Strip clubs have always catered to chumps and losers. A guy who is not able to take girls home with him, like it or not, he is a loser. A guy who believes that buying dances is the best way to engage with a girl, just because that is what she offers, he is a chump.
But my first visits to strip clubs went differently, Sunnyvale Brass Rail, no touching. Not sure what to make of the girls, they looked pretty case hardened to me. But I saw one I liked and observed her for a while and on stage. As is the custom there, I invited her to sit down for a drink. I suggested that she and I might go out some time.
"I don't go out with customers."
I didn't really understand her meaning, but I still took it as a strike against my honor. By the time a guy is in jr high school, he learns that the girls held up as sex symbols, are out of his social reach. So I did not know, would that also apply to dancers in such a club?
I just told her about myself, in a matter of fact way. Finally I took a cocktail napkin and wrote down my real name and home telephone number. This was before cell phones and caller id, when women were far more guarded about phone numbers, and I think OTC less common. She accepted the napkin, and then got apologetic and said, "You don't understand, I get hit on by 50 guys a night."
Again, I did not really understand her meaning, and I did take it as another strike against my honor. But I decided to quit while I was still ahead, and just go home.
I should have talked with her more about where we might go out, and when, given the difference in work schedules. That might have helped too.
But I forgot about the matter, worked late, came home about 10pm. And there it was, her voice, on my old magnetic disk analog answering machine.
Now yes, I was a naive, and I had started something I was not ready to follow through with. But as for my basic question I did learn, most strip club dancers are available and date-able. And never, even in very high mileage places and in our underground circuit, have I found this to be untrue. The main thing is that you must never treat the girl as a prostitute, or otherwise act like money buys her.
So guys have GF's and they go to strip clubs. Well here in Santa Clara County, ours are no touching. Okay.
But buying dances, that is another thing. What is the point of it, just to flatter the girl?
The chase is a huge part of sex. It is a big big deal for a girl, each time she spreads her legs for another guy. Pros do it, but that's because they have learned to dissociate.
I learned in AMPs, that you don't try to bargain girls into FS. You treat them completely like civilians. You talk to them, just like you would any other girl. But also you just make it happen with them. Getting the girl DFKing is the absolute best. Some are accustomed to this, but others are completely disarmed by it. Does not always work, but it works often enough, and the results are always phenomenal. She turns into into GFA ( Girl Friend Audition ). And it doesn't get any better than that.
We have very experienced guys on TUSCL, guys who have done it all. Today, they do not pay women for sex. No, they just make it happen with them. And if no front room makeout session, then no booth or back room action. Each one that he approaches is a potential long term liaison, and he is not shy about letting them know this. In most other countries they would be called mistresses. He does supply them with maintenance money, but not hooker fees. I believe that the term "side chick" is starting to catch on.
Girls in SF mileage places have insisted, "I don't kiss". But then later on they demonstratively reverse themselves. Girls in our own no touching clubs, sometimes do intense DFKing, when they are trying to line up 2am OTC, and especially if they are mad at the boss.
But the best is just to approach the girl yourself, so that it is clear in her mind that you have extended yourself and bypassed others in order to select her. And then just let it happen. Save the booths and back room until it is time for your own pants to come down. The objective here is not so much to save money or reduce the house cut, it is simply to improve the choreography between you and the girl. And then of course plan on taking the girl home with you to continue. If she can't do that or give out contact info, make sure at a minimum that she knows exactly when you will be back.
Guys don't want this? Well they need to look at what is going wrong in their lives that they feel they need to be drooling over girls and giving them money in strip clubs, but not having the girls open up to them.
Yes, my position has always been that strip clubs are like carnival shows, talking money off of suckers. But the good news is that a guy does not have to go along with it, because the girls are still basically ordinary girls, and they can be gotten to, and usually quite easily.
The main issue is front room physical friendliness, as that way the guy can much more easily lead it. And where I really learned this is at our underground Mexican bar table dancing circuit. Girls just go from one guy to the next. They use party tapes with no gaps between songs. They rake in money, usually $1 at a time. What actually goes on varies widely. Most of the girls are continually trying to line up OTC's. But experienced dancers have insisted that they make more money that way, then they do at the 'wanna dance' $20 a dance minus house cut places. At these later they spend their time talking about dances. At the former, they spend their time metering in money. They don't ask, they just do. They stay as long as the money keeps coming. At its best, the only real rules are the girl's rules.
At the most extreme US clubs, like talked about on blackstripclubs.net ( now defunct ), girls jump onto guys' laps, without asking, and they start licking his neck and nibbling at his ear lobe. They are defying him to start making out with them. So if the guy wants it just a few soft words to set the mood, and then it proceeds.
And then experienced TUSCLer's have affirmed that at the most extreme mixed race US dives, the girls of all races also do it exactly that same way.
And then in Tijuana, the HK bar girls are a lot less coy than that. And then at Las Chevales and Bar Tropical, it is even more extreme, and then Playboy Bar is probably the most extreme. This is all widely written about.
The chase and the yielding are what sex really is about. And this is not very hard to understand either. What strip clubs offer, is See Want Get, and this is their unique feature. The dolled up hotties, in little more than high heels and makeup, and the potential for unstructured fraternizing. Nothing else offers this. See Want Get is the ultimate power trip. Even King Herod The Great must have cherished this.
SJG


Is this "the System" SJG style?