Exercise--Lifting and running
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Do you guys exercise? I imagine there has got to be at least a few guys on here who are in decent shape.
I'm young compared to most of you, so I'm gonna throw this out there. I'm wondering which type of exercise is "better," in terms of maintaining health, youth, etc. Running (cardiovascular) vs lifting (strength and/or hypertrophy). I'm also wondering which type is better for pulling women (e.g. muscled man gives her vagina the tingles). My guess is that running is better for health (just look at all those native tribes with people who can run like a gazelle and live to be 100 years old), and muscle is better for pulling women (just look at all the hot young girls with jacked boyfriends).
IME, muscle gets you the girls, but damn it takes a lot of effort. I'm naturally more of a gazelle who runs in the woods...
I'm young compared to most of you, so I'm gonna throw this out there. I'm wondering which type of exercise is "better," in terms of maintaining health, youth, etc. Running (cardiovascular) vs lifting (strength and/or hypertrophy). I'm also wondering which type is better for pulling women (e.g. muscled man gives her vagina the tingles). My guess is that running is better for health (just look at all those native tribes with people who can run like a gazelle and live to be 100 years old), and muscle is better for pulling women (just look at all the hot young girls with jacked boyfriends).
IME, muscle gets you the girls, but damn it takes a lot of effort. I'm naturally more of a gazelle who runs in the woods...
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Masturbation not Maturation
Prostitutes just care about your money.
I know a lot of guys who lift weights all day and can probably lift a pick up truck but have a gut. Gotta do a decent amount of cardio to slim yourself out.
I'm the exact opposite, I love cardio and don't like to lift, swimming, paddle boarding and biking are what I like to do.
The one benefit I've seen the most is that exercising regularly and eating healthy, as well as not smoking and only drinking in moderation, I have managed to not age at all over the past 10-12 years or so. I'm in my mid-30's, but if you saw me, you'd think I was in my early 20's.
A mix of cardio and weight training is recommended. I've tried several workouts that were heavy on cardio and light on weights (when training to run in 5k's), but I've also had stretches where I've focused more on weights (so I can build muscle).
Recent studies I've read say that you should do a mix that consists of heavy weight-training sessions, and HIIT (high intensity inverval training) in order to burn fat and build muscle simultaneously. HIIT workouts are usually short, but brutal. For example, it may only be 15 minutes, but it is a repeated pattern where you do something like sprint as fast as you can for 30 seconds, rest for a couple minutes, and then repeat.
HIIT is prefered over long-distance cardio as running a long distance non-stop hurts muscle growth (and could actually result in the loss of muscle mass). This explains why so many marathon runners, while being skinny and physically fit, tend to have arms and legs that looks like twigs.
Of course, going with the right workout plan is only part of the equation. You also have to have the right foods in your diet. Things like chicken breast, salmon, steak and eggs for protein. Potatoes, fresh fruits and oatmeal for carbs. Lots of fresh vegetables. Drink plenty of water (probably more than you drink daily). Even though it may be expensive, buy organic as that will make a big difference too.
For myself, I've always hated aerobic exercise and "fitness" or bodybuilding type strengthwork. So, I haven't done aerobic exercise in over 10 years, and have never looked back. My program is goal-based strength & conditioning, my conditioning work is mostly HIIT based, my strength work is targeted around building max strength and explosive power. I spend time engaging in proper, high-performance program creation -- but that's because I"m a nerd and love the science to the extent I can understand it, but again, not strictly required. Love my program, it's the right thing for me, but if you love aerobic exercise, or bodybuilding, or playing basketball, or whatever, then those things will be better for you.
As has been mentioned previously, running can affect one's joints as one gets older - resistance training is important the older one gets in order to maintain muscle mass but also strong bones - IDK what is the best ratio of cardio to lifting but if I had to choose one I'd choose lifting b/c you also are doing some cardio while lifting - and has been mentioned proper eating is just as important.
w.r.t. female attention, I def think lifting will get you more attention - you don't have to be Lou Ferrigno but having some decent definition and toneness does help IMO.
