Older dude problems
MrDeuce
Illinois
You young whippersnappers who never have any trouble getting it up and getting off, with strippers or otherwise, can ignore this thread. It is directed at my fellow 60+-year-olds who might have such issues.
I am 62 and have been strip clubbing regularly since I was 40. Through my 40s and most of my 50s I could and did lapgasm on almost every visit, often twice in the same day. In fact, once when I was about 45 I came twice from lap dances within four hours at the same club! Even well into my 50s I could come at one club in the afternoon and another at night, maybe 8 hours later. In summer 2013, when I was 59, I discovered the joys of the ITC blowjob, adding OTC blowjobs to my repertoire about a year ago. In retrospect this discovery extended my strip clubbing life by a few years, since BBBJs *always* got me off. Just last year I enjoyed two VIP rooms with BBBJ in just two hours.
I have tended to resist pharmaceutical enhancement, but in recent years I have sometimes taken 250 mg of Vitamin V before a strip club visit or OTC date, especially if it's a second club in the same day or two or an overnight date with two shots on goal.
This year I've noticed that my potency has taken a nosedive. I have visited my favorite non-extras club *hundreds* of times over the past 20 years and have historically lapgasmed about 80% of the time. As a matter of fact, during a stretch of a few years ending in spring of last year, I came about 75 times in a row there from lap dances! Well, that percentage is down to maybe 50% this year. Also, on a number of occasions this year, both in the VIP room and in bed with a favorite OTC girl, I have failed to climax.
My last strip club visits were on 10/31 and 11/1, when I successfully got BBBJCIMs at two different dive bars in Washington Park. It was right after these visits that things took a turn for the worse. On 11/1 I had a severely enlarged and tender testicle, which my doctor diagnosed as epididymitis. A prescription of the antibiotic cipro cleared this up within a few days. However, around that same time a routine health screening at work revealed a PSA score of 13, where the normal range is 0 to 4 (and my own score has always been between 0.8 and 1.4). At my GP's urging, I made an appointment for 12/20 with a urologist to find out if I have prostatitis (or worse).
To add to my concerns, I've noticed that I haven't had an erection for many days if not weeks, which is unprecedented. I had a tentative date for a sleepover on 12/12 with my ATF (dinner, bedtime and morning BJs, and brunch -- a lovely combination!), but when I tried to masturbate this morning and couldn't finish the job, I canceled the date, telling her that I was taking another month off from strip clubs and strippers and would see her early in the new year.
Have any of you gentlemen of a certain age experienced anything like this? How worried should I be? Can prostatitis cause impotence? I know that we're not doctors here, but I also know that many of you are 60+ and might have some relevant experience to share. This will weigh heavily on my mind until I can see the urologist on 12/20. On the other hand, I'm saving a bundle on lap dances and OTC dates during November-December!
Thanks in advance for any serious feedback!
I am 62 and have been strip clubbing regularly since I was 40. Through my 40s and most of my 50s I could and did lapgasm on almost every visit, often twice in the same day. In fact, once when I was about 45 I came twice from lap dances within four hours at the same club! Even well into my 50s I could come at one club in the afternoon and another at night, maybe 8 hours later. In summer 2013, when I was 59, I discovered the joys of the ITC blowjob, adding OTC blowjobs to my repertoire about a year ago. In retrospect this discovery extended my strip clubbing life by a few years, since BBBJs *always* got me off. Just last year I enjoyed two VIP rooms with BBBJ in just two hours.
I have tended to resist pharmaceutical enhancement, but in recent years I have sometimes taken 250 mg of Vitamin V before a strip club visit or OTC date, especially if it's a second club in the same day or two or an overnight date with two shots on goal.
This year I've noticed that my potency has taken a nosedive. I have visited my favorite non-extras club *hundreds* of times over the past 20 years and have historically lapgasmed about 80% of the time. As a matter of fact, during a stretch of a few years ending in spring of last year, I came about 75 times in a row there from lap dances! Well, that percentage is down to maybe 50% this year. Also, on a number of occasions this year, both in the VIP room and in bed with a favorite OTC girl, I have failed to climax.
My last strip club visits were on 10/31 and 11/1, when I successfully got BBBJCIMs at two different dive bars in Washington Park. It was right after these visits that things took a turn for the worse. On 11/1 I had a severely enlarged and tender testicle, which my doctor diagnosed as epididymitis. A prescription of the antibiotic cipro cleared this up within a few days. However, around that same time a routine health screening at work revealed a PSA score of 13, where the normal range is 0 to 4 (and my own score has always been between 0.8 and 1.4). At my GP's urging, I made an appointment for 12/20 with a urologist to find out if I have prostatitis (or worse).
