Giving dancers advice?
NJBalla
New York
I have a few CF who I'd see more regularly if they'd change minor things. One gives the best BJ i've ever had, but her quote for FS is ridiculous. I used to visit her every 2 weeks, but now once a season because I get a better value elsewhere. My other CF gives the best GFE lapdance with HJ, but she her barside manner is terrible. She knows she provides the best LD in the bar and prefers to spend her time circling for dollar tips and giving newbies 1 song dances. Its sad because the lower tier girls are able to make more money on regulars who they treat like kings when they enter the bar. She even says she's jealous because she keeps losing customers.
That being said Ive never given advice to the both of them. When they ask why I dont visit as much I lie and say I've been busy. Have you ever been straightforward with a girl and had thier habits change?
That being said Ive never given advice to the both of them. When they ask why I dont visit as much I lie and say I've been busy. Have you ever been straightforward with a girl and had thier habits change?
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I take it your advice amounts to:
“lower your price and/or ignore other potential money making customers to given me a bunch of your time paid for in mostly drinks.”
If that is the case, then trust me that it’s not the first time she has heard advice like that before lol.
@iceloco before you put engage in white knight mode remember the girls im talking to always ask me why dont I come by more often. I tip very well and when I decrease my visits I usually get "come by soon" texts. Its very easy for dancers to take us customers for granted.
As a customer I take dancers for granted as well. I once had a girl who could make me LDK twice in a 5 song set. Good barside manner, and beautiful. As good as she was I got used to her being at the bar everytime I visited. About 2 years ago she suddenly stopped working at the bar. I doubt she retired and if i had the sense I have now I would have gotten her number and shot her a friendly text from time to time. My luck is she's been dancing at another bar 10 miles away while ive been struggling to find a girl who gives half the service.
And +1 muddy and JamesSD, good advice
For #2, just tell her you'd come by more often if she'd give you a bit more priority.
What is there to lose?
But #1 is simply a girl who wants more than you are willing to spend for one FS encounter. If it was me and she asked me point blank why I don't visit her more, I'd have no problem telling her that. That's not advice so much as an invitation to renegotiate. if she bites then great, but if not then so be it.
I also don't get the point of paying someone to jerk you off.
Shit, if I took the first answer as the final answer with every OTC partner I've had, then I'd have missed out on some of my best experiences. The most recent like this was a girl who quoted me $3,000 the first time I asked her. Just two weeks later, she sat with me and shared a sob story about her BF taking off and her circumstances changing. She might as well have sent up a flare letting me know that she was open to revisiting the OTC discussion and I walked through that door gladly.
There are no babes in the woods in this thing. I'm not a fan of applying too much pressure on a reluctant girl, but when things change I see no issue with reassessing her willingness.
@dude,good points. although to believe that she specializes in one thing is a bit of a stretch. Dancers dont have the best long term business sense. Its all about how much they can make to pay the next months rent or vacation.
@Icey , Women have been been getting paid to jerk men off for centuries. Its called marriage.
If New Jersey wasn't currently experiencing an exodus of high earners to places like FL and TX, NJBalla might not have even rated the upgrade to BJ. My guess is that she'll continue to adjust as new economic realities continue to settle into the NJ club scene, but alternatively she could just say fuck it and hold her ground, or she could retire, or move her game into NYC...or. But I don't blame Mr. Balla for trying.