BBBJ and BBFS in the clubs?
Electronman
Too much of a good thing is never enough
Two questions:
1. Is BBBJ and bbfs becoming more common in the strip clubs?
2. If yes, why?
(Note-- this is not a question about the wisdom of BB services so lectures about the risks of BB services are off target)
Background: In my most recent escapades in strip clubs, probably half of the dancers have offered BBFS (or at least not insisted on a condom) and maybe 75% have offered BBBJs.
Is this unique to the area in which I club-- metro Detroit?
If this observation is correct, the next question is why are BBBJ and BBFS becoming more common?
Are dancers more likely to offer BB to older customers, perhaps under the assumption that older guys cannot be as "risky" as younger guys because they are less sexually active? Or because of the assumption that all men (especially older men) take longer to cum when using a condom.
Or is there another explanation?
1. Is BBBJ and bbfs becoming more common in the strip clubs?
2. If yes, why?
(Note-- this is not a question about the wisdom of BB services so lectures about the risks of BB services are off target)
Background: In my most recent escapades in strip clubs, probably half of the dancers have offered BBFS (or at least not insisted on a condom) and maybe 75% have offered BBBJs.
Is this unique to the area in which I club-- metro Detroit?
If this observation is correct, the next question is why are BBBJ and BBFS becoming more common?
Are dancers more likely to offer BB to older customers, perhaps under the assumption that older guys cannot be as "risky" as younger guys because they are less sexually active? Or because of the assumption that all men (especially older men) take longer to cum when using a condom.
Or is there another explanation?
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In spite of it's reputation, I know a lot of dancers that will not do more than HJs in VIP or will not even do VIP.
Regulars, regardless of age, are more likely to get bare back services.
Like Electronman I club in metro Detroit.
2. Today's millennials didn't experience the worst of the HIV epidemic so they msy not be as scared shitless
There is also the new med PrEP which is supposedly very effecti
BBBJ is a lot easier to find in my own experiences but to be fair I don't ask. I'm more an OTC person since I know there are cameras.
Detroit. Your stats are about the same as mine. About 75% are ok with BBBJ. I never ask for BBFS but have had it offered occasionally.
That aside every girl has limits. Some things are too intimate to do with tricks. That's how you distance yourself from them and don't think of it as sex or don;t do things you enjoy cos your goal is to not feel anything with a trick. Like its not "sex"
Both of us did leave that booth pretty happy though.
Age may be a factor. A stripper more than likely has less risk of pregnancy from giving bareback services to a man in his 60’s than she does from a man in his 30’s. I know I don’t want to have a stripper baby, so I would never do BBFS with a stripper.
Why can't "everything" be BBBJ + CFS - CFS does/should not negate BBBJ
As far as FS goes, my experience is that with Millennial girls born in the '90's the majority either prefer BB or will do it by default if I didn't bring a condom or ask for a condom. Girls being OK with or even asking for a creampie ending is also very common nowadays.
I think Papi is correct about Millennial ladies not experiencing the same AIDs crisis and the fact that new drugs are available.
Honestly, I had a little buzz going on, and for a minute or so, it didn't actually quite register in my brain what was happening. Once I came to my senses (which was, luckily, before I came to my senses, so to speak) I was quite honestly shook, and ended the dances abruptly. I had planned on a VIP trip that day, and I would have liked VIP to with that dancer, in fact, but the whole experience threw the rest of my visit off.
Again, I just wanted to add my 2 cents to this discussion. I want to reiterate that the whole experience was the dancer's prerogative; I'm not going to say I was 'raped', but that was definitely not something I was seeking.
Quite frankly, I was pretty freaked out by the whole incident for a few weeks, but luckily everything tested out OK.
My point being, is that it does seem to be a more common thing with the generations younger than mine. Like many have mentioned, these kids never lived through the AIDS crisis and all of that, so it doesn't seem to bother them too much, possibly outside of the risk of getting pregnant.
I agree that the younger generation is less inclined to use condoms. I also think that most white heterosexuals are not afraid of AIDS anymore for multiple reasons. When you hear about it over and over but are never really confronted by it in your daily life, the risk becomes abstract after a while. The overwhelming majority of AIDS transmissions are still from homosexual sex and IV drug use. Heterosexuals have very little realistic risk of contracting it through vaginal sex, unless of course a woman is unfortunate enough to be fucking a guy who also fucks other guys. Add to this that most other STIs are easily curable and I think that a lot of people are just not scared enough to bother wearing a rubber anymore.
I had a dancer years ago - in VIP - she was on top - she pulled her g string aside - and was ready to put it in - and I stopped her. Unless it’s wrapped up - I’m not going to fuck her.
BBBJ - I’m ok with.
From the CDC, heterosexual transmission rates of HIV is on the order of 5 in 10,000 per encounter. That's if you know for sure your partner is HIV+. Maybe 0.2% of women in US of all races are HIV+. If both of you and your partner test negative for HIV, the risk is in the noise level and I refuse to worry about it.
Gonorrhea @ chlamydia can be treated with antibiotics.
Situation is more complicated with HPV, HSV1, HSV2, which have no cure. Condoms are not all that effective for all three. Changing the subject to oral sex, men are at some (small) risk of getting HPV throat cancer from DATY. It's the leading cause of throat cancer now, and I do know someone who survived, but went through absolute hell with chemotherapy and radiation treatments.
I tested negative to HSV2 and I've never been tested for HSV1. There's murky, but growing, evidence that HSV1 is linked to alzheimers. It may turn out to be nothing. Most men 50+ (80% to 90%) are carrying HSV1 from non-sexual contact in childhood. So the issue is that you can transmit HSV1 mouth-to-genitals during DATY to your college-age partner. There's the social stigma of herpes at the very least and one more thing to worry about.
I think people get hysterical over the risk of sex. There's a 1 in 80 chance of dying in a car accident sometime in your life. There's a risk of eating cheeseburgers or processed foods. Road cycling leads to to 20,000 deaths per year and I do it anyway. Key is to minimize the risk in an intelligent way and enjoy life. For me that means picking sane partners, one at time, and getting tested regularly.
A few ladies I know well have offered to go bareback if we both agree to testing on a regular basis and agree to be very limited and selective in our other partners. I am already limited and selective and get tested regularly but still decline and insist on protection. I also assume she is making the same offer to others and usually end our meet ups. I don't want a disease even one that is easily cured. I don't want a child.
I will say that most Russians and Cubans do require a cover for a bj. I think the dancers that are more money hungry/career oriented are the ones that are going to use covers. The ones that are also trying to have fun are the ones that don't.
Seems to me BBBJs may be common in just certain high-extras markets, kinda the exception to the norm, but it's an assumption on my part.
IME, the high volume girls in clubs where sex is offered on the cheap are the ones most likely to be strict about condom use. Makes sense given the constant exposure they have to different guys.