Why can't I get that Girl's Attention?

I have no idea. All the dancers flock to me when I go. Thus, haven’t had your problem to be able to decipher.

I've noticed a black chick like that at my favorite club. I have no interest in her but was curious about how she makes any money. So I asked a dancer friend of hers how she makes any money. I was told that the other dancer waits for only black customers to approach her and if they have enough money she takes them to VIP and fucks them bare back. Good thing she doesn't interest me.

@Book Guy

No, women are emotional creatures and their emotions can change rapidly. I've had girls that know and previously had a great time with me act the same. Similar to investments...”Information on past performance, where given, is not necessarily a guide to future performance.”

May I suggest picking another girl that shows interest in you and earning her money. Otherwise, if you really like her, are interested in her and are a glutton for punishment then try helping her turn her frown upside down.

@shadowcat

Damn...scary...yet somehow unsurprising ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Strippers that have been stripping for a long time understand that its a game of leverage. strippers new to the game will work the room, vets will sit back and wait for you to make the 1st move. I noticed this because i own multiple properties and sometime out of the blue people that are interested in buying, i will give them an asking price thats way to high. this only happens when i am not interested in selling. if the client bites on an outrages offer i sell if not i hold.

I generally only go in the afternoon so this might not apply at night when things are more hectic. I try to dress neatly, come freshly showered. I tip the girl I am interested in at the stage. They almost always seek me out after they come off stage to spend some time with me ask me for a dance. The trouble I have is turning away the ones I am not interested in without hurting feelings. Act like a gentleman not a jerk and you will be rewarded. That being said, maybe the one sitting by herself and ignoring everyone has some personal issues she is dealing with and wants to be alone. Let her be,,there are a lot more out there that would welcome your attention if you handle yourself well.

What is the point of complaining about not making money when I have a perfectly good cell phone to entertain myself? ;)

Do like Juice and tape a $20 to your forehead - bingo - you're in easy-town

Uninterested dancers are a common part of the biz - seems more common in certain clubs - as custies most of us don't know what may be going on behind the dressing-room doors and why dancers act the way they act - one general observation I've noticed is that clubs that don't treat their dancers right/fairly it seems there are more sour/uninterested/moody dancers and it feels like they hate being there - but, there are probably a multitude of reasons as to why the dancers act as they do - in the end, you only have control of you, not the dancers nor the club - I prefer for the dancers to be the initiators and many custies probably feel the same way; but IME when I've been proactive about my visit I've often ended up having a better time than leaving it to the dancers or club - my level of proactive-ness depends if I'm there just killing time that day out of boredom (thus I won't put too-much effort); or if I'm really hard-up for a good-time (where I'll be more proactive about getting w/ a dancer(s) I'm interested in) - in the end no use complaining; either accept for what it is or take action.

It's probably because she doesn't need YOUR money; she's probably doing perfectly fine.

Stop being a pansy and approach her in some way at least. I was waiting for a girl to approach me and she just never did. I think I even tipped her (probably $10) when she was on stage. Then one slow day when we were both sitting alone in our respective corners playing on our phones a waitress asked me if I wanted anything. Looking up at my full beer and seeing the hottie without one I said I'm good, but she can have whatever she wants on me. I went back to my phone and ignoring everyone. I honestly didn't care if she came over or not. Been fucking her for almost 7 months now. Later she told me she avoided me because she thought I was hot. I used to tip her $100 and get 1 or 2 vips when I saw her. Might bang her that night, but would usually meet up otc in another day or 2. Never charged for sex

She may not be interested in you. Or she may be burnt out and looking for a few minutes of peace. Or she may be waiting for a regular. Or she may be texting with a family member. Or she may be waiting for food. Or she may be drunk/stoned. Or all the customers in the club may be known regulars who have a rep for not parting with money easily. Or she may be shy and only approach guys of certain types. Or...

The possibilities are endless, so speculating is pointless. But if for some reason you think that you are part of the problem, then all you can do is your best to fix what you can control. .

If it is been few hours since the club opened they might have tired of giving dances. You can always go and ask for dances that's what I do. Sometimes they think they cant get any dances from you because you may look young or you dont look to be spending. That's what many dancers think about me once they know that I spent lot of time in the couch room many dancers will follow me.Money talks.

@Book Guy

I will play along and answer your questions:

1. Why can't I get the attention of one of the hotter girls, sitting over there on the side, looking like she isn't interested in working?

Looks aren’t everything, she may look to you like she isn’t interested in working, the reality can be completely different.

