land mines. Once I know a dancer a bit better, I might go to those topics, but not before.
Whatever works best for you, though.
It’s a bit more rude to just walk up and ask to fuck with no context tho. Not that it stops some of these customers...
Maybe you should ask her if she thinks you have a big dick too...
Essentially... yes.
I'm not saying it makes sense or is reasonable or logical. But a dancer who has a wide menu in the VIP can absolutely have her own set of pet peeves and temper-triggering topics that might seem trivial to us.
Here's the thing... if I'm sitting with a smoking hot dancer and she's open to my kind of fun in VIP, I'm not the dumb fuckwit that's going to say "oh by the way, you look fantastic for a woman in her 30s."
That's not the Viking death I'm looking for, thank you very much.
Here's the thing... if I'm sitting with a smoking hot dancer and she's open to my kind of fun in VIP, I'm not the dumb fuckwit that's going to say "oh by the way, you look fantastic for a woman in her 30s." "
Ex-fucking-xactly. In the end, this is about having an amazing BJ in the VIP for a great price. It's not about "some other stripper asked me something obnoxious, so I'll ask you something obnoxious, because in my weird mind that's fair".
Coming to kissing topic, the other dancers was giving very intimate contact dances in VIP she was looking directly into my eyes putting her lips very close to mine. I asked her can u kiss you. She just smiled and I asked her again she said no. I asked for reason it's too personal for her. So topless full contact dance is not personal but kissing is personal for her.
I never understand about this in my life. They can be physical with stranger but no kiss.
But at the same time you can see many girls kissing several strangers in dance/night clubs. Again I never understand this.
In a night club, they hold back sex so they're often more liberal about kissing.
In a strip club, they hold back kissing because they're, by necessity, more liberal about everything else.
Yes, you don't ask women their ages.
I though would not ask the second question either. Instead I would just tactfully make her understand what I want to do with her. In the middle of a front room makeout session, that is not difficult to communicate.
SJG