Anyway it's not uncommon for dancers to be feeling me up when I first start working out again and my muscles are peaking - I def notice the difference when I work out and don't work out (although I know this sounds like PL shit).
As far as for lifting. You want to shock your muscles and workout on an empty stomach/fasted state. This will get you ripped and build up your six pack faster.
But like someone mentioned earlier broad shoulders, huge traps, and a V shape back will make you look big. I have a small frame but my muscles pop out which gives the illusion that Im bigger than what I am.
Also for getting attention from the ladies, make sure you work your forearms and your calves. These are "show" muscles. Meaning they will notice your forearms first (assuming wearing a short sleeve shirt) and calves (assuming shorts). If those 2 areas are developed she'll make the assumption that your whole body is on point.
Last but not least. Change your fucking diet. Cut down on bread to get rid of your gut and only eat like a pig on the weekend. You don't need any fancy nutrition plan. Just keep it simple and substitute bad foods for good foods.
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I bet a fit older guy, with a nice bankroll will generally attract whatever type he desires.
I used to like running and biking. I still use an Exercycle but I've now started doing yoga. I had a treadmill but it was a piece of crap and it died when I tried to clean it. I've been thinking of buying a new one.
I've tried to lift weights but found it was non-brilliant, at least for me!
At 75 walking and daily chores is all the exercise I can do. I'm up to 200 now but my wallet keeps me going in the strip clubs.
I've weight lifted my whole life. I've never been into cardio until know in my life.
Been getting underweight off now that I've been doing a hour or two of cardio 3-4 times a week
I lift 3-4 times a week currently. I no longer train for strength so I focus on reps in the 15-25 area and 4-6 sets
But I only use compounding movements..no isolation movements.
So I stick with a push and pull work out days just like I did in my power lifting days except with less weight and much higher reps
Running wreaks havoc on the joints. Swimming, cycling, and walking/hiking are best for aerobic activity. HIIT method is good for fast(er) weight loss and hitting the 80/20 on overall health benefits.
Strippers care mostly about money, but if they can choose to get their money from a fit guy versus Jabba the Hutt in pajama bottoms, then the fit guy has the advantage.
Generally, swimmer / gymnast-type bodies work for the widest range of women (stripper or civilian). I'm not there yet.
@BJ69, I have to admit I didn't think you were real when I first read your posts but I do now and appreciate your perspective.
I think you will find most women don't prefer the muscled out meatheads. They like a guy that's fit, but not a fucking bodybuilder.
But, I hate to be evasive when asked a question. To be honest, w customers, it's not so much lying, as being needy, jealous, unintentionally obnoxious, and having hidden agendas. I see now that customers have more complicated thoughts and needs in their SCing than I'd realized, and I am less offended when they try to push my boundaries, or gracelessly attempt to pay me for sex, or just get me to go home w them bc they are sure I just wanna fuck lol (that one's actually kinda cute).
Having muscles does not mean looking like a professional bodybuilder - yeah there are women that find that unattractive but even then growing up most guys that I knew that were muscle-heads usually had nice looking GFs - it's not the end all be all but all things being equal I do believe most women are attracted to guys w/ nice muscles even if they say different but when they see a muscular guy w/ his shirt off they will often look/stare even if they say "oh no I don't care for guys w/ muscles" - if this was the case then why are Chippendale dancers super ripped if it was not considered attractive/desirable and why do women in the audience run their hands over their 6-packs - having nice muscles may not be a "requirement" but I do believe most women find it attractive/desirable.
Just a guess, but I would imagine in this respect ladies may be a lot like us. I know, it kinda blows my mind too.
To them Muscleheads might be eye candy. Some superficial ones may think that's the perfect specimen, but many may have no attraction to them other than to look at. To the other extreme some may be intimidated by them.
It seems like the same way a lot of guys look at the heavily made up, extremely fit, majorly enhanced strippers.
Or maybe this is another subject that I opine about despite being completely ignorant.
Again - not saying it's a requirement but I do believe it makes a difference - most male models often also tend to be ripped w/ chiseled chests and 6-packs
I don't go to Chippendales; I just perform w/ them on and off
:)
I use that as my excuse why I don't draw a crowd of ladies wherever I go.
