I was reminded of this subject last night while watching a re-run of a "Man Show" episode that included the "museum of annoying men." One of the dudes was of the species "Hardonus Vicarious," or the man who stares at your lap dance instead of paying for his own.
I know that one of the things I love about the "dollar dance" phenomenon is being thrust into the "testosterone soup" of a buncho guys all getting lappers at once. Another thing I love to do in the more "open" lapper rooms, is have one girl going at it for me, while I get to look at another girl across the aisle on the opposite couch going at it for some other dude. I can't really imagine that he'd give a shit, if he's in the VIP right opposite me where my own boner is as obvious to him as his would be to me.
But what about the dude who isn't engaged in his own private experience, but instead can only vicariously enjoy YOURS? Does that bother you, maybe you find him creepy, or do you not care?
I agree Shadowcat that it is very annoying when they sit back there bs-ing while I'm trying to get a high mileage dance. You're definitely correct that most dancers there tone it down when they aren't comfortable with the crowd in the couch room. I've had verying experiences on that front though. The extremes: One dancer was up the shorts leg after promising me a good time (we were alone) and was about to deliver when another dancer and customer rounded the corner. She immediately stopped, got dressed, and told me that the dance was on her but that nobody could see her do that. Others have played with willy out in the wide open for all to see without too much worry. Depends on the dancer.