To add to my concerns, I've noticed that I haven't had an erection for many days if not weeks, which is unprecedented. I had a tentative date for a sleepover on 12/12 with my ATF (dinner, bedtime and morning BJs, and brunch -- a lovely combination!), but when I tried to masturbate this morning and couldn't finish the job, I canceled the date, telling her that I was taking another month off from strip clubs and strippers and would see her early in the new year.
Have any of you gentlemen of a certain age experienced anything like this? How worried should I be? Can prostatitis cause impotence? I know that we're not doctors here, but I also know that many of you are 60+ and might have some relevant experience to share. This will weigh heavily on my mind until I can see the urologist on 12/20. On the other hand, I'm saving a bundle on lap dances and OTC dates during November-December!
Thanks in advance for any serious feedback!
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Though I cannot prove this, I feel that most of it is psychological. Though perfectly "normal", it still just amounts to bodily capability which is being interdicted.
And then notice the link to Gawker's account of phenomenal age regression.
Mostly, as I see it, young guys want to cum. Old guys want to use their sexual abilities to seduce women. So we save it until really needed.
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SJG
justme62, I sympathize completely. Several times this year I have been blown by a gorgeous stripper, in the VIP room or in bed, and have not gotten off despite getting it up. On my last overnight date in October with my ATF, who is a very skilled and tireless fellatrix, the BJ at bedtime went fine but the morning one, 11-12 hours later, ended without orgasm despite her dedicated efforts. (I should clarify that our morning session ended without orgasm on *my* part, but as a result of our customary 69 position she had several!) I actually enjoyed the experience and thanked her profusely for giving it the old college try, but I would never have guessed a year ago that a BBBJ wouldn't get me off.
i also forgot another problem i have now... prostate issues. damn getting old.
I believe that the BPH had little to do with sexual performance issues. I think I'm just getting old. I've tried Viagra a few times and it seems helpful but not a miracle drug.
I really didn't want to hear the urologist when he started talking about surgery. But I finally broke down and took his advice, and I'm now glad I did. Your problem, Deuce, sounds a little more concerning than mine. I can only advise to keep that appointment on the 20th and do what the guy tells you. My operation was quick and without complications. The worst was two weeks of wearing a catheter, but that was soon over.
Good luck to you!
I do use 100mg of generic Viagra from India every time I anticipate having sexual relations of any sort. I also have a stash of the real thing that I save for when intercourse is expected. Getting it up for FS is really a hit or miss thing for me but I can usually fall back on a BBBJ to get the job done.
I did see a urologist for urination frequency getting me up too many times at night and he put me on .8mg of Flomax. My PSA was 4 but has since dropped to less than 3. The Flomax helped with the urination problem but had the side effect of retrograde ejaculations. That means my semen went into my bladder instead of blowing a load. The girls loved it.
In May of this year I had cancer surgery. I was in ICU for 2 weeks and went through 3 months of rehabilitation. When I first came home from the hospital after 3 weeks I became incontinent. I was using Depends and went to see my regular M.D about it. He thought that I was having bladder spasms and prescribed Vasicare for it. The incontinence cleared up in about a week but I noticed that my night time urination problem was much better than when I was using Flomax. I just saw my doc this last week and I asked him about the Vasicare because a Google search did not show it as a drug for BPH. So my doc thinks that I don't have a BPH problem after all and just a weak bladder.
So now I am back to normal ejaculations which feel much stronger that the retrograde ones. I'm staying on the Vasicare and using the generic Viagra on my twice a week trips to my favorite club. I'm saving the expensive real ones for my rare OTC experiences.
As for generic Viagra, I know 3 other guys using it from the same Indian pharmacy. We've never had any side effects from using them but I don't think that they are as potent as the real thing.
The volume of my ejaculate has diminished appreciably, also. Up until a couple of years ago I'd have 3 or 4 good spurts. Now I'm happy with a dribble. Some of this is directly attributable to the cardiac meds and some is old age, I'm sure.
I'm not giving credence to SJG but familiarity and new partner can affect my performance. About 6 months ago I ended up in the CR with a 23 year old mixed race dancer ( a true 9) who had captivated my attention and she uncharacteristically initiated intimacy. Kissing, feeling, removing our clothing and after blowing me asked me to fuck hrr hard. I was sitting while she reverse cowboyed me and she was wild and before I knew it I came inside her. She came about the same time and it was memorable sex. This wouldn't have happened with my ATF who I honestly have fucked about 1000 times over 8 years. So "something strange" can be a motivator, too.
Thanks for raising this topic, because as we age, it's a factor for most everyone.
A side note: 100% pure pomegranate juice works wonders ;)
I also have more of a numb dick than when I was younger. Almost like I'm wearing a thin condom all the time - harder to determine where I'm at and when I'm in. And then there's less control of the orgasm. I used to could time it, holding myself at the precipice for extended stroking action before finally releasing my load when I was ready. Now, it's more of a crapshoot - sometimes I cum way too early and other times labor like a motherfuck before finally spraying my decidedly less voluminous jizz.
