What are some signs a stripper is willing to push the boundaries of the club?

Unzipping your pants during the dance is a clue.

it should be totally obvious.

If she slides her hands under your pants or shorts and underwear too, that could be a sign.

She rubs her nose while pulling on her earlobe - dead giveaway for us pros

If you're looking for your penis and can't find-it and then notice it's in her mouth, she may be up to something

Golly gee - lets see - if she has a sign on her back - that says "fuck me" - you might have a live one... or if she coughs and a sling of cum lands on your shoe - could be a sign...

You won't get extras from a dancer who doesn't do extras, no matter what you say. Occasionally money will help, but even that's not a sure thing. Girls that willingly do extras have a way of letting you know that; see the above comments.

When she tells you that she *really* likes your harpsichord.

I had one who accidentally showed me that she had condoms in her purse and then said "at least your know I use them". Do you think she was trying to tell me something?

In Metro Detroit she will usually say: "I want to suck your cock". Or, "I want to fuck you". Followed by how much $ it will cost you.

There isn't anything subtle about it...

I'm really mad at myself for missing these signs all these years.

Heh, everyone's a comedian!

dagin, in the places I've SCed, there's no reason to try to divine her intentions. As above, either the "signs" are obvious, or I just ask, or I have enough fun with her at the table that she's worth a dance to find out. I don't think "looking for signs" is the right mindset or approach

When you're at a strip club looking for extras, you need to be an alpha male. This means if you're usually timid about these things but looking for a nut, you need neee to flex your personality from beta to alpha. There aren't secret codes, and these girls are used to being asked these questions and have no problem telling you their strict limits (or lack thereof).

Just ask, and you can always do so discretely if it makes you more comfortable (ex: "what's on your menu"). If you look for signs forever rather than being upfront with what you are looking, you're gonna keep wasting money on dances from girls who aren't providing what you want, or getting had by dancers who see you're a beta and milk your wallet without putting out.

You see Larryfishdick posts 5 threads like this every day and now they are just gonna continue.

If you can't pick up a clue on extras then you are not gonna find them.

As Juice said you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him fuck it. Don't listen to Juice years of eating paint chips and living under power lines really messed him up.

Yeah; just ask.

But if you fail to prepare then prepare to fail - e.g.:

1) know what you want and discuss that upfront; not once you have paid up for a room/VIP or paid-up anything period

2) know the going rate so you won't get ripped-off

3) as much as you can avoid-it, try to never pay upfront - once she has your $$$ she can choose not to do shit and you ain't getting your $$$ back - not saying every girl that wants upfront payment won't follow-thru; but it def happens (there's no honor among those in the sex biz) - some girls themselves also get ripped-off by custies not paying afterwards so some are insistent on upfront payment but I hold my ground; best I do is show her I have the $$$ and then put it so where she can't get to it once your pants are around your ankles


Of course all of this is pretty-much mute depending on 3-things; location, location, location - many areas/cities have very strict local-ordinances thus most clubs in those areas have a tight-lid on extracurricular activities - but if not in one of those area/cities, often times clubs look the other way in a "what happens in VIP stays in VIP" way

Once again two words answer this post, as is so often the case. Just ask. You don't need signs.

Wait for a full-moon and a low-tide; then you're golden

Know if it's an extras club before going, especially if it's done in side the VIP. If a dancer in that club is pushing the VIP, then ask.

a21985 makes a good point. Since dancers want as much money for as little activity as possible, you'll miss out on extras if you're will to pay her for a normal dance. If you offer more for extras, it may open a door.

A stripper's handshake doesn't mean anything. I once took a large breasted stripper to VIP for that reason and she wouldn't even let me touch her tits! Another time a dancer reached into my pants while dancing, but then got coy when I tried to "grab her by the pussy."

The times I've been offered extras, it was pretty straightforward and I wasn't even looking for it. A dancer at Olympic Garden (LV) gave me her business card, for Escorting, and told me to call her.

Then there was the Olympic Garden (LV) dancer who steered the conversation towards her evolution as a dancer, explaining that at first she had told herself, "I would never do that, or that. But soon," she said, looking straight into my eyes, "you're just another whore."

Another time I was exiting VIP with a dancer at Cheetahs (LV), she told me she was going to be getting off work soon, and asked what hotel I was staying in. Since she never mentioned money though, that may not have been an offer of prostitution.

Then there was the Cheetahs (LV) dancer who, after learning I had taken a taxi to the club, offered to give me a ride home. At the very first intersection she unbuttoned her blouse and put my hand on her thigh. lol

@ LDK:

What you described IME is more often what the teasers do, vs the extras girls

Thanks for your "valuable" advice. I've had plenty of success with extras in SCs. But only after I got a few lapdances.

Over time, I learned that strippers usually touch me in a special way indicating that she might be willing to push the boundaries. I usually get this when I tip her at the stage. A dancer with strict boundaries on the other hand, does the bare minimum in a somewhat regimental fashion. No matter how hot she is, such a regimental and obligatory touch doesn't feel sexy at all.

I just wanted to find out if others' experience was the same. I shouldn't have to waste money on lapdances just to find out if a dancer is open for extras. Asking directly offends people outright.

