Emotionally attached to ATF....Now what?
SebastianCobb
California
Friday, June 2, 2017 5:45 PM
I was told my self that I would never be the guy to fall in love with a stripper. A started visiting the strip clubs as an escape from bad relationship. A relationship with a girl that I really loved ended in really bad terms. The clubs were the medicine that helped get through that bad time. Now the medicine seems worse than the disease. I met my ATF six months ago. When I first met I remember telling my self "OMG". She has a hot curvy body and sexy demeanor. After exchanging a couple of smiles she sat with me. When talked for a bit then headed to the VIP for FS. I only paid $100 for the room and tipped her $80. I was flattered because girls that are usually as hot as her don't charge so little unless they actually like the guy. A week later I came back to the club and noticed that she was sitting with another guy. I told my "Damn I hope she doesn't come over because I want to get a dance from a different girl". Sure enough after eyefckng me for a while, she came over and sat down. We talked for a while it was off the VIP Room for FS again. After the VIP she came and sat with me for a while. She then got up and said she was going to do some "rounds". I could tell by the look in her face that she didn't want offer any dances to any other guys. While she was doing this another dancer came over and sat with me. My ATF saw us and I could tell that she got jealous. After the other girl left, my ATF came back and sat with me for the remainder of her shift even though I wasn't dropping all kinds of crazy money on her. At that point I felt as though this girl actually liked me because of her actions. I didn't get her number because I felt it was too soon and she looks like she could be a bytch if she wants to be. I figured I'd get it next time, but there was no next time for the next 5 months. I felt as though I had waisted a good opportunity and kept asking my self what it could have been if I had just asked for her number. Finally one day in April I came across her again. She was excited to see me. I told her that I missed her and she told me that "she didn't know why she hadn't given me her number". She sat with me for the next 2.5 hours and was very affectionate. We went to the VIP and did FS and that's where she gave me her number. She made sure that I put in in my phone and suggested OTC. She told me that "we should hang out outside of the club, maybe go eat and get some drinks". We walked out of the VIP Room holding hands and she didn't want to let me go. She kept telling me "you have my number now, use it". I text her the next day but didn't receive a reply until about 3 days later. We had a very brief text convo where I got short responses from her before she stopped returning my texts. The next day I texted her again and again she replied with short answers. I asked her if she wanted to OTC for lunch. She replied and said "that she didn't hang out outside of the club". I played it cool and told her that it was unfortunate because "I really enjoyed her company". She then told me that "She was at the club and I could come see her if I wanted to". I went over to the club that day and when I walked in she was sitting with two. She excused herself and came over to me. She didn't look like she was too happy to see me and was not as affectionate as she used to be. I figured that she may have been having a bad day coupled the fact the she's not overly sexual or flirtatious as the other girls, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. After a stale conversation we went to the VIP for FS. The last time we had done VIP she let finger her but this time when I tried she pulled away. After the VIP she briefly sat with me before going to do her rounds. Her sat with an older guy and her demeanor was completely different. She was enthusiastic about their conversation, sat close to him, and seem flirty up until the point where the guy refused a dance with her...haha....She never came back to sit with me that night and after I left I texted "goodnight". Since I wasn't so invested in her yet, I figured I'd cut ties with her for good. The next day she texted me and said "sorry about last night I was a little sick and a little tired" she asked me if "I wanted to go for round 2" that day. I was so done with her that I told her I couldn't go. 10 days later she texted me back and told me that she wanted to OTC. As naive as I was I initially thought she wanted to OTC free of charge but wasn't the case. She set a price of $250 but I got her to drop down to $200. Our first "date" was very formal and exceed the standards of OTC'ing with a stripper. My ATF was on time to the date, I was the one who actually showed up 15 minutes late. She was on her best behavior, even though people were calling and texting her she did not answer her phone while she was with me. After lunch we went to the motel for FS. After everything was done I wanted her to stay and cuddle but she was up and getting dressed before I knew it. I told her I wanted her to stay longer but she said that she "couldn't because she needed to help her son with a school project". She told me to text her when I got home and I did, she replied right away. The next day I sent her a funny picture and she replied "lol". I asked her "how her son's project came out" but she never replied. A week later I texted her and told her that we should OTC again. Her reply was "hey" and nothing more. The next day she texted me saying that she "it would be cool to OTC again". I set up a date and time and she told me that she had to check her schedule but she would let me know soon. The next day she texted me and confirmed the date. On our second OTC I was on time and she was 30 minutes late. Her behavior began to really slip at this point. Her phone was ringing and she was actually answering it during our OTC as well as texting. Throughout our relationship I've caught her on multiple lies. First she told me that she was from Philadelphia and then she told me that she was from the