Anyone else get irritated by this
twentyfive
Living well and enjoying my retirement
I stopped in to a club a few days ago, and there was a door girl taking a dollar for entry on afternoon shift, I gave her the dollar, and as I turned to walk in she said why no tip for me, I looked at her like she was nuts which she probably was, and once inside I mentioned the exchange to the shift manager, he agreed with me and walked outside to talk to her.
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i guess its mildly annoying.....but it don't bother me that much
Of course you are under no obligation to tip the door girl, but I find that a little good will goes a long way if I ever need a favor. For example, in that same club, I sometimes like to go check out another club close by and return if the other club sucks. I can usually do that without being charged the door fee because I dropped a couple of bucks in her jar earlier during Happy Hour when a door fee was not being charged ("Hey I just had to duck out for a bit - just coming back").
I somehow suspect that the manager you complained to was not quite as sympathetic as he pretended to be and that the chat he had with the door girl didn't go the way you think it did. ;)
The only thing that really pisses me off is when the club itself is running some egregious ripoff, like short pouring already expensive alcohol or trying to charge me for tap water when I am already spending a fortune on Jack. But little shit, like a door girl wheedling for a tip, or a bathroom troll, or a girl who tries to run a pity hustle, or some girl with a snarky or self entitled attitude, or etc.,etc.,etc., is all just par for the course. If one is going to be irritated by this stuff then one will always be a singley moment away from having his good time ruined.
Anyway, just my two cents fwiw.
But hey you keep on keeping on those trailer park girls need to earn as well.
So, to make the story shorter, I don't know whether to consider this episode which you described as either patently annoying because of HER or because of YOU, since I don't know what the reasonable contextual expectations were.
I agree w/ the arguments made as to whether a doorgirl deserves a tip (or a bathroom attendant) - for one I'm not always clear on who actually makes a salary in a strip-club and who works just on tips - I assume the doorgirl makes at least minimum-wage but I'm not 100%-sure - there are clubs that don't even have a cover-charge on dayshift but still put a girl there just to smile and say hello when you walk in (and usually a tip-jar next to her).
I'm not a big-tipper but I've gotten better at it and I will usually tip those that kinda expect it such as the doorgirl and bathroom attendant - these days I think of it in terms of I kinda feel fortunate I'm not in that situation, i.e. I assume most of the club employees don't make much in terms of a salary although unbeknownst to me perhaps many make good $$$ via tips - e.g. places like Follies and Tootsies get a ton of customers and I often wonder how much those doorgirls pull down just standing there taking cover (and in the case of Follies not even taking a cover on dayshift) - so, I assume if it wasn't for tips they would make very little $$$ thus I usually tip a buck or two to the doorgirl, bathroom-attendant, and waitress - and over the last year or so I started tipping the doorguys at the black-dives I hit, these are small clubs and I figure these guys don't make much (usually tip them a $5, not a life-changing amount but if others helped out then he could make a little more at his job).
Since I expect to tip the doorgirl anyway I probably wouldn't get upset at her asking for a tip (and I figure she needs the $$$ more than I do) - but if she told me in a nasty or condescending way then yeah I'd probably pass - but I assume I'm in a better financial position than her thus I'd try to cut her some slack.
I met a doorman who freely provided a lot of advice about the club, dancers and even other clubs he works at. Dude saved me a lot of time and money by redirecting me to another club and helped me find exactly what I was looking for so I gave him a good tip.
Door girl just sitting there, barely doing her job, asking for a tip. ”Maybe later if you promise to be a good girl and behave.” or ”Only if you promise to work a 12-hour shift in my coal mine.” or something similar depending on the level of sarcasm required to playfully convey no because my counter demand(s) are so ridiculous.
Compliant? Depends...