There's also the perception of being insecure and arrogant and having an annoying lifestyle to overcome for bodybuilder, so many they appeal more to women just looking for a fling.
I decided last year that I should live to 100, since I'm exactly halfway there. For me, that seemed like a sensible goal, but now I'm wondering. I want to live to 100 and not be bed-bound for 99.9999% of it. No tubes, no constant back-and-forth to the doctor or the clinic, no funny mind-altering continual drug regimens just to control blood pressure or ear-to-eye coordination or whatever.
I've done a lot of internet research, but it's still rather up-in-the-air among the medical community what exactly I SHOULD or SHOULD NOT do to bring this about. There are hairball theories abounding, some of which contradict others. All we really know (IMO) are two things.
First, avoid the major stressors, and thereby, also avoid the major mortality-causing incidents. So, for example, don't get cancer, don't get a heart-attack, don't get into a car accident, don't catch ebola, don't get shot. This is (of course) easier said than done. Getting entirely rid of the risk of the onset of cancer of SOME sort is a rather difficult proposition, no guarantees. You can only do your best. Whereas, avoiding getting shot is a little bit more under your own control, though even that, sometimes I think ... well anyway ... Avoiding the fatality-causing incidents is largely a question of DIET and LIFESTYLE, but also one of exercise as it relates to reducing the likelihoods of things like heart attacks and strokes. Thus, for me, EXERCISE can be a positive contributor, but you have to remember what it's there for. It's NOT there for WINNING a triathlon ever; rather, it's there for nixing strokes and heart attacks.
Second, after avoid the major stressors, is, replenish. This is a term I've come up with personally, to lump in together a lot of different practices that seem to relate to longevity. Less stressful commute, more meditation -- this will REPLENISH your mental reserves. Similarly, less fatty foods, more fiber -- this will REPLENISH your bloodstream's cleanliness. I'm not exactly an expert on the replenish portion of the equation and I may modify accordingly as I read more.
Replenishing is is significantly a mental exercise. For example, to stay mentally capable, you should take up a new major multi-year challenge at least once every decade or even every five years. Start meditating and get good at it; also, later, start playing a musical instrument of a sort you've never played before and continue to get good at IT too; also, later, take up something you quit when you were in grade-school again (stamp collecting?) and over a decade get good at THAT thing too; also, later, take up a new type of exercise (if you're doing Crossfit, start doing yoga; or vice versa); also, later, take up a new problem-solving regimen (get really good at Sudoku, or at Chess, or at Scrabble, or at whichever one of the three you've never previously tried); also, later, take a graduate degree or a second bachelor's in a field you've never been involved in; also, later, serve a group of people by means of your volunteerism who have never been within your group of acquaintances before (if you're a typical White suburban middle-class office cubicle dweller, help homeless immigrant Blacks, f.e., and learn their cultural mores); also, later ... well, you get the point.
I can kind-of go for it, kind-of not. Mentally, the challenge sounds like FUN to me. Physically, wow, I hit-or-miss it every day. Sometimes I'm on the band-wagon, sometimes I really fall off of it. Major drinking binges are a problem, though major binges of being a lap-dance-customer don't seem to me to be a problem at all. This would change my strip-clubbing habits considerably.
Basically, the two aspects -- 1. avoid stressors and fatality risks; 2. replenish -- are forward-looking and backward-looking, in my mind. For number 1., don't do things that maximize your chance of death, but rather things that maximize your chance of longer life. For number 2., don't do that which you have always done, but rather, mix it up so that you are opening up your capabilities in always-new directions (physically as well as mentally).
Exercise? Well, difficult concept ...
Just tried Crossfit, liked it a lot due to the set-up and context (lots of people from "normal life," wide range of abilities, helpful beefy dudes hanging around making sure you don't hurt yourself, ONE HOUR is the ENTIRE workout including warmup and cooldown and little "fun game" for conviviality at the end; and always with someone who is demanding that you do it, right there, they tell you what it is, you do it, and then it's over) but found it very heavy on (A) grip requirement (lots of pullups, chinups, hanging abdominals knee-raises, rope-climbs, etc.) which bothers me for my musical instrument skills, after a crossfit workout I can't practice an instrument; (B) quads, thighs, glutes (lots of squat-like or single-leg-stand-like motions, holding weights or not, up on a step or as a lunge, etc.) which bothers me for the imbalance relative to arms, back, neck. So, I'm 50 / 50 on it.
