I know better, but...

Everything depends on what you want out of this. If you want to date her or just hang out, you need to just speak up and tell her. If she wants money for hanging out then you both can move on. If she does say yes to hanging out what happens then?
Do you want sex? Why are you hanging with her? What is the end game?

Wow, you got some kind of system to get a dancer to offer you OTC after not seeing you for a couple of months. Usually it takes some serious being a regular custie for some time to get that treatment. Congrats on your score. Yeah, take her out and see how far it goes. Her idea after all.

As someone who is happily dating a couple strippers I would advise to go for it. If you give her money just make sure you get some play to make it a win-win situation. I'm taking one of my ladies to dinner tomorrow night and I will leave it up to her if we go have some hot dessert afterwards.

" I'm not going to pay her for OTC or donate money to her, and I'm not going back to see her"

You should tell her that. Then she will tell you if she still wants to have dinner with you.

You sound totally disinterested in her. So going to dinner would be a waste of time.

^^ I second JS. Why yank her chain?

Based on your post - I'm unsure if you find her desirable enough for OTC. I am thinking your "meh" reply was CS (customer shit). However - if your reaction to her is really meh - don't waste you time - or hers.

Seems like a massive waste of time, for both of you. Why bother?

Yeah I don't get your interest. You said you don't want OTC or give her $. Plus you meh comment tells me you don't give a rats ass about her. Sounds like a waste of time to me.

Dealing w/ strippers is often smoke and mirrors so it's often hard to tell when/if they're being legit.

I'm a glass-half-empty kinda guy & thus adhere to "there's no such thing as a free lunch" - even if it's free many strippers often seem to have drama and/or financial issues & being involved w/ dancers often means also being involved w/ their issues - some guys can handle it & IMO most probably can't.

You actually seem that you do want to go out w/ her & making it sound neh in order not to show your true PL colors :) - o/w you probably wouldn't be asking & entertaining the idea.

You seem to be aware of the potential pitfalls & things to look out for so you can just treat it as a normal civvie date & see how it goes & if she starts SS then swiftly move on if its something you don't wanna deal with.

BYW - are you significantly older than her (20 yrs+)? Personally I think she's just sniffing around for $$$, these women are adept at manipulating/tricking men, it's their vocation.

Pass.

If she was hot, you wouldn't be saying meh.

Papi, I think women in general are adept at manipulating men for financial gain. It's in their DNA.

Yeah. You seem very "meh" on her overall.

I'd politely give her some Customer Shit about short term cash flow issues. If she's looking for a john she'll move on quickly, if she has any non commercial interest she'll make it clear.

FWIW, she's 7 years younger than I am and I'm definitely attracted to her. My "meh" response was more along the lines of "I'm not sure if I want to deal with stripper bullshit again". I just don't like being set up for stuff - I already deal with enough civilian women that do that. But, I'll probably engage and see what happens. After all, I'm good at saying no.

Front Room Friendliness. Don't let girls sell you dances. Keep the buying of drinks or anything else within bounds you are comfortable with. Let the girl demonstrate that you and she are getting along before getting into bigger money.

I'd say do it. Set up a date, make it clear that its personal & not business and see where it goes. Worst case should be that it turns out to be a bad date. Just don't get too invested too fast.

I don'the know what to say,, SJG

Call her. Assume you'll pay for dinner. Treat it like a date, see what happens. If it's an OTC setup or any other bullshit, then cut bait.