Follow up
gawker
Older than dirt
Today’s weather was a cold driving rain. I knew I had about a 100 mile drive so I left early. The highway was like an 80 mile parking lot. It took me more than 3 hours to get there but I had 10 minutes to spare. Then the ominous text: “ I’m going to be a tad late”30 minutes later, “My babysitter flaked”. “Can we postpone to tomorrow?” No, I don’t think so.
Then the drive home - more rain, ground fog, crazy drivers veering from lane to lane. I got off the highway, went to the first gas station I saw, went in & asked for $20 on pump 8, bought a snack & a lottery ticket. Just kept thinking about where I should have been - right between her legs.
Got back on the highway, looked at my gas gauge and realized I never pumped the gas. I kept driving, got home on fumes, scratched the lottery ticket and won $250.
The night was not a total waste. And I probably saved $150 on the restaurant. All is not lost.
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Sorry it didn’t work out. If you have a story like this, it just emphasizes the unpredictability and uncertainty of any OTC
I remember the original post, this was no ordinary OTC, so nothing wrong in just cutting your losses, returning home, and having some SCing fun another day.
And maybe gawker’s story seems more time consuming or frustrating than most of us would allow. But I think that would be just a matter of degree. We have all sorts of posts on here about waiting for the hottie to emerge from the dressing room, time and effort put in scouting on SA, disappointing club visits, failed OTC, general flakiness and so forth.
Mongering seems like a unique thing. If I go fishing but the fish aren’t biting well, I’m disappointed but still feel glad that I spent the time fishing. But while I know opinions will vary on this here, the time and effort spent in pursuit of sexual thrills often seems a waste in hindsight, at least for me. When that thought occurs to me, hopefully I notice it and spend more time fishing or training my bird dog but often I admit that’s more aspirational than it is reality for me to do so.
But gawker is a retiree with pretty much nothing else to do, so the calculus is a bit different for him. I'm sure it sucked donkey ass to be stuck in that traffic, but he could always DVR his Jeopardy and Wheel of Fortune episodes. Though if I had already driven that far, I might have grabbed a room for the night and enjoyed everything the PVD clubs had to offer, but he might be conserving resources for his next OTC opportunity.
I have dated single moms and kids are going to almost always be first. And yes babysitters are mostly women and sometimes life happens.
One of my first OTC dates brought her kid because the babysitter didn’t show up. When there where no cellphones to let me know. We did go to dinner and had a nice time like a family. She really appreciated me being OK with it and the subsequent OTC were really nice.
“You teach people how to treat you.”
I suggest that you tell the girl (stripper or sugar baby or civilian) what you need/want regarding being on time and or letting each other know in advance (this is the key to no get upset, enough advance notice) if anything changes or you have to reschedule.
Communication is the key and you decide if you should give her the chance to change her behavior.
Now days with cellphones is even easier to let each other know if you are going to be late.
Make sure she understands that having people waiting for no reason, is a power trip, is disrespectful and you would be wasting their time, and time/life is one of the most valuable things.
Make sure that you let her know that you prioritize reliability above almost all other traits as you search for a lasting relationship with an ATF.
My last FAV and I will agree to meet for VIP and was never late, if something came up we would let the other know and reschedule accordingly. One the best girls I have had the pleasure, she texted me one last time to let me know she was moving and tanked me for the good times
Holy shit, 5 hours roundtrip of driving, to meet a stripper who you know has a kid and therefore might not make it... that is a decision I might not have made!
Then Sugar moved away. Further than I wanted to drive regularly. She had a baby. I took her & the baby to lunch one time. We texted maybe once a month. Then out of
The blue, a couple of new photos and a text, “still interested in dirty girls like me? I suggested dinner and picked a very nice restaurant. I don’t know if she wants P4P now. I don’t “ know where her head is at”. Can we just pick up where we were several years ago? I honestly don’t think last night was intentional , but I think it’s an indicator that it wasn’t a priority. I’ll go to see her at the club where she’s dancing and leave it up to her. I thought about going to a club in that area but Subraman nailed it. I wouldn’t have enjoyed it.
It's more than the time lost, and more than the frustration of unfulfilled desires. It's that I take fair bit of time to plan, shift other events on my schedule, perhaps make reservations for dinner and hotels, and of course, I push other opportunities down on my priorities list.
What I've learned form these disappointments:
1. Always have a back up plan - even if it's go home and indulge in self-love.
2. Only locals, or she comes to me. You need to define "local" for yourself. For me it's no more than a 30 minute drive. Better yet, let her drive/Uber/skateboard/walk to me. I have an advantage over some here in that I'm single, live alone in a house, and I work from a home office. I always offer to host and love the idea of ordering pussy delivery just like I can have DoorDash deliver lunch to my door.
3. Stay in touch. After you've planned and confirmed, watch out for radio silence. One of the red flags of a no-show I've seen is that she stops responding to my messages within 24 hours of our scheduled start time. The closer I get to my go time (the time I need to get in my car) with no responses, the more my messages start to hint (then state) that I'm going to cancel if she doesn't reply. I had one SB in the Bay Area in Nor Cal that did this to me. We had met the previous weekend for dinner and a steamy make out session in my car. We planned on a 2-day wine tasting trip the following weekend. I researched wineries that she would like, made a non-cancellable hotel reservation (because it was cheaper, but still expensive!) and lunch & dinner reservations as well. On Saturday morning, I left my place at 5:00 am to be at her place at 7:30 am. The plan was to head north to wine country and start tasting after breakfast. When I got to her place I texted. No answer. I waited 5 mins and texted again. Repeated this 3 more times. Then I called - 4 times. Straight to voice mail and her mail box was full. I got out of my car and walked around, but she had never given me her unit number. After an hour, I left one more text that I was heading home and I left. Two days later she texted me: "Oh! I partied late the night before and fell asleep. And my phone battery was dead, too. Can we try again this weekend?" No.
Total cost full cost of the hotel room (about $425) a tank of gas and extra blood pressure meds for two days.
Overall, I'd say my success rate in long-distance hook ups is around 35%. So unless I have another reason to travel to her area, it's a pass.
Gawker, that is something no stripper has ever said to me and I hope none ever will.