In general, I want my exercise to be "fitness for longevity" not "fitness for fitness's sakes" and so far I feel like Crossfit is only partly filling that bill. I do benefit from the contextual set-up, as mentioned, so I'm not quitting for a while, maybe a year or two before I really re-consider it.
Additionally, when you get all of the above done, there's another problem -- earning a living while you're doing it. What garbage that shit is. All it does is prevent you from living your life. If you can afford to be a retiree and cut down to the level of 1. avoid and 2. replenish, then I would recommend that retirement should start immediately. Otherwise Western work will kill you.
I've also heard that the number 1 predictor of longevity is leg strength and VO2 max.
Anyways both will work in your favor as far as appearance. Also you'll probably see a boost in your confidence.
I read an article a few weeks ago and supposedly women are more attracted to the dad body.
I don't know how the 300-400 lbs slobs I see at Walmart do it. The 10-15 extra lbs over the holidays makes me feel like shit .
The commercial says it best " A body in motion stays in .........."
And the strippers I know could care less what you look like . Short , overweight and bald Benjamin Franklin and his clones are all they care about .
So as much as possible now, rain or shine, anytime day or night, I get around by bicycle.
But are their problems? Yes there can be, as in this country motor vehicle transportation and dressing in a manner which requires that, are considered minimal requirements for social standing, in some quarters.
SJG
Anyway start making little changes. Get a pedometer and add some walking, add some weight resistance training during the week, not much, just a little. After 3 years, I've lost over 25 pounds without much effort. My weight hasn't dropped in the last few weeks but I haven't been doing any exercise except working around my house. That can be enough if you are busy.
I do have a lot of muscles already from when I used to bicycle in my 20's and had a PE class involving weight lifting. My muscles grew fast in college. They don't now but losing muscle mass as you age causes weight gain along with a drop in testerone levels. I read extra fat will make things worse. Little things can add up. My younger brother used to be lighter than me, now he's at least 30 pounds heavier and it's not muscle even though I'm older than him. He only gets 5 hours of sleep a night. Sounds like a slow death I'm afraid. I hope he succeeds in his efforts. His family won't let him sleep in on the weekend and his wife always has some project for him to work on.
If I ate pasta every day, I would get bigger than Juice.
I remember roughly 15 years ago I told a stripper I thought I was starting to get out of shape but then bicycled a record 48 miles the next day. I would feel that so called runners high after 45 to 60 minutes and it would last for hours. Exercise can get addictive. I had to be lighter doing all that. I don't remember what my weight was.
This is an interesting part of the conversation. For my part, I went through a major body recomposition (for the better) 12 years ago, and I, too, feel that the dances got better. And not just by a little bit -- by a lot Which made a lot of sense to me. I am not under the illusion that the girls are getting turned on by my relatively-fitter but still middle-age bod. But I am under the (Illusion?) impression that they are far less repulsed than they were with my paunchy dad-bod, and that resulted in more willingness to touch, and touch longer. The girls ARE actually people (Yes! it's true!) and just like, given two women you're not attracted to, if you had to touch the fat slob or the fitter one, you'd take the fitter one, they do get relatively more or less repulsed. Of course, I'm not unaware that perhaps this is all confirmation bias, and I was desperately hoping for that reaction, so I saw it everywhere. However, the difference in dance quality seemed so stark and obvious that I'm skeptical I imagined it.
On the other hand:
JackAstor-->"And the strippers I know could care less what you look like . Short , overweight and bald Benjamin Franklin and his clones are all they care about ."
I agree they'll fuck you no matter what. I just suspect a guy who is fit and relatively less repulsive, may get a bit more effort and contact, than a guy who is relatively paunchier and far more repulsive, all other things being equal.