Swingers party

If you don't want to be an ex-friend skip this one, that's my advice.

Go and experience it for yourself. It's not absolutely required that you bang anyone. Satisfy your curiosity.

Just sorts curious why he suggested me (and wondering if he really did or if she just is t telling him), her and me sorta have a past a long time ago.

And I am curious, this is just whole new level of kink, even for me!

I'm too old for that shit now and in my younger days I wouldn't have gone to one. If I have a good thing, I'm not sharing.

Shadowcat, I sorta agree, who wants to share their significant other. On the other hand, nothing like sampling the buffet. I'M SO CONFUSED! I need guidance on this one.

I'm with shadow. I have a fuck buddy now and we constantly try to out-do each other in sexual kink. We have debated going to a swingers club - our main attraction was to fuck in front of other people but we decided to pass because neither one of us want to share, and we really don't want to see some fat fucks running around naked.

Question, does anyone think I should call her husband and talk to him? My only real fear there is that he doesn't know anything about it.

If you think for a second she is not being honest you should back out. Unless you can get her to get him to give you the ok. You would have to drop hints about swinging around him to get him to confess otherwise. Calling him and asking is not going to end good. Going when you think she is not honest is not going to end good. Since she told you that you are not hooking up with her, She is probably just using you cause she knows there is someone going that she wants and hubby won't be there. You will probably spend the night talking on the side lines unless you catch someone else's eye.

Swinging is NOT like in the movies. Usually lots of stressed out people and sometimes high stakes drama. With that said, I fucking love going to a house party with nekid people fucking all over the place. And there is nothing like the ego boost when a woman grabs you by the dick, as apposed to grabbing her by the pussy. Cause lets face it I am not famous.
I am not in the shape I once was and well that shit just doesn't happen anymore. :(

Lots of people go and end up just watching, and being blow away by that experience.

Others go, but only fuck the person they came with. They really get off on being watched.

And the longer term harder core people do swap partners.

But these are very class based elitist environments, where married women have tremendous power.

SJG

HungryGiraffe + 1

Not my thing and not something I give much thought to but would go once just to see what it's like.

And w.r.t. the wife; wtf is not as if she's gonna force you to have sex w/ her - you are a fucking man and if she gets out of line then you should be able to handle that and you are also not a 21 y/o kid that couldn't say no when you should.

No brainer --GO! You are not disrespecting her hubby at all as long as you do not have sex with her. In fact, it might not even be disrespect to have sex WITH HER. This is obviously a lifestyle they lead. This is likely not her first rodeo. Her disclosure to her hubby is her business -- I would just assume she had his blessing until proven otherwise after the fact.

You only live once. Grab some gusto!!

When we look back at our lives, we will most regret those things we wish we had tried and didn't. Rarely do we reflect for long on things we tried and wished we hadn't. Think about this . . .

"... In fact, it might not even be disrespect to have sex WITH HER ..."

That's the way I see-it - it's one thing if you hit on someone's wife - different thing if she throws herself at you - one should still say no but if something goes down b/c she initiated it then that's on her.

If a dude banged my S.O. (if I had one) b/c she threw herself at him; my problem would be w/ her not him.

One thing I didn't say was years ago we were fuck buddies, and I actually introduced the two of them. She's in the past (but not recently) told me that if I ever needed a "release" she could help me out.

Like the Kinks said " Should I stay or should I go"

I've gone to swing clubs and house parties. Parties can be great, I'm not high on clubs, and they really aren't ideal for unattached guys.

I say go, but don't drink too mucheap and don't fuck her. Let her be your wing woman, telling the other women what a great fuck you are.

Fuck it, I'm calling him, let you know how I make out.

Thank you everyone for the suggestions.

Lol Impala, that was the Clash

For some people just being there, and watching, has really changed them.

SJG

Well, that started off as one of the most uncomfortable conversations I've ever had. Turns out that was both their idea, and he said that his wife has a couple of friends that she thinks I would have a ball with. He also gave me the green light with his wife (although I don't think that is a good idea but whatever), so I guess I will have an update after the weekend.

GOOD LUCK!

SJG

I'm not too shocked he was aware. Minimally enjoy her friends!

I would've not contacted the dude; that indeed would be awkward - she's a grown-up and I would leave it up to her to handle it her way - at the most I just would have asked her if he was on board w/ it; if she said yes that's good enough for me.

Nailed it!

Now circle back and restart this thread with details about your excellent adventure!!

most swingers are people you would not want to have sex with or even see having sex. not top shelf pussy like i can get through my dear celebrity friends. have i told you guys about the time i fucked scarlett johnson from the avenged iron man movies? she is top shelf pussy

I'd say pass on this one My wife and I go to swingers parties all the time. I let her hook up with whomever she wants as long as I feel it's safe for her. I can do the same. We nearly always are in the same room but there are exceptions of course assuming I/we know who she wants to hook up with VERY well.

It's a voyeurs paradise but best left to when her husband is there. Something seems a bit weird about this since he's not going to be there. IF the three of you had gone before I'd say it was probably ok, but not in this instance.

i've been to club fa in devore ca and green door in vegas twice each. as a single guy it costs about $100 for entrance. i'll go to club fa again ONLY if a girl goes with me. cheaper entrance. and the girl is a bargaining chip. or a good hand of cards. because the good looking girls are usually controled by their boy friend/ husband. you gotta get permission from the guy and appeal to the girl. and it's all covered.

This isn't a club, it's a party at someone's house. Was told that wouldn't cost anything but I had to provide protection and anything I wanted to drink.

do it then.

At this point I do plan on going, just really nervous, not so much nervous, more intrigued by the whole situation

enjoy.

Just put on your Nikes and do it

Sounds fun.

Worst case you watch a bit, aren't feeling it, and go home.

^^^^^ agreed!

And for many that one time of watching really changes them.

SJG

I had a g/f in 2010 that would go to those with her impotent husband (he liked to watch), and she had an open invitation for me to go with her (not with her husband there). I never did take her up on it, but now I think I should have gone at least once.

^^^^^ agreed!

SJG