Approaching the woman for a dance?
Estafador
BIG APPLE
I've said for the longest time.e I'd never approach a woman in the strip for a dance and I've held steadfast to that for years. But I always gave my reasons but never had the experience to back it up. So I think I'll give it a shot just to see whether my ideas about it are true or whether I've been shooting myself in the foot for years.
Problem: I don't know if there's a right or wrong way to do this. Usually the hottest ones (IMO) are either busy in their phone or talking to another stripper, I have a feeling just tapping their shoulder from behind may be seen as creepy or just rude especially if their talking to their fellow girlfriends. Any thoughts on this fellas (and ladies, I see you lowpaw).
Problem: I don't know if there's a right or wrong way to do this. Usually the hottest ones (IMO) are either busy in their phone or talking to another stripper, I have a feeling just tapping their shoulder from behind may be seen as creepy or just rude especially if their talking to their fellow girlfriends. Any thoughts on this fellas (and ladies, I see you lowpaw).
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I've approached all kinds of situations, just like normal chicks, except these girls are more receptive as they have a chance at money. Alone on phone, with other strippers, wandering around, whatever, it's all been good.
The only thing I haven't done is when she's sitting with another PL, but only for consideration of the customer, I'd hate some fuck interrupting me, so I don't do it. If really interested, get a staff member to express your interest if she's occupied. Staff members talking to girls with customers is normal as it could be work related. Who knows, maybe she's with a no pay idiot and may be over sooner than you think.
One just needs to decide if it's better ro go home w/o getting with the dancer(s) one wants or make one's own luck.
How to ask her? How about just going up to her and asking her "you wanna do some dances" or "would gou like to have a drink at ny table". Is not as if you're trying to pick up a chick at a regular-bar.
Only time it does not work is if they are already with another PL, but even so, they often walk by after their stage set and say they'll see me in a little while.
For me approaching a dancer is a crap shoot. I've been lucky so far that it has always worked out, but I generally don't do it all that often anymore. I approached them when they were alone or talking to another stripper. I didn't come up from behind them but maneuvered in a way to approach them so that they could see me and made eye contact as I got closer. Once I used another dancer who was sitting with me to go get the dancer that I wanted from the DR. Asking (and tipping) a waitress to go get a dancer works well , especially if the waitress knows you as a regular or if you tip her enough. As a lady customer I have had plenty of guys approach a dancer when she was sitting with me. They don't realize that I am a customer, and I only get pissed if the dancer decides to get up and go with the guy. Then she'll never get another cent out of me. It happened once where the dancer excused herself to go dance for the guy who came over to us and interrupted us, and she must have assumed that I would be sitting there waiting for her to come back. Yeah, right. She came back and I already had another girl with me. When I was done with the new girl she tried to come and talk to me but I ignored her and walked right past her, leaving her slack jawed. Dumb bitch. I hope she learned to never do that to anybody ever again.
My experience has been the oppsite. Any eye contact will attract unwanted dancers. The ones I usually want, I have to be direct. Because they don't approach based on eye contact alone.
or, maybe one in the same, they don't want to risk rejection because they don't have to if they are hot enough to do well w/o approaching.
Sitting in a spot the girls travel by helps too. And waitresses are a good resource as mentioned above.
The most memorable time I approached a dancer turned out wonderfully for me, and her. I had just arrived at a club and was standing at the bar surveying the situation. Beautiful Latina on stage, club about half full, music blasting away. Then she walked by. A certifiable goddess. She walked over to an empty table and sat down. With 30 seconds I was asking her if I could join her. It was the start of a great evening and a four year relationship, mostly OTC. I just ended it last fall but it sure was fun while it lasted.
I never hesitate to approach a girl if I feel I need to. Thankfully, I usually don't need to.
I've always had the view that it is the dancer's job to approach the customer and not the other way around. If she wants to make money, she has to work for it. I've never appraoched a dancer to ask for dances, but then again, I've never really had to. I know I have missed out on 1 or 2 I would've really wanted to get dances with, but that is no big loss to me. Over the years, I have consistenly been approached by close to half of the dancers working on any given night, and most of the time I get approached by the hottest ones there.
One thing other posters have mentioned is tipping her big when she is on stage. I have actually tried this before and it worked...to the point that I instantly became her #1 choice to approach for a dance. It is true what they say, sometimes these girls are shy and won't approach unless they are certain they won't face rejection. Tipping her big on stage is a good way to assure her she won't be rejected.
@estafador - you're making this way too complicated. set what terms? it's a strip club, everything is standardized. you're not asking her to marry you and bear your children. you're asking her for a dance. the attitude you should have is that you're giving her a chance to audition for you and sell herself to you, and if you don't like her you can immediately send her away. if you walk into a club with $100 for dances, why wouldn't you choose to spend it on a girl or girls that you think are hot, instead of just the first girl that approaches you? what is the worst thing that can happen? she gives you a lousy dance, you send her away, and you move on to your 2nd choice.
and yeah, it's the same in regular clubs or anywhere else. you're the guy, it's up to you to approach and make things happen. if a girl says no then she wasn't the right one, but if you keep putting yourself out there and meeting people eventually you'll figure out what you want and meet someone who is right
Dancers of course want money. All kinds of excuses you can make for handing a girl money.
Better to talk to her, and as possible initiate feeling up and GFE.
SJG
When I first started SCing I felt similar on the thought I shouldn't have to approach them. Slow nights and not having got any dances is what made me ask. And now I know asking may turn out to be a good experience. A far as asking, I won't interrupt if she's talking to another stripper, but I'll stop her in passing and/or approach her if she's alone. As someone mentioned asking a bouncer, waitress, or fellow stripper works too but then you're tipping if you're nice.
It can be just sitting at her stage. But you want to wait until she is on the stage and in action, before you approach and sit down. You want her to see that you are responding to her.
But buying dances is for chumps.
SJG
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Eugen Grosche, occultist, huge contribution to sex magik.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eugen_Gros…
Lots of books, but not in libraries or Amazon. What I can find as used books seem to be in German. Large influence behind Kenneth Grant, but his books are also hard to come by.
http://www.parareligion.ch/fs1.htm
also known as Gregor A. Gregorius, but still available books only used and in German:
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Gnostic Mass Video, Shining Star, Atlanta Georgia, James and Nancy Wasserman
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The mid thirties MILF I see periodically would never have approached me. She told me so; said I wasn't the type with whom she usually clicks.
A couple years later, and we're meeting for sex every couple of months.
That's the kind of thing that makes me never even hesitate to approach.
You want the girl to see that you are not afraid of rejection, and that you really want her over the others.
Just looking at them but not acting can make them leery about you.
SJG
Mexico City!
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SJG
The last time I did approach a dancer was because she was the hottest dancer I ever saw in my life, just my type as well, and it was a packed Sat. night so hot girls were at a premium. I had a drool spot from watching her for an hour as she was busy with lots of other PL's. Finally she drifted by me and I looked her in the eye and said hi. She gave me a smile and said her name which I didn't catch, so I said, "It's too loud in here, let's go to VIP!".
Easiest sale she ever made. But the joke was on me because her dances were quite lame. Oh well.
Easiest sale she ever made. But the joke was on me because her dances were quite lame. Oh well."
Rock -- ironically, I'd say this story belongs solidly in the "how do you know someone is a SC newbie" thread. Spend VIP money just because you fell in puppy love watching her wander around? Goes to prove even we old hands can get caught up in hormones and poor decisions, despite ourselves.
@Ch3ll that's exactly why I'm trying to do this the best way possible. Even if my initial misgivings are right still wanna say I tried.
@rockstar lol come on bro, you been here too long for that