It is all in you head or all in her head.
Perhaps I should have made a Punnett Square. With reality and fantasy on one side and obtainable and unobtainable on the other. Because one does not necessarily follow the other.
Plus as one dancer once wrote (paraphrased) all strippers are obtainable since in the United States strippers are at the bottom of the socioeconomic totem pole. So technically strippers aren't really "above" anyone. Look at the lengths the dancers go to hide their stripping lives and how much it can affect a dancer when she (or he) is outed.
So, yes, it's all in your head and her head.
Also RE: obtainable (v) unobtainable. Now this isn't the best example, but recall the post recently about a PL whose attitude about paying a dancer for p4p changed once he realized that she was obtainable (as a 20 yo women for an older dude to bang for "free"). At that changed was his reception of reality (and possibly reality itself). Perceptions matter.
Hedge your bets.
When I go to a club that's known for extras and OTC (and if I haven't been there for awhile) I calmly sit off to the side and look for who I want to persue.
Of course he hottest girls will catch my attention so I watch them closely. I watch how they interact with staff and the customers, usually you can just tell they are bitches. If that's the case then I go for the 3rd or 4th hottest girl who often is sitting quiet and calm somewhere just like I am.
Usually those girls are much more friendly, sincere and willing to please.
For me the purpose of strip clubs is that unobtainable women become obtainable for money. If they are still unobtainable for w/e reason there's plenty more that are obtainable for cash.
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