Dumb Question: How does one LDK?

No dick out is not required for LDKs. And if you don't get fully erect while wearing pants then LDK is going to be impossible. I think some guys get and stay erect much easier than others. I know personally I could never wear a condom as I am not erect enough until the dance starts.

I think a lot of guys who can LDK easily:

• get into the fantasy in a different way
• did something similar to a LD with GFs as teenagers
• masturbated in a grinding fashion as kiddos

very good question sir, i mastered the LDK by not jerking off and viewing porn. the only time i ejaculate is in the presence of a women. i also ejaculate prematurelury. if theres a girl im having sex with for the 1st time i usually blow my load before penetration, so what i do is blow my load in her face and try to get it in her eyes. they usually giggle or call me an ass for getting it on their face. then i wait for round two to have sexual intercourse.

^ so Round 1 is appetizer, Round 2 main course. Is there room for desert?

@PaulDrake - good points.

I have ITC sex paranoia. Hard to explain to eager cuban dancers so "sexo hotel o mi casa" lets me know if dancer is cool with OTC.

I just grind the shit out of them

And pop it goes

^^ thank you for the info and your name says it all ! ... curious what's the most lap dances you have had in a single visit (full length songs)

sorry Trish above comment was for SirLap

2 rounds thats it for me. i dont really have that much stamina, i would like too but i cant control the nut. im pretty average too, but once i get it, i get it again. i think confort is a key. i onced shaved a girls assholes hairs after meeting her.

i would recommend no jerking off or porn for a month. go to the club, and i think youll pop that ldk cherry.

Damn Trish you are hot (if thats you in the avatar). A club blessed with a playgirl like you - I'd say is a lucky club.

Do you get customers who request you to slow down - so they can extend the pleasure?

@Salty.Nutz - "i would recommend no jerking off or porn for a month. go to the club, and i think youll pop that ldk cherry."

If it's not DO - unlikely.

For a period of a couple years I had the problem of how NOT to LDK! Seemed like just about any kind of grind in a lap dance resulted in a quick LDK. Last few years I’ve gotten that under control and can control if I have a LDK to when I really want one and can deal with the mess. My problem with my CF is that I’d like to LDK with her but I’m DO for most of the dance and really don’t want to deal with that mess!

@Salty.Nutz - I am doing pretty much the same thing regarding porn. I pretty much stopped looking at it. I can afford to go to the SC 1-2 times a week and enjoy that a lot more. After 8 months of that it has actually gotten harder to orgasm from masturbation which is pretty weird.

@PD, i stopped looking a porn because i started viewing real hard core shit like facial abuse and noticed i wanted to try some of the shit. if you guys like porn bloopers check out efukt...its hillarious

I definitely do not strive to make a customer LDK. Trust me, I want to keep a man in VIP for as long as possible, by giving sensual dances and even being charming and even a bit whimsical if we are back there for I while and I want to keep it interesting. But I can't help it that some guys LDK very easily.

@pauldrake - I used to grind myself in my teenage years, but it usually takes me 3-4 songs to LDK. That too with her having to kiss me, rub her boobies in my face and dirty talk with me.

To each his own, but it helps to have a nearly naked women grinding on you to give you that combo visual and touch, even without penetration. Many times just grabbing their toned athletic arms and tight ass grinding is enough to stimulate the mind into thinking sex is happening. I’ve been inside enough pussy in my life I don’t need reminding how it feels, edkevislku when I get it st home anytime I want it.

Read my system for getting yourself off in a strip clubs with a vibrator and remote control. The system is perfect for a guy in your situation.

You’re welcome.

The same way you get off having sex with your hand, lol.

It's not rocket science. When your hand is stroking your cock I doubt you're thinking about how much you want your hand. You would probably go soft or never even get hard.

If she's doing it right she's probably in a position very close to sex, just imagine you're inside her.

Pro tip, the less layers (and thinner) between you and her the better off you'll be. Lose the boxers at least.

