Boyfriends suck. Recently two of my favorite strippers have gotten boyfriends and decided to stop stripping to keep them happy. Both are now working as servers in more legitimate bars. Amazingly the master tells me that one of his favorites has a night job as bartender, who knows another to hang up her stripper shoes?
On the positive side, the girls trying to lead a more sensible lifestyle is a noble cause ... but when it messes up my enjoyment at the strip club fuck that shit!
Your experience?
Hopefully the stud is rich (or a trust fundie). Otherwise, yeah, she'll be back!
There are too many variables when it comes to strippers, many go in and out of dancing as need-be whether it's b/c they get tired of having to work a 40 -hour week for what they used to make in one shift, or b/c the relationship w/ the BF ends, or perhaps the BF realizes it was nice to have the stripper $$$ coming-in (not sure how prevalent the last-one may be).
I would assume some may end up getting married to the guy and give up dancing altogether but o/w I think many come back if they csn still make good $$$ dancing.
In the past I've read a few SW threads of dancers (often young inexperienced ones) asking SW what they should do about not wanting to give-up dancing but the BF not wanting them to dance - most of the SW vets would say she should not give-up dancing unless he can make up what she will be missing out on financially - most of the SWers stated he should support & understand her career/job choice & added that when a dancer gives up dancing for a BF & then the relationship ends, the dancer is left w/ nothing & hanging financially.
Them having a BF has never been a factor for me one way or the other. But if they have a GF then it can be either really really good (I'm thinking 3some!) or I'm off of the menu completely.
But like you said...props to them for at least attempting to work a less controversial job.
I know one that quit escorting and came back to the club to work but won't do VIPs because of her boy friend. Pass...
A favorite dander at the moment has a BF. I have her number which is good, but have some strict guidelines on how I text her. She has me in her phone as a girls name who she tells her BF is a fellow dancer. When I text, I'm asking when she is working and that sort of thing, but that's basically it.
She has dropped some hints about getting an office job. My next visit to see her at the club, I want to try and throw out to her if she does in fact get out of the game and get into a mainstream job, would she be willing to see me once every 1-2 months on the side OTC for some extra cash (haven't actually seen her OTC before). I visit from out of state so between that and getting to know me pretty good ITC, I'm hoping she would be up for it.
@shadow: guessing she's not Cheetah material
re OP: maybe this doesn't apply directly here, but it seems to me that there are a fair number of women who have "hobby" jobs. Their BF/husband brings in enough $ that she technically does not have to work, but she still does something either to keep the appearance she is trying or simply to have the socialization via a job
anyway.... odds are OP's favs will be back if they can't stand the decreased cash flow
mjx01 - Actually she is. No tats or piercings and cute as hell. Also broke as hell. No car and said that she was without a phone. To dance at Cheetah she would have to get a $350 license from the city of Atlanta.
Girlfriends suck better though. :) Especially when their boyfriend becomes that asshole...
More often than not, If she has a BF and left, she will be back. Sometimes this will be the break she needs to get into a different life but usually it pushes her back in deeper. He will run out of drug money, will need bail or will break up with her.
As far as a GF, Those that had a legitimate GF usually refused to do a threesome with her even if she is in the business. My threesomes have almost exclusively been the dancer bringing a friend along. I've been told it would be too intimate.
Sorry, I try to date strippers not envy their Mr., so I say boyfriends are lucky.
SOs have little impact on my activities. After all, what % of these girls do you really believe are single to begin with? Not only are many of them attractive, but girls with emotional issues often have codependent tendencies.
Just the other night, I fucked a girl who had a pic of her BF and son as her cell phone screen saver and I have countless other stories like this, including many who admitted to having SOs once they got more comfortable with me. I think the fact that I am married, yet still doing what I do, makes them feel more comfortable about disclosing their own circumstances.
I think the OP was more about when fave dancers quit dancing b/c of BFs (or stop doing extras) , not just that they have BFs.
The OP seemed to ask both. He also asked about experiences which could be open ended and up for interpretation. Who knows this is Tuscl, which seems to tolerate anything including trolling.
My experiences are just with chatting. Like rickdugan, I find dancers often do open up about their personal life (BFs, baby daddies, husbands, children) once she finds out the PL is married (happily or not).
Most have a "fuck it" attitude like seen on StripperWeb that if the BF or husband can't replace the $$ lost from dancing with his own high income, then he has no business telling the dancer that she can or can't dance. That's reasonable and healthy, IMO. It weeds out insecure losers.
I'm thinking SGgay is in the market for a BF or at least a BFE that sucks.
Seriously I think RickDugan has the right idea, many of these women have serious co-dependency issues to go along with other things that may or may not mess them up. If I'm not their to play Captain Saveahoe you have to deal with the fact that someone else will fill the voids in the emotional drama I'd rather stay out of.
If they decide to leave over a drama with some dude outside the picture, just move on to another DS. They may or may not come back, but its all a part of the reality check in the system (i.e. a chance to say if I'm jealous about her not working in the club maybe I'm becoming the overly needy PL)
I feel personnel changes are inevitable in this hobby and variety is not a bad thing- its something to be sought out.
Good points. I have seen the girls come back, when the broke ass boyfriend ends up cheating on her.
IMO young attractive women are gonna have and want BFs whether they are co-dependent or not - most guys can just get by w/ sex but IMO most women, especially young-ones, are looking for relationships & not just wanting to bust a nut, thus why I think it's to be expected for many of them to have BFs or dating a particular guy.
For w/e reason what I have a harder time wrapping my head around is married dancers but these days I take most-things in SCs in stride and not phased by much.
Relationships complicate sex work, but it works both ways DS II dumped me because she got a boyfriend. But I dumped DS III because I got a girlfriend.
I keep much of "I'm not doing VIP because of a SO" with a grain of salt. For some it is an excuse not to go unless the $$$ are right.
Most are fucking the managers/bouncers/DJ or some deadbeat so they'll be back. The ones that seem level-headed and dating a guy who treats them well, I wish them the best.
SC BTW, she is still up on the website and I'll bet she remains so. The rest is based on $$$$. I'd bet money on it.
Boyfriends have always ruined the fantasy for me. It is a visible reminder of how stupid I am throwing money at another man's girl.
Timex, IMHO that means you are "looking for love in all the wrong places". Find a GF or SO outside the strip club world and enjoy clubbing as an escape from everyday life. Don't try to make it your substitute for finding a real girl.
Timex posted: "Boyfriends have always ruined the fantasy for me. It is a visible reminder of how stupid I am throwing money at another man's girl."
Funny, because I feel exactly the opposite. For me, the hardest part of civvie dating was what to do when I fucked a girl because she was hot (or because I was horny and wearing beer goggles), but I didn't want to keep around. After a while, it got exhausting dealing with the drama, especially when I wanted to repeat with one but didn't want anything else from her. To me, being able to fuck a string of hot young girls and then let someone else deal with their headcase drama is fucking fantastic. :)
Of course, my situation may be a bit different than yours for a number of reasons. First, I would never seriously consider a stripper as a romantic target anyway; second, my home situation is already locked down pretty good; and third, even if the first two weren't true, I am too old now to be seriously interested in dating young girls. Maybe if my mindset was different, I might feel more the way that you do, but there it is.
As bubba mentioned, a strip-club is not fhe place to go to get one's emotional needs met, it's the old round peg in square hole, if anything a strip-club and strippers will fuck up your emotions if you're eating shit
The strip club isn't is a girlfriend supermarket. I like that my strip club fun is separate (and contained) from my home life. It's a safe diversion and mind blowing fun.
they always come back