How Much Have You Spent (Wasted)?
reverendhornibastard
Depraved Deacon of Degeneracy
I have been a serious and dedicated monger for almost half a century.
I’ve spent more money than I can (or want) to remember in dens of depravity on every continent except Antarctica. My spending patterns evolved over the decades, starting low in my early years but ramping up as my career and disposable income increased.
Why did I waste my money this way? It’s not easy to explain. I had more than enough luck with women in my life, so “paying to play” was not really essential. But “disposable women” (use ‘em once and throw ‘em away) seemed so much easier, cheaper and safer than the alternatives. Plus, it was usually plenty of fun.
But not everyone who can afford to spend big bucks on an endless series of nude therapeutic personal encounters with desploogination service professionals wastes as much money as I did.
I honestly never kept an account of what I spent chasing my dirty desploogination dreams through the seamy undersides of world cities. But having given this some serious thought, I conservatively estimate that my expenditures in this area easily total well in excess of $150,000 and could very plausibly exceed a quarter of a million dollars. Using inflation-adjusted dollars I’m sure my total now exceeds a quarter of a million.
I will let you decide for yourself whether I am bragging or confessing to a horrendous character flaw. But just to put things in perspective, I often sneer derisively and look down my ample nose at men in pickup trucks who appear to have spent more money on their oversized tires than they spent on their education.
But at least they have some oversized truck tires to show for their extravagance. All I have are lurid memories that I will never be able to share in polite company.
While I hope that my son can someday afford extravagant bad habits as well as I can, I sincerely hope that he is far more intelligent than I ever was.
I’ve spent more money than I can (or want) to remember in dens of depravity on every continent except Antarctica. My spending patterns evolved over the decades, starting low in my early years but ramping up as my career and disposable income increased.
Why did I waste my money this way? It’s not easy to explain. I had more than enough luck with women in my life, so “paying to play” was not really essential. But “disposable women” (use ‘em once and throw ‘em away) seemed so much easier, cheaper and safer than the alternatives. Plus, it was usually plenty of fun.
But not everyone who can afford to spend big bucks on an endless series of nude therapeutic personal encounters with desploogination service professionals wastes as much money as I did.
I honestly never kept an account of what I spent chasing my dirty desploogination dreams through the seamy undersides of world cities. But having given this some serious thought, I conservatively estimate that my expenditures in this area easily total well in excess of $150,000 and could very plausibly exceed a quarter of a million dollars. Using inflation-adjusted dollars I’m sure my total now exceeds a quarter of a million.
I will let you decide for yourself whether I am bragging or confessing to a horrendous character flaw. But just to put things in perspective, I often sneer derisively and look down my ample nose at men in pickup trucks who appear to have spent more money on their oversized tires than they spent on their education.
But at least they have some oversized truck tires to show for their extravagance. All I have are lurid memories that I will never be able to share in polite company.
While I hope that my son can someday afford extravagant bad habits as well as I can, I sincerely hope that he is far more intelligent than I ever was.
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Yes...I acknowledge that you didn't go every week for 50 years, but it doesn't seem like an unreasonable amount to do what you enjoy.
Sure, you could have invested that amount over a period of time and ended up with significantly more than that, but what good is money, if it just sits in an investment/bank account?
Some people spend on items, while others spend on experiences. if you didn't spend $250k on your sexual escapades, you likely would have spent it on something else, so the money would have been gone anyway.
Thinking about what I could have alternatively done with my clubbing funds usually sends me into a tailspin of regret, but not enough so to stop me from continuing to engage in the activity.
I guess it only seems “wasteful” to outsiders who don’t understand the fun and thrill of it.
My spending hasn’t been consistent though. Over the years I had $5000 splurge months followed by no clubbing for a period of time
Probably watching tv, smoking pot, playing on their phone, reading, taking vacations, etc.
Those same 99.9% have likely saved some of their time (and money) investing in good positive relationships w/family and friends, too. They have also needed a break from their positive relationships to spend it on their vices so they can come back feeling refreshed to re-engage. Clubbing is just taking a break, and as expensive as it can be it can also be well spent time and money to rejuvenate yourself to come back to your productive ways.
Anyway, we justify our lives no matter what we do, if it was knitting or arts and crafts, maybe golf. None of what most people do matter other than to occupy their time. Life in many ways is all about choice and the options you get to pick from. Enjoy any option you take.
I've spent a fair amount on vacations too. You don't hear that, money spent on vacations being a "waste". But it's the same essentially, spending on a simple experience, rather than on real estate or a durable good. I'd rather spend five grand on lap dances than on a vacation. I think the difference is the attitude that there's something greasy with any sort of sex that isn't Ward doing June through the slit in his pajamas. And, of course, that shame that the women we want to be with don't actually want to be with us.
it's pointless to think about all this as what's done is done. thinking too deeply on this subject can lead something drastic like bashing your head repeatedly against a massive steel door. if the spending wound up leading to many happy outcomes then the money imho was more than well spent. and the stories that you can tell for days to those who wished to be entertained by such is fucking priceless.
“ I spent half my money on gambling, alcohol and wild women. The other half I wasted.”
That doesn't mean I regret it (mostly...), but I'd still rather not think about it.
And 150k is mild. Buy a boat, and you’re going to pay 50, 80, 100k and then sink 20% in every year after. You’ll get to 150 quick. And the boat will not suck you off. Build a vacation house? Shit you can’t get a shack for 150k, and there are no delectable titties on a house.
Tits and ass on hot young sluts is the best goddamned thing in the universe, and 150k over a lifetime is a bargain.
On average, over the past few years (or even past 5-10 years for those in the game long enough), how much do you spend on this hobby per year*
I'm impressed that he covered 6 continents. I'm "only" at 5 but will get Down Under at some point. In fact that sounds like another goal to add to the list. I've spent twice the amount he has in half the time, and like several others have no regrets. Not only the women and the physical aspect, but the social aspect, the travel, the new cities and cultures and languages, and the occasional company of like-minded fellow punters, have enriched my life.
I will note this: I just turned 49 and I feel like I'm entering my prime mongering years, given I've finally got the funds to sustain this habit. What's really baking my noodle with this thread is: what am I going to spend between now and when I finally retire from the hobby?
I could cut my losses right now, and just give it up. And like you RHB, I could probably save hundreds of thousands, or even upwards of a quarter mil. I could retire earlier, or maybe even afford a luxury like a boat if I were to quit mongering.
But why would I do that? I'd definitely rather have a lifetime of memories (and an inexhaustible spank bank - that's part of the value prop of desploogination too). This shit is just too much fun, and I don't think this money is wasted at all.
I covered 6 continents because my career caused me to live in 5 countries on 3 continents and to travel very frequently damn near everywhere else. Since I mostly traveled alone, there were LOTS of opportunities to go out and find trouble.
I will admit that I’m slowing down now. Some people say it’s because with age comes wisdom.
The truth is so much simpler.
I get tired more easily than I used to.
Rather than estimate a number I think the best expression for contextual understanding is the always useful phrase “Enough to buy a small country”.
Still going and spending at an exponentially increasing rate. Time is fleeting.