P4P or companionship?

12 comments

• georgmicrodong

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  8 years ago

  For me, the best combination is sex *and* emotional connection. Only had that level twice, with my wife and my ATF. Next best is sex and some lesser connection. Last comes sex alone.
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  I assume there are a lot of lonely guys out there that want/crave the attention and companionship - I, as perhaps many others here; would probably feel the same way (craving attention/companionship) if we did not have SCs as an outlet or were not aware of what SCs can provide (a lot of PLs are not aware of what one can get in many a SC these days).
  
  For me SCs nicely fill the void for female companionship - get-it when I want-it; don't have to deal w/ them when I don't want-to.
  
  I def like GFE but not GFE/companionship w/o sex - I think many of these guys have it engrained that the only way to get female satisfaction is in the context of a relationship and they may be trying to have that w/ their providers. I would think many of them, not all, but many, would not feel that way if they were getting well serviced in a good SC.
• lopaw

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  8 years ago

  With P4P it's gotta be way more about sex than companionship - you are paying a fixed price (in my neck of the woods top tier pussy ain't cheap, neither) and you know exactly what to expect. In the randomness of a stripclub, you won't typically pay nearly as much and there are plenty of strippers who are more than happy to sit there and talk to a lonely person, as long as they are getting paid to do it. I'm sure some escorts are paid to just sit and cuddle, but I think it is much more rare.
• rh48hr

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  8 years ago

  The reason I don't seek out a civie gf relationship is I don't want the hassles that come with it. For the most part I can do as I please, I'm only beholden to my kids. Strip clubs can be a temporary substitute when I'm feeling I need a some companionship and/or relief. I've found I don't get much from just a straight p4p hookup. I never feel as though I always get full value for my money. Sex without some kind of connection leaves me waning.
  
  I'm fully open to friends with benefits relationships where you might hang out and have fun then have more fun in the bedroom then go home when it's done and everything is chill until the next time one of us is feeling horny.
• JohnSmith69

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  8 years ago

  P4P is mostly about sex but like GMD it's best if you can find a P4P girl that you have some connection with. For me that means a girl who will do dinner and other activities before sex, a girl who will take trips with me, a girl who has orgasms when we fuck, etc., and one who is fun to be with. Thats what each DS does for me. I genuinely show them a good time, and while I'm not their perfect date by any means we do genuinely have fun together. Even that companionship or connection with a DS, however, has a strong sexual component. It's an amazing turn on to be out in.public with such a hot young thing and know that her body is completely mine to do with as I please. Rarely am I enjoying their companionship that I'm not also admiring their extraordinary beauty and marveling over the intimate things that we do together.
  
  I now have a MILF and she is mostly about companionship. The sex is getting better but it'll never be at a stripper level. But I'm ok with that. Strippers fulfill all of my sexual desires, and the MILF is a great companion. Sure it'd be more efficient to get it all in one, but this is good too.
• s88

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  8 years ago

  I've done P4P sex with no emotions. I regret doing it. Never again without an emotional connection. Jerking off is free, P4P sex is a waste of $. You can't find emotional connections with escorts or brothels. Strippers yes, escorts and brothels no. With my strippers it is, we are almost but not a BF/GF couple when are together, but when we say bye for the night, we go back to our separate private lives.
  
  We never talk about the future (it is understood there is none), current SOs, or use the word "love" between me and my strippers. If we run into other people who know us, we are "just friends", the fact we will fuck later or fucked earlier isn't anyone else's business. When my stripper ran into her acquaintances, IDK if they knew I was a customer or private life guy friend.
• rockstar666

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  8 years ago

  P4P is better about sex, because any actual emotional attachment with a sex worker is more trouble than it's worth. At least every sex worker I've actually liked has cause me a LOT of heartache. I'm quite happy with my FWB girlfriend and my fantasy world of dancers when that particular desire strikes me. The g/f even knows I have had dancer "friends" but since we're both still married to other people, she gives me a pass on it.
  
  I have a pretty good arrangement IMHO!
• mrrock

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  8 years ago

  I just like to fuck!
• skibum609

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  8 years ago

  If I find a dancer attractive I sit with her. If I find her charming I get dances If I don't find her charming I take her hand of my dick and wish her good luck. Why have meaningless sex as an older adult when that was my focus from 13 - 32.
• Ugluck75

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  8 years ago

  Connections are one reason I prefer strippers over escorts. I have hired a few escorts in the past but it usually left me unfulfilled (with the possible exception of a Russian escort goddess that looked like a supermodel, just because she was so damn hot it was a bucket list check off). Overall I prefer to get to know the lady before doing the deed and also hope that it could turn into a more regular arrangement where we go on dates and have fun both outside and inside the bedroom.
• Estafador

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  8 years ago

  Companionship. Paying for sex is what old men and desperately lonely people do, sometimes both combined. SEE TUSCL, I did you a solid and separated you from being pathetic.
• jaredlucas

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  8 years ago

  I've got one of both
  My P4P gal is a solid 8 who just likes to have fun. Drinks a bit too much (tequila) but she got great oral skills and likes hard sex. She Usually jumps in the shower and takes off after we fuck
  
  My ATF is a gem and I enjoy a very nice connection with her. Often after a roll in the sack we have laid in bed for hours talking about nothing / everything and teasing each other by telling sex stories or watching porn as a prelude to round two or three. When we do leave the room it is usually because we are heading out for the evening. At times it seems we blur the lines between GF and stripper.
  
  But in reality we are just very good FWB. If I were not 25 years older than her I would probably screw things up by trying to tie her down.