Life with my ATF - part deux
gawker
Older than dirt
Regular readers here have read of my many adventures and misadventures of my ATF. She's been a stripper in many New England clubs and several in Florida. She was born on my 40th birthday and was 23 when we met and is 32 now ( making me 72 for you non-mathematicians). I've dropped somewhere between $250 & $300k on her through the years and sadly most of it has gone to drug dealers.
About 4 months ago she went to a very pricey rehab facility and emerged with a new drive to learn to live sober. She met a nice guy who is a chronic relapsed as is she. They got an apartment but at some point they fought, they relapsed and got evicted. She called, I answered, she came & stayed with me for a couple of hellish weeks . Back to rehab, then to stay with relatives in the north woods of NH.
After a week there she talked me into taking her & her BF in to my house until they can get jobs, save money & get their own place.
Her BF & she & I have had long talks and they both realize that if they go back to heroin or crack, they're going to die. They both have a child and both hope to gain custody at some time in the future.
Well after living together for 3 weeks ( with them fucking 2 or 3 times a day) I'm anxious for them to get on in their lives and out of mine. He is a genuine nice guy with a sales lead skill which if he keeps his shit together can earn him $40 an hour or more. She is lazy and acts like the world owes her a living.
They're going to look at a place and have the money to move in now. They've told me they'll be gone by the weekend. I'll miss him. Lol.
I've told her that our personalities are toxic and I don't think we should have any contact in the future. She still is as hot as ever but all things ( good, bad, & other) must come to an end and it's time for this to end. C'est la vie.
About 4 months ago she went to a very pricey rehab facility and emerged with a new drive to learn to live sober. She met a nice guy who is a chronic relapsed as is she. They got an apartment but at some point they fought, they relapsed and got evicted. She called, I answered, she came & stayed with me for a couple of hellish weeks . Back to rehab, then to stay with relatives in the north woods of NH.
After a week there she talked me into taking her & her BF in to my house until they can get jobs, save money & get their own place.
Her BF & she & I have had long talks and they both realize that if they go back to heroin or crack, they're going to die. They both have a child and both hope to gain custody at some time in the future.
Well after living together for 3 weeks ( with them fucking 2 or 3 times a day) I'm anxious for them to get on in their lives and out of mine. He is a genuine nice guy with a sales lead skill which if he keeps his shit together can earn him $40 an hour or more. She is lazy and acts like the world owes her a living.
They're going to look at a place and have the money to move in now. They've told me they'll be gone by the weekend. I'll miss him. Lol.
I've told her that our personalities are toxic and I don't think we should have any contact in the future. She still is as hot as ever but all things ( good, bad, & other) must come to an end and it's time for this to end. C'est la vie.
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I was going to start a discussion asking about what happened, why are they living with you?
Thank you for posting the update. I really hope you can get over her and find someone better for you.
I have posted about my friend in a situation like yours and how he is a lot better with another girl that the one that is very much like your ATF, single mother with addiction and mental problems.
My friend was able to "forget" about that girl, thanks to the other better nicer girl.
Good luck to you move on and don't look back.
You said in a previous post "she went over the edge this time and I’ll slit my throat before I give in to her pleas again"
Did I miss something? How's your throat?
Sounds stupid but I'm meeting my ATF today not only for some fun but also to try and say goodbye too. I suppose it's going to be to try and see if there's any future there or not before I move forward with this other lady.
Good luck in moving on, I know I haven't been able to do so yet, but today is a new day!
Her bf sounds like he’s working to hold it together. Your atf needs to work as hard as she can to stay sober too. It seems like a house of cards - that one relapse will cause to tumble.
I wish all of you the best. I hope things move in a positive direction. I’m sure it’s been difficult to have her in your house - seeing her great body - and not being able to fuck her - since her bf is there.
gawker needs to propose the term NS (nightmare stripper). After all, JohnSmith69 is famous for his DSs and gawker is definitely famous for his NS!
Now I do believe that you really do mean it each time you say it. But I suspect that, as time passes, you miss the drama in your life and the connection that she sometimes make you feel. I honestly don't believe that you will be done with her until she is finally done with you, unless you manage to find something else to fill that void in the meantime.
But good luck I suppose and, as flagooner said, please update us again when she moves back in again. :)
also 2 thumbs up to 4got2wipe for "nightmare stripper"
You sir are an addict you need to get treated as such and this girl is part of your addiction and if it isn't this specific chick in the future it'll be somebody else if you don't get treatment.
1. I'm unsure if my problem is an addiction or an obsession & my therapist says it doesn't matter which, but I need to get over it.
2. I'm especially motivated to put an end to the foolishness this time because my children won't let my grandkids come to my house while "my whore" and her BF are living here.
3. I let her come back here because I have trouble saying no to her. Sounds easy, but when she says plezzz, I melt. My brain fries. My sanity goes away. All facets of wisdom fly out the window.
4. Furthermore there's a guilt thing. As her #1 enabler for many years I truly want to help her find sobriety. I live many miles from any credible drug dealer & neither of them has a car or license. Since she came back here she has talked of how she hustled me through the years, but she then says the sex was a hustle, but the friendship is & has been real.
6. The "never-ending pasta bowl" is an apt recommendation.
You are a good man. Regardless of your obsession/addiction - she needed you - and you have helped her significantly.
Can you blame them?
Oh, and that "the sex was the hustle but the rest is friendship" sounds like a clever way for her to justify not giving you any more sex while still taking advantage of your generosity.
Dude, it's one thing to have fun with a stripper, but quite another to bring them into your family space. Maybe it's time to find other meaningful things to fill your life with, like your grandkids, worthy causes, etc. As far as this chick goes, you've done more than your part for her. She's 32 and it's time that she took responsibility for her own actions and for fixing her own life. Not that I'm buying that guilt excuse anyway, but even if it were true, it's not a good reason to keep letting stray dogs live in your house.