I've been clubbing a lot so far in 2016. Historically I average about one trip a week, but I think I've gone 8 or 9 times so far in January. Cover is only $10 with free lunch and I don't always buy dances, but I'm definitely less excited by girls in thongs and naked on stage than I was when I started clubbing.
I've been getting dances from my CF for around a year. There have been some breaks when she wasn't dancing or when I didn't go for a couple weeks. But typically we saw each other once every two weeks or so for some excellent dances. Good mileage for SD (at least for a girl as hot as she is. She's definitely been dancing more, so I've been seeing her once a week lately. This should be a good thing.
But.
She used to make me reliably LDK, no problem. She at least acted like she enjoyed making it happen. Two trips ago it barely happened, and not for lack of trying on her part. This time it didn't. No issues getting hard, no drop in mileage. Just wasn't feeling it, didn't want to deal with the mess in my pants. Historically in the moment I don't give a fuck about that.
There's a few possibilities:
- I'm bored with her, and strippers in general. I don't really get hard in the front room anymore, barring some serious stripper-handshaking or grinding. I've tried out some new girls this year with mixed results. Had one girl who is arguably a 9 give me a totally decent mileage LD, but because she was so robotic and obviously not mentally present for it, it wasn't as hot for me as it could have been.
1a) I'm bored with just getting lap dances. This is very plausible. The idea of doing OTC with my CF is extremely appealing. I'd love to get a BBJCIM from her. This is the least upsetting theory.
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She's not as hot to me as she was. She's gained a couple pounds and I've always gone for the girls that are between "average" and "chubby", with a few fit exceptions. It's possible that a year older and a few pounds heavier she just doesn't make my dick as excited as she used to. This would be rather sad and superficial if it is the case, but the fact I would love to fuck her suggests it's not true.
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I'm starting to see her as more of a whole person and that's fucking with my mojo. This would be the most disturbing reason of all. I'm far from a Regular-In-Love, but I've started to actually care about her as a (sort of) friend far more than when we first started doing dances. I know a decent bit about her personal life (which is pretty mundane and not especially stripperish... she's more of the poor student/expensive tastes/not great with money type of stripper rather than the trauma type). At this point I also know that some of the extremely sexy things she does and says in the lap dance room are for my benefit and to get my cash rather than because she's just a horny, naughty girl. We've done enough dances I can tell when she's more and less into it, which does make the dances she's clearly more into it more exciting, but it also makes it a little less exciting when I can tell she's not quite as into it as she sometimes is.
Typing this all out at least has helped me figure out a plan going forward:
- Club less. This is tough because I enjoy getting away from the Office for a couple hours and I can easily spend $10 on lunch elsewhere and not have it be much better, minus the boobs. But clearly I've been overdoing it a little lately
- Continue diversifying the dancer portfolio: The challenge here is when CF is working, I know she gives a better dance than most girls, and usually is one of the top 2 or 3 Hottest Girls in the Club (dayshift). There wouldn't be drama for skipping her once, but more than once in a row might ruin our momentum. Realistically there aren't THAT many dayshift choices, and night girl mileage tends to suck.
- OTC? I've danced around the topic with her and she hasn't really bitten. I feel confident I've got some good will built up and could broach the subject smoothly without ruining what we've got going. I know I'd need to come with a dollar amount in mind, and my inexperience here could trip me up.
TL;DR?
Most likely sensory overload. I would recommend diversifying your club attendance. I refuse to become a regular of a girl. It never ends well. I just visit for fun now. This has helped me. I force myself to go to different clubs, visit with different girls. I also don't give out my personal phone number because I hated the weekly text of trying to entice me to visit. If I start to develop feelings for a girl, I run like hell and quit her.