Clubbing with a friend/co-worker/acquaintance?
jojojo897
California
It seems like it's looked down upon. I can understand why since I like rolling solo too especially when it's a getaway hobby from everyone else in my life. However, I brought up my club endeavors to two of my co-workers which lead them in wanting me to invite them the next time I chill at the club again. I have no prior experience with bringing along anyone at the club. They seem chill about it but only one of them is able to a accompany me though. I'm sure we're probably just going to sit next to each other in individual chairs and take our pick of who to tip or take to VIP. Then give each other a heads up on who's worth the time with dances. I told him that I'll most likely go back in like three weeks or so. He seems cool about it since he's still down on coming along. I have no interest in carpooling so I'm sure we'll end up just meeting there as well especially when I might end up staying after hours with my current favorite.
Anyone have experience with this? How did you go about planning this out? Details on how it went would be very helpful or otherwise...interesting.
Anyone have experience with this? How did you go about planning this out? Details on how it went would be very helpful or otherwise...interesting.
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For myself, I strongly prefer we all travel to and from the club together. The trip there is a time to gauge whether he's experienced, coach him on in-club behavior where he might need it, and get all psyched up swapping SC stories. The ride home is fun to debrief, swap stories, and since I'm usually at least buzzed, I like having a bigger group to roll with.
At the club, we do whatever gets us having more fun. We hang out and talk shit until we get girls. Then we alternate between each of us just talking to our strippers, and then coming back to all talk together again (which is usually triggered by the next round of shots). We'll also leverage one stripper to go grab us the other strippers we want, or sometimes pass around that one stripper a bit. In short -- 100% advantage, 0% liability vs strip clubbing alone.
In the 20's that changed. Nobody stopped or even talked about it. So I kept my mouth shut at work about going. Now I do meet fellow TUSCLers at the club quite frequently and they have never crimped my style. Meeting 4 at Follies tomorrow.
1. What kind of a club you will be visiting.
2. What you plan to be doing.
3. What kinds of friends you are talking about.
I believe that for most of the people on this forum, their clubbing is kept separate from the rest of their life.
Some friends I long ago took to a very soft core club did not like it. They noted that I was much more into engaging with the women than the were.
Some softcore clubs serve lunch. I'm talking about bikini and zero touching. Where I am Lockheed people come over with their co-workers and eat at the Brass Rail. But if it was touching, nude, or private dances, I don't think they would be coming over at lunch with their co-workers.
There were some people I worked with who hired strippers for bachelor parties, and I don't think there were really any limits at these. But I feel that they main guy doing that was a jerk, a real jack ass. And he would take pictures. I declined to attend. I also felt that it was more about male bonding, rather than the women.
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If I take amateurs then I prefer to go to a "clean" club that I know that extras are not expected to be at, but maybe I can conjure a LDK especially if they have a SO. I don't want to be a factor of why a buddies relationship ended. Some of the information learned from this site could do just that.
I would never go with coworkers and that just comes down to boundaries and I like to keep a healthy barrier between work and play. If for some reason, I got pulled it that situation with a coworker then I probably would just sit there and nurse a drink.
On the other hand, I once went with a group from work at a professional job, and it was really subdued. Other than one of the guys being a BHPL, the rest of the people who went acted pretty much like at any other work outing.
The thing I would want to avoid would be having whoever you go with telling people at work for the next several years HAHAHAHA I WENT WITH RCP309PVP TO A STRIP CLUB AND HE WAS THE MAN THERE, THE DJ EVEN ANNOUNCED HIS NAME WHEN WE WALKED IN AND ALL THE STRIPPERS KNEW HIM!
I'll go (driving myself, though) with experienced folks, but in general, most of my friends, coworkers and acquaintances are not people I'd go with.
I went alone for several years. I often visited one dancer or another after the club closed. It seemed like I kept hooking up with a dancer and going alone made that a lot easier since you didn't have to take some guy home.
A couple years ago I had a young coworker want to meet up with me. He met up with me in the club. He kept looking at his phone. Only had about 10 to 25 in his wallet even though I knew he was getting paid very well. I kind of wondered why he wanted to visit with me. Was it to spy to get info on me? I was suspicious of him. He seemed relatively cool about it and didn't blab about it at work to anyone else. I asked him not to. He made some comment when one of the older dancers approached me about me being his boy which was totally awkward. Could have just said we work in the same department. I decided not to comment to the dancer. He wasn't my boss. He did seem to have some connections with some good looking girls away from the clubs and wondered if I knew any of them and whether or not they were strippers. In that way, he got me curious and I think he wondered what I knew. I thought it was amusing that he got a bit irked by not being able to contact me because I didn't have a phone. No smart phone that is. I think we only met up 2 times before he found a job elsewhere. Our boss was terrible in multiple ways.
One plus to going with a group is that if you go alone and dancers like you at a big club, you may feel like a piece of meat with a 100 Hungry sharks all trying to take a bite out of you approaching you every few seconds every hour with nowhere to take a break. I think I talk longer to dancers now instead of getting rid of them right away so that takes away a lot of that. Dancers usually approach one at a time even though some will double team you.
Pluses to going alone also include leaving whenever you want and switching tables if you want if the club has several empty tables. Plus I can spend my time talking to dancers or watching the stage show or switching to watch a different stage without abandoning a buddy at the table. If you usually have a dancer at your table, I guess that can be like a buddy with benefits.
Id go on with caution unless you have a real good feel for this guy and the type of job you're at. Also, unless he already knows your a vet to SCing, I'd act as if it's a once every blue moon type deal for you.
There's a guy I work with I've debated inviting him letting him know of the hobby, but as I've spoke to him more I've come to see that would be a bad idea.
Ifor I just wanna drink, see boobs and shoot the shit, buddies work