Customers that give the rest of us a bad name.
shadowcat
Atlanta suburb
Yesterday at Follies Bubba267 was sitting next to me and he told me that the guy sitting on the other side of him was being way too aggressive with the dancers. I replied that one of my favorites had told me the same thing and said that she would not dance for him. I observed the guy and saw him grabbing dancers as they walked past him and pulling them toward him into a bear hug. Some of them had to almost fight their way free of him. I saw one really petite girl struggling to get free of him. Looked like 50% of the girls were turning him down for dances. I guess the other 50% needed the money. I think a word to the bouncers by one of them would have at least gotten the guy a warning but I guess the girls just didn't want to create a scene.
I think that any club other than Follies, the guy would have gotten thrown out.
I think that any club other than Follies, the guy would have gotten thrown out.
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I've seen and herd about native Mexican men being like this
When I was at Paper Moon in Little Rock, AR, the guy a couple of seats over was doing that to one of the dancers. The dancer didn't flinch and no one said anything, so I guess it was cool. Cool for him, at least. I've seen customers get knocked out for that sort of thing, but that's why they play the games. Seen it other places, too, but mostly in dives.
While that describes me, it definitely wasn't! I feel like I have to blanket apologize for jackasses like that all the time. While we often lament about NGFL when talking about strippers regular lives, being at least a little bit nice helps in the club.
Arrived at my regular club and one of my favorites was instantly amorous with me. Overly, uncharacteristically, amorous. Just clinging like crazy.
She told me some creeper PL was in there that was crazy about her but that he was way to handsy and would man handle the shit out of her back in the couches. Dude looked totally normal but did have this undeniable creepy vibe about him like a Ted Bundy.
He kept walking up to my honey trying to talk her even though she was wrapped around me. I could feel her tense up every time he approached. She told me management let him get away with this crap because he was a regular big spender in the club.
So I was in a quandary, do I confront the guy and risk a fight possibly to get thrown out or worse. Do I tell a bouncer even if the dancer wouldn't. I chose to leave the club. It was time for me to depart anyway.
As I was leaving I saw the creepers leadng my honey back to the couch area and she didn't look happy but was definitely going on her own volition.
Moral of the story (for me anyway) a SC is no place to be a white knight. That's what the bouncers are for.
personally, i haven't heard many dancers complain out of their mouths to me about rude customers or customers who cross the line.
but i'm not that naive--and i know this sort of thing happens. its an alcohol infused atmosphere and some dudes are just flat out rude even if they haven't been drinking.
i'm curious how often strippers deal with customers who cross boundaries---hopefully Bj99 or nina will weight in on this
"It was now time for the third girl to go back on stage. This was the decent looking one who had been hanging with the Hispanic guy at the end of the bar, where he had continued to sporadically rain ones on her. Instead of going to the stage, she came over to us at the other side of the bar. She said had been trying to get away from the Hispanic guy , but he had insisted she stay with him, was propositioning her for sex, and generally was weirding her out. She didn’t want to go back on stage because she knew he would follow her to the stage. She offered to give us a bar side dance for free so she wouldn’t have to go on stage. How strange is that—a stripper offering a free dance in order to avoid a paying customer. That guy must have been pretty bad. "
Last couple of times there a bouncer has swooped in out of nowhere to scold either me or the dancer about too much contact. So I'm thinking that someone is actually starting to watch the feed from the cameras in the main room and tipping off the bouncers or other dancers are tattling on each other.
In either case an over-aggressive customer definitely would not survive more than 5 minutes
Its the white guys who are grabby and make a game out of seeing what they can get away with.
But the Mexican men, they really know how to massage the girls front side and back side.
As on dancer in a Sunnyvale club told me, she being originally front Kentucky and used to high mileage clubs, "I know, with the Mexicans its like they're making love to you."
SJG
Another time, at BZ N Hollywood, a guy was being rude to a friend of mine, and when she got up on stage, he took out his phone and started videoing her. She looked over at the DJ and a Security guy, but they weren't offering any help (even though they officially don't allow cell phones in the club). So she walked over to him and grabbed the phone away and went to the back, where she quickly deleted the video. Then she gave the phone to the DJ. In spite of the fact that (IMHO) she did the right thing, she was fired on the spot.
Recently saw first hand evidence of girls tattling on each other. Apparently the bouncers have gone too far in playing favorites and the non favorites are fighting back.
If a customer purposely tries to start shit between me and another girl, or is even just dumb enough to talk ab me to another girl in a way that gives her reason to start shit, I'll shut him out and never look his way again. Same for a guy who allows another girl to disrespect me, by coming up and straddling him when he goes to tip me on stage, or other such behaviors. Most of us try to leave customers out of our coworker issues, to keep the atmosphere fun, but we are not all buddies. There's constant balance and etiquette between the girls since we are all competing in a way.