Don't like a stripper I like dancing for others.

Congratulations, you are a PL.

Of course your feeling is ridiculous. But understandable. You're jealous because the girl you like is rubbing herself all over other guys. But unlike other women you know, she is a stripper and her job is to rub herself on guys. This is how she makes her living. She is not going to stop (unless you do something really stupid and pathetic like dating her and marrying her.)

Have I ever felt this way about a favorite dancer? Sure.

What can you do about it? You can keep repeating to yourself that this is a business. You would not expect your favorite bank teller not to serve other customers. You can train yourself not to think about what she is doing with other guys. You can go to the club, get as many dances as you can afford with her, and then get out so you don't see her dancing for others.

Jackslash said it all.

You can lock her down just takes money.

Get over it. That's not meant in a flippant manner, either. Get over it, or you'll go crazy.

It's a slippery slope. If you go down it, there's no telling what might go down the rabbit hole with you. Job, family, marriage, career, savings, etc.

Take it from some who knows, best to leave and never go back to that club if she is workng there.
Find another club where you don't have any feelings for any of the girls if you can't stay away from the SC.

What jackslash said.

Yes, it's ridiculous. But, the first step to solving a problem is admitting that you have a problem. So, that's in your favor.

Keep in mind that strippers love guys like you (no... not that kind of love), because your jealousy = her new big-screen TV.

Yeah it is. To them and should be to you too, it's like a waitress/bartender etc serving another customer. Part of the job. And would you get upset if they did so?

I look at it this way, if she's dancing for other guys she's making money. And if she's making money when she comes to me 1. she'll be in a much more upbeat mood and 2. may not be as concerned about hitting goal and can have some extra free time with... might not work as well if you're looking for extra play.

If you can't get over it, this might not be the right activity for you. There's plenty of other areas of the sex industry where you don't have to worry about 20 other potential customers being right in the room -- everything from escorts, to sensual massage, to sugaring. The whole point of this activity is going to be fun, and it's going to be a hard road if you can't handle strip club dynamics... you'll end up one of those truly extra-pathetic PLs who is constantly heartbroken & jealous.

I will say that the other option is to just lock your girl down the entire time you're there. That's what I do, but unless you have a huge wallet (I do not), that requires finding a slow-hustle club and going during the slower times, and at least spending fairly.

As others have said, she's there to make $$$, not look for her Romeo (and custies should not be there looking for their Juliet) - that is how she makes her living and pays her bills, else she wouldn't be there rubbing herself on strangers, she only does it b/c she's getting paid.

So in a way you wanting her for yourself is not only "ridiculous" but actually selfish b/c you may be keeping her from maximizing her earnings.

You def need to be careful of becoming a RIL (see Glossary at bottom of page), newbies can often get burned bad in strip-club bizarro world (99% of what one experiences in SCs is a mirage no matter how good it looks or feels) .

Experienced SCers know how to lock down a dancer to where it still works out for the dancer - as in any "relationship", communication Is important and as the saying goes "you don't get if you don't ask" - if you spend a good-amount on dances then you are a good customer that she'll likely want to keep, thus you can be straight-up with her and say you are willing to spend $X on her on dances if she's willing to hang with you for Y-time, it may be worth it to her or not - many dancers will prefer sure $$$ than having to hustle custy after custy - and many dancers like to play hardball b/c they are used to easily manipulating custies, but often times if a custy stands his ground with a fair offer of sure $$$ the dancer will often come around after she sees she can't manipulate you (nit saying it works everytime though) .

And as a newbie you have to know the 2 most important rules of strip-clubbing:

1) Don't fall in-love with a stripper

2) Don't forget rule #1

Theres a guy named larryfisherman on here. He's 15 years old, I think you two would get along well.

Papi-->"As others have said, she's there to make $$$, not look for her Romeo (and custies should not be there looking for their Juliet) - that is how she makes her living and pays her bills, else she wouldn't be there rubbing herself on strangers, she only does it b/c she's getting paid.
So in a way you wanting her for yourself is not only "ridiculous" but actually selfish b/c you may be keeping her from maximizing her earnings."

