Keeping Women You No Longer Want
reverendhornibastard
Depraved Deacon of Degeneracy
This is a common mistake. I’ve made it repeatedly.
For most men it’s almost a reflex. “Nobody messes with my woman (or women)!”
The average guy’s attitude is, “she remains mine until I say otherwise!”
It really doesn’t matter whether you love her or even want her anymore.
It’s as natural a male response as it is unreasonable and selfish.
I can’t remember how many times I worked hard to hang on to previous wives or girlfriends, persuading them to stick with me rather than striking out on their own or becoming involved with other men, probably better men than me, who would likely love them and care for them better than I ever did.
Often, after winning their continued loyalty I would kick myself for being so stupid. Why in the world had I just squelched a golden opportunity to be rid of a woman I had grown sick and tired of having around me all the time?
Why had I defused her opportunity to find happiness with someone else?
No good reason other than male pride, territoriality, possessiveness and remorseless selfishness.
It’s a terrible trait that I will probably retain until I die.
P.S. I’m not looking to unload any current women. I was just thinking about prior mistakes.
For most men it’s almost a reflex. “Nobody messes with my woman (or women)!”
The average guy’s attitude is, “she remains mine until I say otherwise!”
It really doesn’t matter whether you love her or even want her anymore.
It’s as natural a male response as it is unreasonable and selfish.
I can’t remember how many times I worked hard to hang on to previous wives or girlfriends, persuading them to stick with me rather than striking out on their own or becoming involved with other men, probably better men than me, who would likely love them and care for them better than I ever did.
Often, after winning their continued loyalty I would kick myself for being so stupid. Why in the world had I just squelched a golden opportunity to be rid of a woman I had grown sick and tired of having around me all the time?
Why had I defused her opportunity to find happiness with someone else?
No good reason other than male pride, territoriality, possessiveness and remorseless selfishness.
It’s a terrible trait that I will probably retain until I die.
P.S. I’m not looking to unload any current women. I was just thinking about prior mistakes.
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I haven’t had to face that prospect (yet).
I behave in the same absurdly possessive way even when losing a wife or a girlfriend would simplify my life and make it less crowded.
Maybe I’m odd. Maybe most men don’t behave as I believe they do.
I know I’m not unique in this behavior. Several of my friends confessed to the same selfish behavior.
But then, maybe I just run with a bad crowd.
I must admit, I expected a bunch of you to chime in with a hearty chorus of “me too!”
Life is too short to have people in your life that you do not want in it or who do not want to be in it.