I don't think there are any hard and fast rules unless you actually discuss it. I'm not an "extras" guy. I look for girls who are willing to offer high mileage dances. Sometimes I can tell just by the way a girl approaches me on stage that she is willing to push the boundaries with me. On the other hand, you can also meet hustlers who will deliberately mislead you about the amount of mileage you can get. Imo unless you actually discuss it you can never be sure. And if a dancer gets offended because you asked about mileage or extras or whatever, then obviously she's not the dancer you're looking for.

FYI: What you call wasting money on lapdances, a stripper might consider the price of admission. Whether a girl is high mileage or not is often relative on a number of factors, one of them being how much money you're willing to spend on her. To put it bluntly, if you spend $300 you're not getting anything more than some hot lap dances. If you spend over that amount, the dancer will reward you with greater mileage. Same principle is often at work to determine whether a particular dancer is willing to offer you extras or not.

As for getting offended, that is also completely relative. One girl will get offended if you touch her breasts. Another will place your hands on her breasts. Same thing applies to vaginas. Same thing applies to extras. Do you think the girl who gave me her business card would have been offended if I had asked her about extras?

Of course $300 is just chosen at random. For some girls $60 might be the cost of admission. For others it might be $600.

-->"I just wanted to find out if others' experience was the same."

Well, as you found out, our experience isn't the same :) Some girls give you very obvious signs, and things are clear enough then. Well, except not always -- there are zillions of girls whose hustle is giving you those "signs", so that you spend money on them, and then not delivering the extras, under the (true) claim that they never promised you anything. There's a stripper at a non-extras club who I see OTC, and she was telling me how she works that angle hard, she won't outright lie, but touches in sensitive places and insinuates -- and then the guy takes her in the back and gets a regular ol' dance, all that's ever possible in this club anyway, and she walks away with the money of yet another sucker who "read the signs".

The two things in your post that I'd key in on:
-->"I shouldn't have to waste money on lapdances just to find out if a dancer is open for extras."

True, if that's not your thing. On the other hand, if you're so goal-oriented that you just want to meet and know for sure immediately, have you looked at escorts? Most guys I know who resent paying $20 end up with escorts, eventually.

-->"Asking directly offends people outright."

I'm not trying to be snarky or insulting here... I've been doing this for over 2 decades, I've never had a dancer act super offended; a few were obviously mildly irritated since they knew once they said "no" I wouldn't be spending money on them. The reason so many of us are saying "just ask" isn't because we're trying to be glib and douchey -- it's because all of us (except you) don't ever experience strippers getting super offended, and in fact, it's the best way to just get a straight answer, without having to read the signs or get suckered in by the many many girls for whom those "signs" are nothing but empty hustle. Seriously, if strippers are getting offended by you asking, the best bang for your buck is to practice your demeanor and wording so that you stop offending the strippers ... these girls are not easy to offend, so this is probably low-hanging fruit that will pay huge dividends for you.

"Seriously, if strippers are getting offended by you asking, the best bang for your buck is to practice your demeanor and wording so that you stop offending the strippers" - good point, I was going to say much the same thing, but was worried how it might be taken. strippers get asked these questions all day every day, so if you're offending them you probably need to think about how you are approaching them and how you're coming across.

Many strippers are sharks and will eat up PLs when they smell blood (aka weakness or inexperience) .

If extras are offered at the clubs you visit then dancers getting asked for them is part of the fabric of such a club.

Strip clubs are not the real world, they are bizarro-world, the same rules don't apply (where else in society do women get naked for strange men that let them grope them) - you are using civvie thinking to deal with a different animal - if you use civvy real-world logic with strippers in strip-clubs you are pretty-much sabotaging your experience at the club. The interactiom b/w custies and dancers is often a game and one needs to know and accept the game lest one is constantly played and left broke and blue-balled.

Customers go to strip clubs and often spend good $$$ and it should be to get what they want, no sense in spending big-bucks and not getting shit b/c one is afraid to "offend someon", might as well not go - dancers are not afraid to go for what they want which is to get as much of your $$$ as they can while doing the least, and many custies just sit gthere like lumps and don't assert themselves and what they want for the $$$ they are spending - strip clubs are about business and getting your $$$, not courtship .- many of thes girls use chumps to get their $$$ and then they go fuck their BFs and trat their BFs to dinner with the $$$ they manipulate from chumps, or many use it for their drugs while all you vot was not "offending someone".

This is not meant to beat you down, just some harsh trues about the often seedie world of sex and strip clubs - the dancers are there to please you and that is why one pays them, does not make sense to pay them for them to do what they like - find the dancers that will give what you want or don't spend on them if fhey have no interest in what you want.

If you've had "plenty of success" with extras in clubs but are still afraid of offending a stripper by asking her outright, then not only have you been incredibly lucky, but you probably could stand to learn how to ask tactfully. These women are groped at, oogled, have heard it at all and in some cases have sex for a living. They have much bigger metaphorical balls and thicker skin than you give them credit for.

Ramming her tongue into your mouth while squeezing your cock. Shoving her pussy into your face while pulling your head into her. Telling you where she lives. If this is happening, you continue it and then invite her to the back room and then to come home with you to continue.

If this is not happening in the front room, but she is talking about what she will do in the back room, shine her on. Do not buy dances, as that is a chump's game.

SJG