OTC can be Dangerous
johndough20020
Maryland
http://courts.state.md.us/appellate/unre…
I met a dancer for the first time at a club and got several dances with her. She asked to exchange numbers and we did. Subsequently she texted me on several occasions asking for rides around town. I made excuses because I wasn't familiar with her and I would rather be safe than sorry. I never saw her again.
My question is. Under what circumstances (time, intuition, etc) do you feel comfortable with OTC?
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I try to make my OTCs more like real dates (dinner and some other activity before getting down) and not pump-and-dumps at Motel 6s, though. On the other hand, the document seems to imply he was her regular customer for almost a month before the incident happened. If a dancer built up a sense of familiarity with me like that, I can easily see myself falling for it. I'd like to think I would listen to my instincts when something seemed off, though.
People get run over by cars, people get hit by lighting, caught in crossfire in robberies.
SJG
Some girls are sweet and bubbly (OTC them)
Some girls appear like they would hang around thugs(avoid those)
(Tattoos) (slang talk) (rougher disposition)(ghetto)
The type of girls you see in hip hop videos................
If someone robs me, hopefully karma catches up with them and puts them behind bars for life or worse.
Some females are weird. I remember one dancer said before she had sex with anyone, he would have to get a BJ first to show that he trusted her. I was thinking, why is she telling me this? I guess everyone can have trust issues.
In both instances, there could have easily been a pimp or bad boy boyfriend lurking. The strippers could have also been armed themselves. The other two outings were just super lousy fucks.
Lesson learned is to take the time to get to know a potential OTC partner. Build some trust.
As others have mentioned probably a good idea to spend a few extra bucks for a higher-end hotel w/ better security and not a good idea to go to their place/hotel unless you've known her for a good while and have OTCed w/ her b/f - there are no guarantees of zero risk one just needs to be self-aware and take basic common-sense precautions and not throw caution to the wind.
Also, dancers that have been at the same club for a while or been dancing for a while tend to be more reliable but again no guarantee.
I can't blame him for using a cheaper place. I stay in nicer places on the road, which helps if I am picking up a strange stripper for OTC, but I don't drop wads on hotel rooms to meet up with local strippers that I already know ITC. I doubt that most local OTC hounds do.
Also, all the texting is not that uncommon, especially for girls who have SOs and/or kids at home, so that wouldn't have triggered any alarms either for me.
About the only thing I can blame him for is not being on high alert after someone had already knocked and she had tried to get him to open the door. That is just not normal. After that, he should never have let her leave with his key In fact, if it was me and she interrupted a blow jpb to go out of the room to "get a soda" after that had already happened, I am certain that I would have tossed her out. But there is no way to know how much experience he had doing OTC or how high/drunk he was, which might have contributed to him not recognizing what was happening.