Regulars
InTheCut
Florida
There seems to be a fair amount of discussion/complaints about the dancers who spend time with regulars. Some of you have voiced frustration that you would like to get a dance from a girl who appears to be attached at the hip to some guy, usually at the bar, but didn’t because she didn’t leave the guy and start working the room.
There have been times in a strip club where a girl was sitting with a guy, particularly at the bar, when I was standing there waiting for my drink that she would make eye contact or otherwise transmit her willingness to communicate and I would just say something pleasant to her or compliment her somehow, you know, the way women like for a man to talk to them, and she would respond appropriately. I’d ask is she was available and if she was she would get up and come spend time with me. If not, she would tell me she was preoccupied at the moment but would be over as soon as she could.
There have been other times in a strip club when I was at the bar and the guy-with-the-girl and I would exchange pleasantries and I would mention his excellent taste in the selection of his present company, you know, the way guys talk shit to each other, that way you compliment both of them simultaneously, and I would politely inquire to both of them as to her availability. If she was available the guy would just say so. Otherwise he would just tell me that she’s on his dime at the moment. Or she would respond before he could say anything and get off her ass and get to making this money.
These guys know why these girls are there and if some dude is getting in the way of her making money then she needs a new dude. Most guys who “date” strippers (is it possible to actually date a stripper?) know what the deal is and what they’re getting into.
So that’s my experience with “regulars.” I’ve never had a moment that even came close to a confrontation. Good luck. Have fun. Don’t worry about it.
There have been times in a strip club where a girl was sitting with a guy, particularly at the bar, when I was standing there waiting for my drink that she would make eye contact or otherwise transmit her willingness to communicate and I would just say something pleasant to her or compliment her somehow, you know, the way women like for a man to talk to them, and she would respond appropriately. I’d ask is she was available and if she was she would get up and come spend time with me. If not, she would tell me she was preoccupied at the moment but would be over as soon as she could.
There have been other times in a strip club when I was at the bar and the guy-with-the-girl and I would exchange pleasantries and I would mention his excellent taste in the selection of his present company, you know, the way guys talk shit to each other, that way you compliment both of them simultaneously, and I would politely inquire to both of them as to her availability. If she was available the guy would just say so. Otherwise he would just tell me that she’s on his dime at the moment. Or she would respond before he could say anything and get off her ass and get to making this money.
These guys know why these girls are there and if some dude is getting in the way of her making money then she needs a new dude. Most guys who “date” strippers (is it possible to actually date a stripper?) know what the deal is and what they’re getting into.
So that’s my experience with “regulars.” I’ve never had a moment that even came close to a confrontation. Good luck. Have fun. Don’t worry about it.
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As far as the statement:
"if some dude is getting in the way of her making money then she needs a new dude"
It really isn't your place to dictate how a dancer spends her time.
Regulars usually frustrate me when I'm out of town (seldom) in some new strip club and only can make that one visit. Otherwise, it is what it is. I'm usually saving money when I'm local and most dancers arent working the floor or tied up with a regular or friend.
I must be an exception - as I don’t care about strippers getting locked down. There is good variety in strippers - and if one is busy - I’m happy to try another. Variety makes it great!
You could eventually run into a problem with a patron who has an issue with the former
I would be annoyed if a PL asked me her availability in that scenario but I wouldn't get fired up about it. Doing that shit with a dancer I'm sitting at a table with may have a different outcome.
It's not just about being able to ask, but how, when, and who you can broach the subject to. Some guys may take heavy offense to it, some more so if you do it the wrong way, and some even more so if you do it at the wrong time. The advice is 'don't', unless you know what you're doing.
I'd never approach a regular with a dancer. Even if you're the most polite, non-threatening guy in the world, you'll eventually run into that one guy who loves confrontation and takes every possible chance to get in a fight.
Fast forward with the original girl who I now could label a CF - it amuses me when some guy cruises by table we're at and greets her with goal to pry her away cuz I know she won't be leaving and he'll be cooling his heels til I'm done which is probably closing time anyway. It's never been more than a 2 sentence greeting - if it persisted longer than that I'd tell him to shove off. Or on the other hand if she did depart she'd likely lose CF status and the coin that accompanies it.
The strip club is a gentlemen's refuge, perhaps one of the few remaining. Everybody is there to have fun. If you're disrespectful to a woman or a couple in a nightclub or a restaurant or some other square social setting then you probably deserve what's about to come your way. But in a strip club everything is fair game. Just be cool about it. Relax. That's why we're there in the first place. Have fun.
But I’d strongly recommend enjoying the variety in the club - and finding an unoccupied hottie.
I don't think you have to tell us that -- most of the people who responded here didn't seem very concerned if another customer approached their stripper; annoyed, maybe, but no big deal. But it might not be us who you have to worry about. Men are at their worst where sex, alcohol, and ego mix. Here's a true story I heard from a former ATF. She and another stripper went to Vegas with stripper #2's brother, to celebrate brother's birthday with him. They went to a strip club together, all as customers, so the girls basically just look like hot partygirl civilians. At one point brother is at stage tipping, and some other customers start buying the two girls drinks, and the girls join those guys at their table, they are drinking together and having fun. Eventually, brother wanders back, sees his sister and her friend at the other customers' table, wanders over to talk to them. One of the other customers is not happy -- without stopping to hear any explanation, he pops the brother, who ends up with a broken jaw. Just like that. Now, I heard all of this second-hand, so don't know details; I can guess that the brother thought he'd walk over, say his to his sister, explain that he was her brother not a competing customer, and that would be that -- instead, he got his jaw wired shut for a while, from a drunk guy who was not in a mindset to listen to any explanation as to why the brother approached that table and talked to "their" girls.
Anyway, as I said, if you read all the signs correctly, *and* you have the personality and charm to disarm even a hostile customer, perhaps you'll mostly get lucky and not run into a break-jaws-and-ask-questions-later type. Or maybe someday you will, I dunno. But for me, "Relax... have fun" means not doing anything that could fuck up my good time, and I think for most of us, focusing on a stripper who is with a customer rather than finding a different stripper, using a staff intermediary, or just catching her when she's on stage or otherwise disengaged from the customer, is just not the right play.
Anyway, I'm done, I'll have fun for all of us.
Whatever they do, they must have their reasons. Have to let them do it.
Farmerart wrote about an older dancer sitting at a table with some younger guys. This was a group of younger guys which she did not know. Unlikely they had any real interest in her. So he put a Hamilton into her cleavage. She jumped up, and things quickly escalated to the dance booth and DFKing, and then to the motel room and waking up together the next morning.
That way is fine, as she was not with anyone, and he wasn't really interfering. And he knew what he wanted to make happen.
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SJG