And lastly, at nearly 60, women my age mostly don't float my boat. So, young strip club flesh of my ideal type (tall, willowy, and naturally breasted) is what I need to really rise to the occasion, and damn if they're not hard to find!
I dob't think condoms have been mentioned yet. If she tries to put a condom on my dick, she might as well stick it in a bowl of ice water. FS other than bare back is NOT going to work. It's a risk I'm willing to take but I am some what selective in who I do it with.
:)
Dont drink any caffeine (I suspect my ED is caused by coffee addiction). Dont jerk off for a few days before SCing. Condoms are ice water for me. If you can't get hard watching porn, you wont get hard ITC, so always test johnny but dont cum, before going to the SC.
I have heard the studies about ED at an early age being related to health issues. One suggested that you could expect a cardio event within the first 3 years of experiencing ED. Like above comments, we eat shit, sit on our asses all day. Personally, I hate my late 40's, I miss being able to get 2 off in the morning and then 2 off in the evening. Sometimes, now days she needs to be a really freaky woman to get me going.
So what I am trying to say, Try to eat better, no processed foods and take a fucking walk. Try and see a doctor and get to know your body.
Personally, Right now.. Before I go back on a stain, I would rather take a bullet.
"Getting old sucks!"
Beats the alternative!
If SJG is to be believed, my erectile issues are solely attributable to my not being a social justice warrior and to being stuck in fuddy-duddy ways of thinking. Should I send money to Jill Stein's pointless recount efforts and join in the anti-Trump riots? Fuck that!
But consider this, most guys wake up with a hard on. So long as that is there, and one does not ejaculate, then that should be there and available at anytime from then on, unless perhaps one gets too fatigued or intoxicated.
But what seems to actually happen is that one's daily concerns get in the way.
Once one stripper at the Sunnyvale Brass Rail was really showering me with attention, mostly close views of her ass. So I told her the truth. "This is just like jr high school all over again." She thought that was funny.
Young guys get hard ons all the time, when they are not needed.
Older guys seem to only get hard when it is needed, as when it is to be used.
Thing is though, there are more complex psychological issues in play. As I see it, the prospect of possessing the woman is a huge part of it. He might be paying her. This is not really important. But he has to feel that she is really offering herself to him and wants to be possessed. This matters for the older guy, much more so than for the younger guy. For an older guy, hard ons are there when they are needed, when they will be put to effective use.
Now I am not an anti-feminist. But rather life is much more complex under the surface than it may look.
Suffice to say, time and energy spent regularly getting in touch with one's feelings. Healthy habits, exercise and bodily awareness, and then just clarity of your intentions when going after a prospect, this should do it.
If it is there when you wake up, but not there after you are out and about and tending to your affairs, to me it seems like the issue is psychological and highly related to what is going on in your life. Yes, of course this is 'normal'. Older guys are more responsible in what they do, they look at a bigger picture. So the seeming loss will usually not be easily reversed. But I believe that with the above items I have listed, it can be reversed.
Sexual Performance Anxiety
www.youtube.com/watch?v=3NLw8Sqrt4o
SJG
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LpErgTX8…
And notice that all this material is focusing on the psychological dimensions.
SJG
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OVXzT_RB…
Psychological issues, just life distress, is a big factor. But then it also comes down to circulation issues. And this is highly effected by diet, exercise, and smoking.
And then diabetes is a huge issue. Most people who have diabetes do not know it.
What I am reading is that it makes it feel like you don't have good circulation in your extremities. But in fact, it sounds like the real issue is that you blood does not work well anymore, because it is so high sugar.
And then caffeine causes high blood sugar, even above and beyond what additional sugar the caffeinated beverage might be introducing. Very easy to become addicted to a caffeine and sugar diet.
And then of course these chemical enhancers solve nothing, they just make you dependent on them.
SJG
High heels, tacones, always make the girl, TJ Street Girlhttp://i466.photobucket.com/albums/rr23/archie6…
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Most people with diabetes do not even know it. Or maybe they are just pre-diabetes.
SJG
Capability declines with age?
https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=3…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LpErgTX8…
Again suggesting that declining capability is not irreversible.
SJG
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eglG7Uey…
I think we all need a better diet. This is how I feel, at least for myself.
Viet Coffee shops, no good!
SJG
SJG
I want back now the sexual functionality I used to have. I believe this can be obtained, diet, exercise, and mostly meditation exercises ( sexual yoga ), getting more clear on what I am doing.
SJG
My wife was never sexualized enough to be able to satisfy me. She just didn't really understand it.
:)
SJG
High heels, tacones, always make the girl, 19yo TJ Street Girl
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SJG