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Tapped Out: Need real intimacy

GACA
Un-retired: Met my ATF. Married her. Divorcing her.
Ya I started this journey because I wanted access to easy, but hot pussy. Found easy and hot enough. Found girls who help me have a good time. Other side of 30's and now I just want to cuddle up and be with someone I love and loves me back. Understanding I may have codependent tendencies.

Twisted they maybe, the stripper devotion to their BFs is getting me a little jealous. I know marriages are high-risk low reward sometimes. But dammit I enjoyed the rush of oxytocin that flooded my mind and body when my cuddle buddy was still here.

I didn't realize I needed that in my life until she left. Haven't gone on a real date with the intentions of finding a cuddle buddy in a long while.

Suggestions... where did some of you guys find success.

22 comments

  • GoVikings
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    7 years ago
    GACA is leaving us. :-(
  • Call.Me.Ishmael
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    7 years ago
    Go volunteer in some capacity for a charity, cause, or non-profit that is involved in an area that you deeply care about. You'll find yourself surrounded by people who have many of your core values, priorities, and mindsets.

    I know a lot of people who met their long-term partner that way (involving marriage or not). And, it seems that those relationships have a higher chance of survival.

    The side benefit is a new cadre of like-minded friends, which is also nice.

    I hope this helps. Good luck.
  • GACA
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    7 years ago
    I'm not leaving....no way. But I do have to find more sustainable highs. Going to strip clubs at this point isn't working for me
  • sharkhunter
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    7 years ago
    Some strippers have acted like my gf so much, others thought they were in the past. I didn't even see one dancer for over 3 months and shortly after seeing me, she plops down in my lap asking me where I've been. I guess if you want to wake up with someone, that's a different story. One dancer one time thought I wanted to date her. She told me she had 5 kids. We never went out. I didn't want to get that involved. I just find it amazing how quickly some girls seem to bond to you sometimes even without any sex taking place. Maybe it does have something to do with oxytocin getting released.
  • GoVikings
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    7 years ago
    oooooo what a relief it is!

    :)
  • twentyfive
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    7 years ago
    Take two aspirin and post in the morning you'ii feel much better.
  • sharkhunter
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    7 years ago
    Dress up and go to church in the morning. Pick out a hottie and ask for her number.
    Before you know it, we'll all wonder, what happened to GACA?
  • anonlvone
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    7 years ago
    yeah, be careful with that advice, you have no idea how freaky some of those church girls are. you just might find one on a web cam or in a strip club lol
  • shadowcat
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    7 years ago
    Here is the answer that you have been looking for.

    http://thesnugglebuddies.com/
  • Papi_Chulo
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    7 years ago
    Man - I knew a guy that went thru the exact same-thing as you - turned out he was gay - not that there's anything wrong we that - we still support you GACA
  • Papi_Chulo
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    7 years ago
    JITP (just in time pussy) is hard to for-go - give it a break for a little-while and then once you go-back and it's fresher you gonna think "man what was I thinking giving up fine JITP"
  • georgmicrodong
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    7 years ago
    Believe it or not, GACA, I found that in a strip club. Several time. It's not *good* sex unless there's cuddling afterwards, and I've been fortunate enough to find that sort of thing on the regular. And, with one notable exception, without the encumbrance of romantic emotional attachment.

    One escort too, if you can believe it. She actually *likes* the fact that I like to just lay there and cuddle afterwards. We've both dozed off a number of times.
  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    Marriage sucks, a death trap. But strip clubs are not a solution to anything. They just show you that maybe things don't need to be the way they are.

    The group I am building will solve all of these problems and many more. Marriage is not the answer. But its other pole, prostitution, is not really either.

    Remember also, given the chance, a woman will use your need for intimacy to destroy you.

    Demonstration of the Lesser Banishing Ritual of the Pentagram
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63UJFKEP…
  • GACA
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    7 years ago
    Shadow brings up a good point , is the a cuddling section in BP?
  • jackslash
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    7 years ago
    Dogs and cats are for cuddling. Strippers are for sex. (Don't get these things reversed!)
  • Papi_Chulo
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    7 years ago
    ^ LOL = great tip!
  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    GACA, if you want intimacy, you certainly picked the wrong node on the Internet to talk about it.

    SJG

    Demonstration of the Lesser Banishing Ritual of the Pentagram
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63UJFKEP…

    Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn®: 5a. Banishing Pentagram Ritual. Emerald Tablet & the Golden Dawn
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7qRGf9oK…

    The Lesser Banishing Ritual Of The Pentagram. Hermetic Qabalah )O(
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d48Ldk-T…

    What does the Lesser Banishing Do?
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OnldkkIG…

    Typhonian Order
    http://www.parareligion.ch/staley.htm

    Some thoughts about daily performance of the LBRP
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JBlKArZg…

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eugen_Gros…

    http://fraternitas.de/home.htm

    http://www.parareligion.ch/fs1.htm

    Lesser Banishing Ritual of the Pentagram (LBRP), Blazing Star O.T.O., Oakland
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mquKZg-O…

    http://www.inthestudio.net/wp-content/up…

    David Shoemaker
    https://www.amazon.com/Living-Thelema-Pr…

    Living Thelema : a practical guide to attainment in Aleister Crowley's system of Magick / David Shoemaker
    Looks like a good introduction to Crowley practices. In libraries.

    Sammy Hagar, Standing Hampton
    http://www.inthestudio.net/wp-content/up…
  • larryfisherman
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    7 years ago
    Jackslash FTW
  • timothyjames55
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    7 years ago
    I feel you dude. I've been growing weary lately of OTC, and I never even dabbled in anything ITC... I wouldn't be able to perform.

    My buddy asked me the other day: "With $1,000 would you rather go OTC with your favorite stripper, or spend it all in the club doing your normal club routine, of course with no release." - I told him that these days, I'd prefer the club. It's more exciting, I enjoy the ambiance, the attention and the variety.
  • pensionking
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    7 years ago
    Attend a sex addicts anonymous meeting. Play hard to get.
  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    GACA, men who need female intimacy and affirmation, get steam rollered flat to the pavement. Believe me, I know.

    SJG
  • sharkhunter
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    7 years ago
    Just imagine you got married, she gained 150 pounds, she does nothing but yell at you, tells you what to do all the time and blows through all your money and is running up thousands on credit cards, of course she is Not interested in sex but even if she was, you would want her to take a shower first because she stinks only bothering to wash herself once a week.
    Then you wake up and think how lucky you are.
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