Dealing with uninteresting dancers
MrWright_1985
Washington State
So here's a scenario I want to set up in this discussion, and I'm sure a lot of you have been in this situation.
You're at a club, a dancer approaches and sits down next to you. She offers a lap dance to you, but you say no. Instead of walking away to look for another customer, she stays and keeps talking, trying to manipulate you into agreeing to a lap dance.
What do you do in this situation?
You're at a club, a dancer approaches and sits down next to you. She offers a lap dance to you, but you say no. Instead of walking away to look for another customer, she stays and keeps talking, trying to manipulate you into agreeing to a lap dance.
What do you do in this situation?
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Best is to select the girl you want and approach her yourself. Pick the one you want to be waking up in the mornings with.
SJG
The answer? She's a 20-year-old 110-pound girl in her underwear. Don't be a little bitch. Tips here: https://www.tuscl.net/?page=post&id=4968…
Obviously, that's not all of it. I'm (usually) not a little bitch, and some hyper-aggressive girls sit and stay anyway, so I'm not entirely blaming you. But I will suggest if this happens to you fairly often, you should first work on your confidence and demeanor so that 90% of even the aggressive strippers just go away. THEN, you can worry about how to handle the rare exception.
I had one very annoying skinny girl in Harem House in Indy who would not leave even after the other ploy she followed(the place was not busy at all) I finally said loudly right after a song stopped so others could hear "No I do not want a dance from you but I will give you $5 to leave me alone" she called me a name and left. Another girl sat down laughing and told the the little bitch did that all the time and usually does not leave until she has extracted at least two dances for a guy.
Or she's a 35 year-old with a knife who isn't opposed to the idea of busting a beer bottle over your head. It hasn't been the 20 yo's who have been that aggressive in my dealings, anyway.
I agree with the sentiment of coming off as weak-willed drawing in the worst element, though.
Dang, dude, you've been SCing at juice's fave places?
:) :)
That being said, I've found dancers from different countries may require a more firm no.
SJG
Some of the places juice talks about sound way too upscale for my tastes. $100+ for a club to make a video of you and a dancer as the only way for a two-way dance to happen qualifies as clip joint territory to me.
IMO, it is way better to hang out at a dive and perfect the art of letting down gently the occasional knife-wielding 35 year-old.
A more rude way of saying no is what I heard one night, "go away bitch, we don't want any freaking dances!" Now that is a rude way to give a hint. If you've been asked for dances over 200 times in less than 2 hours, your problem is not getting rid of dancers, you need to keep a few around a bit longer than 3 seconds.
On the other hand a dancer that stays at your table can have an advantage. I've had a dancer hold my table while I went to the restroom.
"I don't want to waste your time. I'm not really in the mood to buy dances right now. I won't be hurt if you want to go talk to someone else."
STAGE 2:
"I'm not interested and I'd like to chat with some other dancers. Good luck with the rest of your night."
STAGE 3:
"No joke, I'm not going to give you any money or buy any dances. If you're not going to leave, then we'll talk to a manager about how you're stopping me from spending my money."
If she tries to coerce me into buying her a drink before she goes or tipping her for her 'time', I just say "No." No embellishment, just "No." If she asks why, I say "Because no."
At that point, she'll usually stomp away. I may or may not be called a mean name or something. I don't care.
The only reason I let it go as long as I did was I had ordered lunch and was with a long time friend that wanted to go to the club. Even the bartender was embarrassed ( we were sitting at the bar trying to eat and take in the scenery)
BTW I tried BJ99's advice--didn't work.
Tried Ishmael version one and two.....nada.......
Of course the odds of me ever setting foot in that establishment again is slim and none.
But seriously. don't play her game. Use your body language and turn away, actively look over her head and call another girl over, leave, tell her she's wasting her time. Or sometimes if I'm feeling playful... tease her for my own enjoyment.