Luv the papster, but have always had a slightly different bent on this. Obviously, the notion that you don't want your stripper dancing for others because you're jealous is ridiculous. On the other hand, I don't have the slightest qualms in saying, "my stripper is going to stay with me the entire time I'm there, and I'll pay her fairly for that, but otherwise, I'm moving on to the next stripper." As a customer of ANY business, it's goodness to know your own value, and hold the business accountable to honor that value. In addition, the strippers are grown-ass adult women, it's not my job to be her daddy and worry about whether she's maximizing her earnings on this particular trip. She's a big girl, she can decide whether it's better to have a consistent fair-paying regular, or lose that regular (and the regular income) and instead play the club and try to maximize her earnings today. I will NEVER understand the "I know you're working baby, go do some dances and then come back to me" guys -- unless they're specifically trying to get rid of her.

TL;DR: Jealousy = weak and ridiculous. Knowing your value as a customer and demanding be to treated to that standard = extra fun in the strip club

Yes, it is ridiculous to dislike her dancing for others (though not at all uncommon -- many of us have been there), but at least you're aware of it. My suggestions are to either (1) go to her club for a quick lap dance or few with her and then leave; (2) lock her down for your entire stay; or (3) avoid her club entirely, at least when she's working.

Over the past year, I have started, for the first time in my lengthy mongering career, to spend a few hours at my favorite day shift with one girl (or maybe two), buying the occasional dance but keeping her supplied with drinks and my scintillating conversation. As long as it's slow at the club and she gets some money, booze, and entertainment from you, you can sometimes keep a girl with you for hours.

The payoff comes when you're the regular she leaves other customers for, instead of the PL she leaves to join other customers.

-->"Over the past year, I have started, for the first time in my lengthy mongering career, to spend a few hours at my favorite day shift with one girl (or maybe two), buying the occasional dance but keeping her supplied with drinks and my scintillating conversation. As long as it's slow at the club and she gets some money, booze, and entertainment from you, you can sometimes keep a girl with you for hours."

Learning well, you are, young padawan

If you are into her exclusively, you can exchange #s and try to meet up w/ her at the club on a slow shift; lots of newbies/young-guys are used to partying on Fr/Sat nights and that is when they hit the strip-clubs but that is often the worst time to get good QoS; often times dancers are willing and able to give more time to custies when it's slow/slower - lots of dancers give out their # to good custies to get them to come in and spend $$$ on them; some dancers are reluctant to give out their # and that is when you need to make them aware of a burn-app such as "Sideline" where one does not give/use their real # (and PLs often prefer to use a burn-app also).

There is also OTC (outside the club) but that is a more advanced monger move and one needs to know what they are doing.

as been said.
get over it.
she is a stripper.
business.is. first.
business as usual.
otherwise marry her. butt still... this is business.

She needs to pay bills too, let her make her money.

You walk into a strip club, you must know how things work.

SJG

" I will NEVER understand the "I know you're working baby, go do some dances and then come back to me" guys -- unless they're specifically trying to get rid of her. "

I'm that guy. Whenever I arrive at my favorite club my CF hurries over, gives me a hug and kiss and joins me at the bar. We catch up on things for a little while before proceeding for lappers with quite a bit of mutual play. I give her a pretty good tip for her time. We chat a little while longer and share a bit more physical play. I usually tip a little more for this but then I tell her to go ahead and hustle.

I enjoy our time together a lot, but...
when I get an opportunity to go to a club I like to spend a bit of time there. She would stay with me the whole time if I wanted but I recognize it wouldn't be fair to her because I can't afford to pay her properly for all that time. I also enjoy a bit of variety so this gives me an opportunity to sample other dishes on the menu and cultivate relationships so I will have a plan B when CF isn't there.

This works for me, and for her or she wouldn't greet me with such gusto. This may be because I am being respectful of her needs. She is there to make $, and I wouldn't feel right preventing her from making what she can.

When she is with me, she gives me 100% of her attention, which allows me to enjoy the fantasy for that 1-2 hours.

I understand that my way of having fun at SCs isn't the same as most people, but that's okay.

@Subraman - Why do you think I call it "partying Subraman-style"? :)