"i definitely do not strive to make a customer LDK."

the majority of the dancers are this way, they will try to milk you. Thats why i either buy 1 ($20) dance or LDK (3 songs 60 + 40 tip). im completely opposite from sirdancealot, it's the dancers job to get me to nut. for instance if i only buy 1 dance because a dancer is not LDK friendly, that means i tried something but she moved because she didnt like the path we were going. its similar to how you lead will dancing country music, if you feel me. However, shes going to see my bank roll which is 1 to 2 Gs deep. on my next visit i will still buy a dance from her, and this time she'll get me over the edge.

i give them 3 strikes (=$60), otherwise, i cross them off for good.

I just pay my CF a minimum number of songs that is higher than what I need.

That also works as I consider the extra a tip.

Paying for ejaculation services is just using your money to exacerbate your own sexual frustration.

SJG

10 Warning Body Signs You Shouldn't Ignore youtube.com

I assume LDKers are born not made - one is either an LDKer or not - I don't think one can learn how to LDK - you can probably perfect the craft but you have to be an LDKer to begin with - IMO

^^^i hear what youre saying. We are like squirters if we were women

Friction+Gym shorts-briefs=ldk

Friction plus full erection plus a beautiful bitch plus finger up your ass plus her sucking your breast equals busting off like a rocket in ones own pants

I guess I agree with Papi Chulo: you simply can or can't. Not sure if it's something you learn or can change. If the girl grinding you feels good enough for both your body and mind then it happens. I reckon for people who can't LDK, just the act of a girl grinding on them isn't enough of a turn on. It may feel somewhat good, but not good enough. Like feeling on boobs feels great, but just that act alone isn't enough to get someone off. I'm thinking it's the same thing with dances.

I remember when I first started going to strip clubs. When getting a good series of dances I'd continually ask her to stop so I wouldn't cum. Then one time I just said fuck it and let it go. After that, never looked back. Why go home with blue balls, might as well release and be satisfied.

^^^ I crossed the point of no return when I said “fuck it”, too, and many years ago It opened a whole new reality to me.

Non LDKers also get really turned-on - I don't think it's a matter of turn-on level

I'm also a quick fuck in actually sex....second round I can do a girl right

Because of this I eat pussy like a champion to make up for the issue

Usually first round is mutual oral sex then round two is vaginal delivery

I kinda think this is the key component to the LDK DNA but some deny this....deep down I think their lies

LDK guy's are quick in the sack period

Interesting experiences fellas.

@mal_hodgson bypassed LDK altogther.

@SirLap @PaulDrake @Salty - great stories.

@Nina - ha ha smart dancer. "But I can't help it that some guys LDK very easily." - in actuality you too hot - guy not be blamed.

@js69 - have to search for your system.

@SJG - r u building a computer?

@Papi - no shit. if my dick can't breath ain't gonna bust a nut

@LDK82 - the king hath spoken

@rane1234 - "Friction+Gym shorts-briefs=ldk" Juice wants to add fingerfuck+breastsuck - damn that'll make it too complicated.

@TFP @Meat72 @houjack @crazy - thanks for your comments.

So in summary DO is not necessary to LDK - just the intent, desire, training and good genes.

@papi - I think you are right that some guys can LDK easily and some can't. However I think pretty much any guy could under extreme circumstances. At one point decades ago I totally stopped masturbating and went like 6 months without orgasm. The first time after that was really easy. I think almost any guy could LDK after a long orgasm free spell like that.

When I first started going to strip clubs and it was new and exciting, I have to admit it had happened to me a couple times in bed dances where the stripper was grinding on me and rubbing OTP with her hands as she kissed my neck.

now,. 10+ years later of going to strip clubs, no way its going to happen while I have my pants on. Ive gotten so many dances before in a night that my crotch felt like the girl was still sitting on it the next morning from being ground on by girls throughout the night.

I remember one dancer telling me I should wear sweat pants to the club one night, I just looked at her and said maybe next time. Never had a dancer say that to me before, I still enjoy getting lap dances but making a mess in my pants seems to be out of my wheelhouse now.

^^^ No way was that stripperweb girl who advised you to wear sweatpants. Those girls look down on any guy seeking enjoyment out of a dance.

^^^ Maybe if the Guy was gay, he wouldn’t want to.

^^^ Well that’s because you’re not gay, you’re a heterosexual male.