A couple weeks ago after dropping a stripper I regularly see off at home I went to my favorite tavern to cap the night off with a Budweiser and a shot of Jack. While I was enjoying my drink and basking in the post-experience glow two gentlemen in their mid to late 20s sat down beside me at the bar. They proceeded to make idle conversation. And though I don't particularly care for conversation with males in their 20s, I was in a good mood so I went ahead and indulged them. The conversation initially revolved around sports, but as we talked one of them seemed particularly interested in my personal life. The other didn't really seem to care and he disappeared from the bar as the conversation went in this direction. I didn't divulge too much information. I also didn't lead on that I was beginning to find the conversation strange. My impression of millennials is that they are a self-absorbed breed that not only has little respect for their elders, but also has little interest in their elder's personal lives. After he asked about my personal life and I discussed with him only as much as I felt comfortable discussing, his friend reappeared and they left rather quickly.
I do know that the girl I've been seeing has an ex. She doesn't speak highly of him. And her new roommates have had to tell him to stop coming by and looking for her. Perhaps I'm just being paranoid. But I find it unusual that I was approached by a nosy millennial at a grown-up bar immediately after I dropped the girl off. If it's more than just a coincidence then I do have to admit that I'm really not afraid of the guy in the least. I could kick the living shit out of this weasel. But the friend he was accompanied by is a different story. His demeanor wasn't particularly menacing, but he was big.
Am I just being paranoid? Or does anyone else have stories or experiences with weird stuff like this really happening? Anyone ever been followed by someone after dropping off their stripper?
The experience has left me with a strange taste in my mouth.
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Not a coincidence. Forget about it but don't drive her home. Sometimes our curiosity gets the best of us. Unless you're willing to take the risk, don't be that person. This is a hobby for us, but it's serious for some other people.
Agree with those that say don't drive her home again. The good thing is you went to this bar instead of straight home. Then they would know where you live.
I hope we are being paranoid about this, but keep in mind fights aren't about who can kick who's ass anymore. Good chance if someone that crazy knows they can't win a fight, they will be packing a firearm.
I’d take the recommendations above - and stop driving that stripper home. It seems like too much of a coincidence, to just brush off.
There are some very creepy guys who follow strippers home - and you don’t want to become their target. They are probably more interested in the dancer than you, so by not driving her home, you will hopefully end their interest.
All good input from all, but consider the next step.... Tell the girl about the experience - shade it however you like. She can tell you if the guy sounds “familiar”. It’s not good if it was her ex, but you need to know if he has your car pegged, in which case you may want to use a different one when you visit with her. Getting “keyed” or otherwise vandalized sucks. May also help her decide if she needs to consider a restraining order....
But first and foremost, no more car rides til you sort this out.
I have had strippers' boyfriends and stalkers threaten to beat me up and kill me. It comes with the territory if you go out with strippers. Threats have never stopped me from giving strippers rides or fucking them. Threats do make me careful to carry my Glock with me.
I once had a one night layover in Chicago and stayed in a seedy motel fairly close to O’Hare. I called an escort and when the phone was answered the woman took my request and answered, “I’ll be right over.”
She was a gorgeous tall blonde who said she had a latex allergy so no condoms allowed. We got right down to business and about 1/2 hour into our tryst there was a loud knocking on the room’s door. I favored ignoring it, but she went over and peaked out the window, tiptoed back to me and whispered, “Don’t worry. It’s just my husband. He’ll go away.” He did. She had to start all over again.
Seriously though, anon_question, I would say "it depends". Some people are just weirdos who ask weirdo questions. If you talk to the girl again you could ask what the jealous ex (or current boyfriend). She probably won't lie about an ex if he's irritating her, but even if she lies you can watch her reaction.
I had a buddy in college who was a bit nuts and had boundary issues. His name was Kelly and my girlfriend also had a weirdo (female) friend named Kelly. We thought weirdo dating weirdo might be brilliantly amusing so we tried to set them up. But my weirdo friend immediately started to inquire about her period and the evening went downhill from there! He even shared a BM story!
Maybe the guy you talked to was no boundaries Kelly!
I guess I'm the outlier in thinking it was just coincidence - IMO chances are it was totally unrelated else he probably would have confronted you about it vs just asking questions - as "4got" mentioned, there are all kinds of weirdos hanging-out in bars, or he may have just had socialization issues - personally I think you are being paranoid but anything is possible including a nuclear attack from North Korea.
Thank you realDougster - that aspect of the story is the part that is perfectly clear and requires no further analysis. There is no avocado toast served at this tavern. Young people do not go there to hookup. Young people don't really go there at all. The barmaid is old and haggard. You won't even find a craft beer selection. And rumor has it that it's just a mob front, which explains why they hardly bother to charge me for my drinks, but I still feel perfectly safe in the joint.
I don't know how much distance was involved in driving her then driving to the bar but i would have noticed if someone was following me. You need to be more aware of your surroundings. Having said that there was some good advice above and I LMAO at some of the other comments.
When it comes to this stuff, a little paranoia is healthy. I wouldn't get a new identity and move to outer Mongolia, but some heightened situational awareness would be smart.
Ask your dancer, "Hey, do you know a guy who looks like X?". See what sort of reaction you get.
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I’d pass on giving her rides for the time being, even pussy Millennials can be fearsome especially when they have reinforcements.
Notice the !!!... Shadowcat gets excited meeting other gay dudes. He can't contain himself while imagining the bigger dude looks like Ron Jeremy. If he Didn't have retrograde orgasms he would have creamed his shorts
I hope we are being paranoid about this, but keep in mind fights aren't about who can kick who's ass anymore. Good chance if someone that crazy knows they can't win a fight, they will be packing a firearm.
There are some very creepy guys who follow strippers home - and you don’t want to become their target. They are probably more interested in the dancer than you, so by not driving her home, you will hopefully end their interest.
Was it sperm?
But first and foremost, no more car rides til you sort this out.
She was a gorgeous tall blonde who said she had a latex allergy so no condoms allowed. We got right down to business and about 1/2 hour into our tryst there was a loud knocking on the room’s door. I favored ignoring it, but she went over and peaked out the window, tiptoed back to me and whispered, “Don’t worry. It’s just my husband. He’ll go away.” He did. She had to start all over again.
I had a buddy in college who was a bit nuts and had boundary issues. His name was Kelly and my girlfriend also had a weirdo (female) friend named Kelly. We thought weirdo dating weirdo might be brilliantly amusing so we tried to set them up. But my weirdo friend immediately started to inquire about her period and the evening went downhill from there! He even shared a BM story!
Maybe the guy you talked to was no boundaries Kelly!
- Please do tell me what distinguishes a "grown-up bar" from any other bar.
Just what he said - a local tavern where an older guy can go for a Budweiser and a shot of Jack, i.e. a real bar.
As opposed to some millennial hotspot that serves designer cocktails and fruity girlie drinks.
Thank you realDougster - that aspect of the story is the part that is perfectly clear and requires no further analysis. There is no avocado toast served at this tavern. Young people do not go there to hookup. Young people don't really go there at all. The barmaid is old and haggard. You won't even find a craft beer selection. And rumor has it that it's just a mob front, which explains why they hardly bother to charge me for my drinks, but I still feel perfectly safe in the joint.
Ask your dancer, "Hey, do you know a guy who looks like X?". See what sort of reaction you get.