Why can’t you get the attention of the one hotter girl? Again who knows even more difficult to find out in the bizarre world of strip clubs. You might want to follow this advice from wikiHow to get the attention of the hotter girl you have a crush on:

“Having a crush can be hard, especially when you feel like they don’t even know you exist! While there’s no secret formula to getting your crush’s attention, there are certain things that you can do to make sure you get on his or her radar. First and foremost you should put your best possible self out there. That means looking your best, being an active and positive person, and projecting confidence. Eventually, try to put yourself in situations where you can talk to your crush so that he or she can find out just how unique and likeable you are!”

1. And that if only I'd get out of their line of sight, they'd be JUMPING to meet greet and serve that next customer who walks in the door. Right?

Wrong, again who knows why things happen one way and no other. Life is a mystery.

1. Reasonable theory?

Not a reasonable theory. You are overthinking and not acting, asking, doing something to “get the hotter girls attention”

Like many have recommended do something don’t be afraid of rejection. In the strip club you are the customer and the customer is always right as long as the costumer doesn’t behave like an a**hole.

What have worked for me is to go to the club dressed as a business professional gentleman visiting the town, think the millionaire from the movie Pretty Woman.

Always remember:

“People greet you according to the way you dress and say goodbay according to the way you behave"

I walk into the club relax with confidence, like it is my favorite place of doing business and I am happy to be there. I sit down away from the tipping rail, in a place where I can eventually see all the dancers go by and if I see a girl I like (Marilyn Monroe type) I observe her for a few minutes to see if I really like her and If a feel a good vibe I decided to try my luck.

If she doesn’t approach me or is sitting down using her phone or is with other girls of costumers, I just wait for an appropriate time to ask her if she is available for a “job interview”, for example,they usually are confused by the request and I say kiddingly, I am interested in hiring her for services (dance, vip), but I want to find out if she is the right woman for the job, her resume, experience qualifications references etc etc. Some will get the idea that I am just trying to be funny/friendly and if they don’t get the joke they are not for me, and find one that gets my sense of humor or at least is a great actress and make me believe that she is enjoying my interest/attention and attempt to have a relax happy fun experience.

Once I decide the girl is worth my money I tell her that she is hired, but there is a trial period, usually 90 days at a new job to decide if we are a good match, in this case will be one dance.

Anyhow I would try to move things to OTC as soon as possible telling her that that is a better business model for we both, because we eliminate the middleman (the club) and we both get more. I have been lucky a few times and gotten OTC the first time we meet, but most require multiple visits and building a relationship where we can trust each other to be a good match for doing mutual benefit friendly business.

Many situations in life are like gambling, betting, if you don’t participate you can’t win.

I like the advice in Kenny Rogers “The Gambler”

"If you're gonna play the game, boy You gotta learn to play it right You've got to know when to hold 'em Know when to fold 'em Know when to walk away And know when to run You never count your money When you're sittin' at the table There'll be time enough for countin' When the dealin's done.”

She's using reverse-psychology so you want her more and she can turn you into her (financial) bitch

Big, loud sneeze, that causes a bunch of money to fall out of shirt pocket.

Or ask for a dance.

Get a few $20s and start fanning yourself w/ them while you look at her and smile

No, women are emotional creatures

Umm and men aren't ?

Take a walk around the club - then as you're passing her stop and lean back as if you're stretching your back so she can see the tent your pitching - that will let her know of your interest

Or you could walk past her and let your roll of Benjamin’s fall out if your pocket just as you get to where she’s sitting and ask her to help you gather them off the floor, if that doesn’t work I’m out of ideas. ;)

Or you can stop worrying about the girls who DON'T want your money and focus on the girls who DO want it. Just a thought. ;)

This should work:

youtube.com

Worse comes to worse you can use the patented SJG guy technique of a rag and Chloroform

Interesting book guy I thought about this myself. I don’t really wait around but it’s almost they don’t want my money. But if I see a stripper I like that seems like better stuff to do, I’ll just say like I want to spend a fuck ton of money on you tonight. Even if it’s not true I just like to see what happens

Often times the very hottest girls have a few whales who keep them paid. Why try to be nice to 20 or more guys a day when you can just keep 1 or 2 guys happy?

TLDR

Maybe you just talk too fucking much.

I wont sit with anyone unless theyre an expected client coming to see me till Ive gone on stage for my first set of the night to get a feel for the crowd and who's interested... if you like me come say hi and sit with me a for a sec :) ... otherwise I dont know

It Seems Like Sometimes The Girls Are On Their Phones A Lot & The Internet Is A Social Barrier. Sometimes, The Girls Only Want Sugar Daddies, Or VIP So They Might Escape You. I Must Say, You Must Use Your Eagle Eyes 🦅 & Focus On A Stripper That You Like, Then Catch Her In A Opportunity To Spark The Conversation Instead Of Just Randomly Selecting A Dancer @ Anytime.