My CF tried giving me money
orangepicture
Philly suburbs
Last Thursday, I told my CF to expect me to stop by again today between 5:00-5:15pm to get some dances. We've done this before. I get there right at 5:00pm and I immediately see my CF at the other end of the bar as the club was empty. I'm pretty confident she saw me too as I noticed her spin 180 degrees to walk around the bar in the direction I was headed. I make a quick pop into the bathroom and when I come out she is waiting for me. As we head back to the LD area, we both point out to the bar maid that I left my $5 entrance fee on the bar top. I hear a "No tip?" from the bar maid but made no thought toward it. Then I do (10) $30 dances with my CF and tip her an additional $20, for which she seemed grateful.
My CF puts my payment in her purse, then proceeds to push me up against the wall to discreetly give me (2) $5's back. I told her I didn't need change for my $20 tip. She then tells me that I should tip the bar maid with the money she is trying to give me on her behalf. I have never had to tip a bar maid before so I ask why (and no, she is not the house mom). Apparently, the bar maid now recognizes me as a regular to my CF and took it upon herself to point out to my CF that I arrived and as such, expected a tip from my dancer for giving her a heads up. I refused to take my CF's money, told her I have money of my own and would cover it. My CF said under no circumstance was I to imply to the bar maid that the tip was coming from her trying to tip the bar maid through me. I only tipped $5.
I'm kind of perplexed that the bar maid expected a pimping fee for hooking up a CF and PL regular who have a standing dance relationship, but it was nice that my CF was willing to cover the extra expense before I shot that option down. I hope this isn't a repeat occurrence though; something tells me that it will be and I'm not sure how to handle it. Maybe I need to get a fake mustache ala Bobby Valentine so I can find my CF in the club without tipping off the bar keeper that I arrived.
My CF puts my payment in her purse, then proceeds to push me up against the wall to discreetly give me (2) $5's back. I told her I didn't need change for my $20 tip. She then tells me that I should tip the bar maid with the money she is trying to give me on her behalf. I have never had to tip a bar maid before so I ask why (and no, she is not the house mom). Apparently, the bar maid now recognizes me as a regular to my CF and took it upon herself to point out to my CF that I arrived and as such, expected a tip from my dancer for giving her a heads up. I refused to take my CF's money, told her I have money of my own and would cover it. My CF said under no circumstance was I to imply to the bar maid that the tip was coming from her trying to tip the bar maid through me. I only tipped $5.
I'm kind of perplexed that the bar maid expected a pimping fee for hooking up a CF and PL regular who have a standing dance relationship, but it was nice that my CF was willing to cover the extra expense before I shot that option down. I hope this isn't a repeat occurrence though; something tells me that it will be and I'm not sure how to handle it. Maybe I need to get a fake mustache ala Bobby Valentine so I can find my CF in the club without tipping off the bar keeper that I arrived.
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A week ago I had a Follies waitress try that shit on me. She brought me my $4.25 coke and I gave her $5.25. She then asks "Where's my tip". I said "I just gave you a dollar tip (20%)". She then says "We don't accept quarters". I then said "well I guess your tip is $.75 then" She walked off cursing me but came back for the quarter.
The only way to stop this shit is to just say NO!
Doesn't make much sense. You already communicated directly with your CF on when to show up. What was the service the bar maid provided? Let her know the very instant you arrive so you won't be scooped up by another girl?
To those asking, the bar itself occupies 90% of the primary club area and the front door opens 5' in front of the bar directly, so there is no secondary seating to go to and the bartenders, who are responsible for collecting entrance fees, if doing their job correctly always keep one eye on the door.
You don’t know what kind of power that bartender might have, or what drama has recently taken place. Your cf, for whatever reason, wanted the barmaid to know that her regulars take care of her. You should have done what your cf asked. There’s a lot of politics that customers don’t know ab.
Yep---I've commented on this before.....just from what I have seen in the limited amount of time I have been going back to clubs.........and it flows over to the comments I've made as well about how much the dancers really make ( and keep in mind it's never what you make--it's how much you keep that matters)
Everybody and I mean everybody has their hand out in a club.....and if it doesn't come from the client they look to the dancer--sometimes depending on the level of greed regardless the look to both.
If there was an arrangement between the dancer and bartender - it’s best left between them.