dancers not actively solicit dances
11bravo88
California
i noticed in the SCs I frequent a lot of dancers would not circulate among customers to ask for for dances. Instead they would stay in the dressing room, or talk on their cell phone, or chat with each other. Some would even sit by themselves doing nothing. How are they going to make any money. Any thoughts?
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1. Some dancers are lazy
2. Dancer might wait for their "regular" or "big spending whale" to arrive in the club which they (the dancer) will make their money off of. In the meantime while they are waiting, instead of trying to make more money please refer to #1.
3. Some dancers have told me they are picky on who they will solicit dances to and will pass on asking customers who they deem "unsavory."
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I see it all the time, the new girl gets stuck with a regular that has their hands all over her. Waist up twenty minutes of their time and buys 1 or 2 tables sides, and sometimes nothing. That's enough to ruin any salesperson day or night.
Go to buy a new car and dress like you don't have any money. See if the salespeople are going to chase you down to talk to you. The sales manager is going to put someone on you while the staff pretends to be busy so they don't get picked.
Look at their point of view. Is it worth their time and self esteem to hustle dances if they might or might not have a good day or night. I have talked to girls that said they really needed to make money that day and was on their feet hitting every body up and made very little because they hit the wrong customers at the wrong time. (the ones that talk and spend little to nothing). And if they wait to let you approach them at least they can figure out if you are serious customer quickly and move on.
My ATF was extremely shy. She hated approaching new customers and often tag-teamed with an older dancer when asking for dances.
I had to accept one of the double dances together with her mentor for me to get to know her.
My #2 is good at circulating. She also has lots of regulars and is a top earner, but she likes people in general unlike my ATF, so it's easy for her to chat up anybody who's not creepy.
My new #3 also circulates but if she has had a bad day you're probably better off staying away!
I think you've taken the StriperWeb approach of trying to rationalize every move a stripper makes as an act of sales genius. You are absolutely right that ONE of the reasons strippers sit around is business reasons: she's profiled the customers and doesn't think she has any prospects, she's saving her energy and good attitude for her whale who is coming in later, some of the guys are other girls' regulars and she doesn't want to break The Code, etc. But you're way off base -- and maybe haven't hung out with strippers OTC and heard frank talk among them -- if you don't think there are loads of completely non-business reasons they do that, too: feeling lazy, way hungover from rolling molly or drinking too much yesterday, just feel like partying and bonding with her girls, is shy, is sulking because she got shot down by the past 3 customers she asked, in a text message fight with her boyfriend, is in a bad mood because the series of bad choices she's made over the past few months/years is coming to a head..
I do think the business reasons happen far more often than we give the girls credit for here on tuscl, but not to the point that it dominates personal reasons (as SW would have us believe)
Many strippers are strippers because they're young and pretty but lack work ethic. Those girls often give terrible dances.
On the other hand, some girls really are entrepreneurs. They want to extract every dollar they can from the room and they will provide good service to keep guys coming back. Sometimes they are too popular unless you're a big spender, but these girls are my favorites.
And then seeing the either scared or disgusted look on her face when she finally does end up rubbing her ass on you.
If your real lucky, after 1-2 songs, she'll follow you back to your table and sit there like a bump on a log for the rest of the night, "owning" you so none of the other ladies come around...
I'm sure most of the time, it's just not that bad... But I've had enough awkward experiences such that if she ain't approaching me, I'm not going to be running after her.
Some of the worst experiences have been in Thailand, where there's a "mom" that's usually going to push a girl onto you if your sitting there alone long enough, and don't look like a total dead beet. Often, it's a new girl, little practice with English, shy, and scared, doesn't like alcohol, etc. Sorry, I don't care how cute she is, let her go sit and play with her phone.
And then of course it is easiest to approach them via tipping when they are on stage.
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But even in the sex industry they respect a guy who is not afraid to assert himself.
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It wasn't until recently that I get fed up and just started asking dancers if they were around me and were not approaching me – I gotta say I have not seen a decrease in dance quality and probably have had better dances and wayyyy more fun with this approach (instead of missing out on dancers I wanted).
The argument can be made that some/many dancers may even give better dances if you ask *them* b/c they may be happy that someone wants dances from them and wants to spend $$$ on them (at least in the case for dancers too shy or unmotivated to approach custies for w/e reason).
And I believe your points are valid but I think my opinions are the core of the problem. Example- say the club had a rule that the customer had to pay a certain amount for each contact the customer initiates. If a girl sit at your table you must pay her. You have a conversation with her you must pay her. If this was the case, the same girls you all say are lazy will be the biggest hustlers you have ever seen.
Money creates motivation, not being paid creates laziness.
Now I know a rule like that would bankrupt a club. I certainly wouldn't go to a club like that.
But I have been in sales all my life, and I know what motivates people. Take the same person and have them work one week at each store (Sam's club, Costco) and they will put in a better effort at Costco because their being paid more.
Being assertive with a girl and letting her see that you really like her, go a long way. So it is really like shopping for a used car.
I've not actually done this, but in the future this is how I will be doing it, both in the U.S. and Mexico.
Standing on my feet scoping them out and selecting one I really do feel something for, approaching within about 1",
"I like that kind of high heels on you. ( something she has done on purpose ) When you dress like that for me, I know it costs money. ( handing her $20. But not putting it into her cleavage or g-string. I'll be pawing her soon enough, so I don't need to use the money transfer to do it. ) You should be spending your time with me, so that I can take care of you."
Inviting her to sit with me, perhaps even some initial fondling, or an initial DFK. But she ends up sitting on my lap and, with a steady supply of money and lots of getting to know each other, we end up making out w/ FOV or FIV. Maybe it continues into the VIP Room, or maybe she just walks right out the door with me. Either way the chances are very good that she'll be making my breakfast the next morning.
Then in the days and weeks following she'll be doing paid lingerie photo modeling and MSOG sex sessions with me. And she'll be getting introduced by telephone to the other women and men I work with and be getting taken to lunch with them. When it is the women I will have her picked up by them, but stay clear of it myself. After that she will become more fully involved in my affairs, becoming my boots on the ground for that metro.
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