How to find a dancer who is down for meeting OTC
johnsnow123
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I am considering dumping my CF b/c OTC never happens. I want to find a new favorite but I don't not want to waste too much time/money on something that won't pan out. Does anyone have any tips on how to vet out those who are not down for OTC or to get there quickly with a new favorite?
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Is that what the string is for? Blood samples.
This is *after* we’ve done some sex stuff in the club. Depending on the girl, I might ask after the first time, or wait for a few times later. I think my average is somewhere around two.
If it’s someone I like, I likely won’t *ever* “cut them loose”. An OTC request isn’t an ultimatum, it’s a request. I might spend less money on her in the club, but if I’ve asked for OTC in the first place, it’s because I like her, and I think it’ll be fun, not just because I need to rack up another OTC “conquest”. I don’t ask every girl who’s fucked me or sucked me to do OTC, just the ones I get on with best.
Others you'll have to ask or have spent some time with in the club. Beyond spending on them so they know you have money to spend, spending/visiting with them in the club on a few occasions so you guys can build that rapport with one another.
Also, seems PLs that are regulars and kinda stick to just one dancer and spend their SC-funds just on that dancer, probably have a better chance than the PL that gets with multiple-dancers and only spends part of his funds on anyone dancer - IMO.
"i usually strike on the "clean" girls that would get offended if you'd asked." the technique may not work but I doubt any woman working more than a week is offended when asked.
Turning the session into a date helps with clean girls. Dinner and perhaps a show let's them think it is something it isn't. After the first such date they don't need the pretense any more.
"Do you guys consider dancers with boyfriends to be very difficult to get OTC with?"
BF's add some complexity to the issue. Do you want an angry BF interrupting your time? You become more likely to get caught because you need to worry about your friends and family, hers and now his when out in public. People often say anything in a fight to hurt the other. He pisses her off and she may just tell him she's been fucking you.
With the warning out of the way , the answer to your question is no.
Most dancers are good at compartmentalizing. They need to be to survive the job. In my experience all it takes is to offer them a better night out that the BF would.
It has exactly been that way for me. I don't know why, but this claim generated howls of derision when I ultimately made it, at least from the trollier corners of tuscl (the guys who actually do OTC and have firsthand experience tended to agree with me, at least). I've had girls give me the "I'll think about it", and then change their mind over time. I think the girls know that once the topic of OTC is broached, that's an inflection point in that PL's spending -- if she says yes, some of her ITC money will switch to OTC but her overall revenue from him may actually increase; if she says no, if it's a seasoned PL rather than a RIL, he'll be moving on and her revenue from him will drop to nothing. In addition, spending a lot of time together can build higher levels of trust, in newer girls who are nervous. It is not black-and-white, where every girl either never does OTC, or does OTC with everyone who asks. Plenty of low-volume girls out there.
Agree with 25 that it's probably faux outrage here. I do most of my clubbing in no-extras clubs, so ALL my OTCs are with no-extras girls. No one has ever taken offense, at least that I know of, but I do typically visit her a few times before I ask (if I see her 3 times, with my typical 4 hour visit, we've spent 12 hours together when I ask).
Allow me to add this, I lean towards the no extras types, and have found that those girls are generally, less flakey, more likelyto go out with you if you show them that you appreciate nicer more upscale things, and of course it helps to be known in the club that they work in.
If you are new to the club - they might be hesitant because they might fear you are LE. So, it’s probably best to go to the club a few times before bringing up otc.