"Home party"

No, It's places like that, that the neighbors notice and call in about. Then you have police watching and taking photos. A real possibility

I would ask for an individual OTC meeting in a safe space like a hotel. A "party" might include a boyfriend or pimp who could rob or shoot you.

Depends on the full situation, but in most cases, I personally think I would be saying "thanks but no thanks" about 95% of the time.

jackslash has the best suggestion. If you want to do OTC I would suggest you get to know this dancer a little more and mention you would like to do OTC at a hotel when you both can be in a more 'safe' environment.

Well, I've been to a few private dancer parties and all were a blast! The danger is to them, because at the club they worked, there were strict rules against OTC and even telling PL's their real name. My CF even texted me yesterday that she was worried I might show the pic she sent me around, because she'd be fired if they found out.

My advice is go and have a good time!

Let's be clear, if there are strippers there will be drugs. If that's a problem for you, pass.

I went to one once with my ATF. I knew her well, but no one else. There was insufficient privacy for my wants and wishes and the thug factor exceeded my tolerance. There was open hard drug use and I met a hell of a nice guy who had just gotten out of state prison the day before. He taught me how to cook cocaine to make crack. Never again!

^^^^ well at least you learning something new.

I sometimes wonder whether you guys are living in a Police state.

I've been to a few private parties, but they were either at clubs or other public places. I would hesitate before going to a private party at someone's house that I didn't know. Too risky.

I'd be hesitant too, but I"m on the far end of the paranoia scale, I think. I'd have to really know all the girls there, and have passing acquaintance with their customers (not hard at the club I'm a regular at)

Some A-list escorts were known to have monthly parties for some of their more regular and more reliable clients. I heard that they got busted though.

One dancer invited me to an after-hours party some of the dancers threw at the club they work at. Fortunately -- or unfortunately, I'm not sure which -- I had to hit the road and couldn't attend.

Did she mention the cost?

I thought you were 'the land of the free'?

@londonguy: The U.S. hasn't been a "free" country since FDR, some would say even before.

Hell, even claiming to be "free-ER" than other countries is becoming more difficult to justify with regard to some things.

When a person can't buy fucking cold medicine without permission from the government, there's no god damned way "free" applies.

As for being a police state, yeah, we are. And I don't see it getting anything but worse without violence.

A man walks in to a general store and says, "I'm going on a long trip and I have a bad cold, I need 2 boxes of psudoephedrine.

The clerk replies, "I can only sell you one. There's strict laws on this stuff."

"Okay," the man answers. "I'll take the one box and those 4 guns over there."\

Such is the state of freedom in America.

I got invited to one about a month ago but didn't go mainly b/c was not in the mood – but was thinking about attending.

Yeah – there are always possibilities of something going down; but IMO some here make it sound like a done-deal that something will happen – there are risks in everything we do including driving to the club and being there – strippers and those in the sex biz are “entrepreneurs” and always looking to make $$$ hence the parites - I don't think these stripper parties are too uncommon – for me the biggest deterrent would be the open drug use since I don't use any and the lack of privacy as gawker mentioned.

Frankly, doing a few party drugs with my ATF and our mutual girlfriend at a party was a real highlight for me. If you don't like drugs, don't hang with dancers OTC (except for sex of course).

@rockstar: There is no store in the U.S. at which you can walk in and buy a gun (legally) without showing, at the very least, the same ID as you would show to buy the medicine, along with the background check. The Feds require it.

Some (most) states have even stricter requirements.

I would go if one of my faves who I trusted and who had been before invited me. I've heard about such parties from dancers and they sound fun. But I wouldn't go upon the invite of a dancer that I didn't know well.

Here are a couple things to consider...

1. Where is the party located? Is it in a decent neighborhood (this is good and bad)? (good... safe area, lessen the "thug" fear) (bad- nosy neighbors and LE)

2. How well do you know this dancer or the one throwing the party?

3. Are you a regular of this club? (kind of goes with #2)

The reason why is you can say place is in a decent neighborhood and a crime riddled place... Good

If you know the dancers well and kind of have a repour with them.... another Good...

If you are a regular at the club and they kind of know you is another good..... because word can get back to the club if you got rolled or something bad happened. They want to make it a "good" experience for you.

So to be concerned about going is good. But to think you will get robbed or something is possible but might not be an issue. The drug use... yeah that will happen... could be just weed and pills.... or it could be crack, coke, or herion. So be on your toes with that.

Myself personally would need to ask questions or have the questions I posted be on the good side before I would venture. But sometimes nothing ventured is nothing gained as well.

crsm27: I agree that #'s 1,2 and 3 are sensible. The parties I've gone to were in my neighborhood, and I was a regular, and I knew both girls 3+ years. I can see if someone I barely knew invited me to a bad part of town, I might decline...but I doubt it!

@ rockstar.... I am kind of the same way... lots of times I throw caution into the wind and afterwards think..... WOW things could have really gone bad. But It is a good guideline to follow..... but where is the sense of adventure.

Watch out for underage at a house party. There are several related 18+ girls at one club I frequent. They started dancing the second they hit 18. Just chit chatting I asked one what they all did for money before they turned 18. Without hesitation she said "House parties. Where we are from no one really cares about being 18."