situation, a nice looking dancer seems to remember you but you can't remember he
Do you just play it cool and act like you remember her or ask her questions?
last night was kind of weird for me, lots of hot dancers and one girl I could not remember. maybe I tipped her at a club two or three years ago. seems like ages ago to me. I just played it cool thinking I would hear her stage name when she went on stage. never saw so many dancers working in a small club. parking lot was almost completely full at an early time but half the cars must have been dancers.
I decided to just take in the view and not talk a lot. The dancer I was referring to sat with me for almost an hour. I think she liked the spot I was at. The other dancer before her either got a buzz off of one drink or really liked the spot I was sitting at. I did ask the other dancer her club name. She didn't indicate she knew me from anywhere.
last night was kind of weird for me, lots of hot dancers and one girl I could not remember. maybe I tipped her at a club two or three years ago. seems like ages ago to me. I just played it cool thinking I would hear her stage name when she went on stage. never saw so many dancers working in a small club. parking lot was almost completely full at an early time but half the cars must have been dancers.
I decided to just take in the view and not talk a lot. The dancer I was referring to sat with me for almost an hour. I think she liked the spot I was at. The other dancer before her either got a buzz off of one drink or really liked the spot I was sitting at. I did ask the other dancer her club name. She didn't indicate she knew me from anywhere.
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I did once have a waitress come up to me and she said she knew who I was and just wanted to introduce herself. I had NO idea who she was; she wasn't very pretty and I would never have hit on her. I was flattered but I had zero interest in her. Luckily she hasn't shown up since. But I've had dancers I spoke to once remember me months later...I do remember the dancers! I'm amazed they remember me if they're not friends with my regulars.
My last experience I can remember was doing a gal in itc for the second time after I had done her a week before. When got up there to fuck, she said "where do I know you from?" We had a good fuck but from some convo it became obvious she was too drunk to remember guys....sometimes. Maybe next time do her bareback and she will be too drunk to remember my hot load filing her? Guess I don't need throw down phone w her.
The biggest surprise I ever had was one dancer who told me she remembered me from the time I lived in NC. I found out she wanted to jump me and she was very aggressive as soon as she got me alone. I never remembered her but she knew things about me from over a decade ago in clubs I hadn't visited in over 10 years at the time.
I do get that I'm a lot more memorable to the girls I spend on.
And, it is creepy how much these dancers can remember. Sometimes they bring some irrelevant shit up that happened long ago. I think - you meet so many different dudes every single day, how can you remember all this stuff.
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Which is why I call it out each and every time. One the rare occasion they were right, I blame the alcohol for me forgetting
I, OTOH, have a horrible memory for names. I'll just flat out tell people that I apologize but it takes me forever to remember someones name. When a dancer comes up to us I'll just apologize and ask her what her name is again. Never had anyone get upset. If you act really sorry and apologetic and let them know it's your fault for not remembering their name people are very understanding and forgiving. It's when you give off the whole "should I remember you" attitude that puts people on the defensive and things can turn south.
I know it's me though and it's not just strippers. Unless I interact with someone on a daily basis I just can't remember names. Hell, sometimes I can't even remember faces...lol. Something I do a lot of volunteer work with (which I won't talk about here because it's not appropriate) I meet thousands of people all during the year. I'm easy to spot and I guess remember because of what I do and the fact that I always wear a certain hat (mrs sea HATES my hat for some reason) and I am literally the ONLY guy with a ponytail. I have people stop me all the time to talk to me or say hi and I simply don't remember them. 99% of the time i just say hi or chat with them for a bit but I don't feel the need to tell everyone I don't remember them.
There are people I see a couple times a year and have worked with for 5 or 6 years now and I still have a hard time remembering their name. On the spur of the moment last week I decided I wanted a breakfast sandwich and went into a fast food place. I rarely eat fast food so this was just a fluke but someone I have done volunteer work with over the last 2 years and given a lot of advice to when he started was waiting to order as well. He saw me and we started talking. I would've never asked him his name because I would have no excuse. Besides, I could ask mrs sea later and she'd know it. It took me a good 30 seconds before I did a mental head slap after his name came to me.
A couple weeks ago I stopped at a random yard sale and the people knew who I was because of my volunteer work. i had no clue who they were and just flat out apologized for my horrible memory. After they told me some info it came back to me and I knew who they were. We chatted for a good 15 minutes. Most people realize I interact with thousands of people a year and they'll volunteer their name and where they last saw me though because they don't expect me to remember.
Sometimes you need to fess up and sometimes people just want to say hi or chat for a few minutes and going through the whole "who are you? i have a horrible memory" just isn't important. When it comes to strippers just be apologetic and humble and say it's your fault for not remembering and ask them what there name is again. Strippers meet so many people I'm sure they don't remember everyone as well and no one in a SC should get upset.
If you play your cards right and call their bluff, this can often play in your favor. I like to reply with, "Oh yeah, your the one who give me a 4 for $60 special." Or if it's a known extras club I'll add something like, "Didn't you get me off for $80 last month? I'd recognize those lips anywhere."
Often they'll say, "no that must have been someone else," but several have agreed and went back. A few said something like, "no that must have been <insert dancer name>," often in a disgusted voice. I usually try to find the name of the dancer they give. Most of the time that dancer has been worth it.