West Coast. She told me that she doesn't do drugs, not even smoke weed. During our second OTC another dancer sent her a text message asking her if she had crystal meth. She doesn't look like she uses it but could very well be dealing it because she doesn't show up consistently at the club so it maybe that's her other source of income. After dinner came the motel for FS. She told me that her back was hurting that day so the next day I texted her asked her if she was feeling better but she never replied. A week after that I texted her to ask her if she was going to be at the club and said yes. I went to the club and the first two hours were awesome except for the part when she called the bouncer over and told him that she wanted to hug him for no reason. Her and another girl were hanging out with me, we're drinking, having a good time but unfortunately I drank too much. It got to the point where I started feeling sick and apparently I blacked out during the VIP because what felt like 5 minutes was actually 30 minutes according to her so I got charged for the VIP twice. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I sat at the club trying to sober up and during this time she did a full sprint towards the bouncer that I mentioned earlier and jumped hugged him and wrapped her legs around him too. I asked my self what's with all of this affection?...Why isn't she that affectionate towards me even though I'm a good customer. By the end of the night I was still too drunk to drive. Not once did she come over to check to see how I was doing or to offer a ride, uber, taxi, bus. I texted her and told me that I was too drunk to drive and about an hour later she replied "I hear you, just got to know your limits". Absolutely no concern over my well being or safety which hurt because I've emotionally attached to her and at the very least it's bad customer service. I see or text her again for 10 days. At the 10th day I gave in. I texted her and asked her if she wanted to OTC. She told me that she wasn't sure of her schedule but that she would let me know for sure by the next. Almost the entire next day went by without a text from her. I gave in and texted her. She replied and we set up an OTC date for the next day. The next day she texted me and asked me if we could change the time of the OTC because she wasn't going to have a babysitter for a while. That excuse didn't make a whole of sense because according to her she lives with her parents so why couldn't her parents watch her kid?...We moved the OTC to 2 hours later. This time she showed up 1 hour late and had a look on her face like something was bothering her. She sat down and immediately afterwards got on her phone and was texting, she appeared angry. I asked her what was wrong "she told me that her ex was acting stupid and wanted to come over that day to pick up their son". That would be another lie that I caught her in because she had told me that her ex was not in her kid's life. She told me that her ex is very much involved in her kids life and takes the kid everywhere. That made realize that the whole babysitter situation is bullshyt and that she just moved the OTC time to accommodate her ex. She told me that her ex is a real toolbag who's beaten her, verbally abused her, and has threatened to kill her. I have a gut feeling that he's still in the picture and getting it for free, probably takes the money she makes dancing too. The conversation on our 3rd OTC wasn't as great as the previous two but after the FS at the motel she suggested that I go to the club with her. I agreed and went to her club. She came over to where I was sitting and briefly sat down. She then got up and said that she had "to do her rounds but that she'd be back". While she was doing her rounds she was being really flirty with another guy touching him all over and shaking her ass in front of him. I'd never seen her do that because she's usually very reserved. I wasn't enjoying the club and my body language said it all. I hope I didn't make her uncomfortable because of this. She came over and sat with me briefly once more and told me that she wanted to ask me for a dance but that we already had fun that night. I didn't get a dance and she started doing her rounds again because she couldn't spent too much time with (one customer) me). Some guy got a regular lap dance from her and they walked holding hands to the room, something she rarely does and hasn't done with me for a while. They were back there for a while before going over the VIP Room and spending some more time there. I finally got so bored that I started getting dances from other girls. When I came out of the lap dance room I saw sitting in the corner with the same guy she had just given a VIP to. She was giving him free lap dances on the main floor (so much for not being able to spend that much time with one customer). That kind of pissed me off but I just walked past them without saying a word. When she saw me she immediately jumped out of his lap and walked away.....I understand it's her bread and butter so I can deal with it but the sub par customer service that she's been providing me (a good customer) is what upsets me. Before the night was over I got another lap dance from another girl (money my ATF could have earned if she had better customer service skills). For the rest of the night my ATF would just walk past me without saying a word. At the end of the night I came up to her and wanted to her to hug her goodnight but she pushed me away. She looked wasted and I felt concerned about her. I asked her if she was going to be ok to home like that..At the very least I would've called an Uber for her. She told "Yes babe I'm fine"....My concern seemed to upset and annoy her. She told me to text her when I got home and told her to do the same. When I got home I texted her but she never replied......I still care a lot about her but the shit she does is foul even from a non-emotional, customer service standpoint....What can I do?.....Can I salvage this somehow?......
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