Taking my wife to a strip club for the first time.
Hi my wife finally agreed to come to a strip club for the first time. We are married for over 10 years. She is willing to get a vip room. It took me a long time to get her intrested I don't want to fuck it up. Any suggestions as how to go about it so that she has a good time? We live in NY/NJ area and suggested clubs that will give a little extra mileage to my sexy wife?
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If she was reluctant in the first place some straight lap dances followed by an assessment of her reactions might be warranted! You wouldn't want to start the evening by asking the stripper to give your wife a sloppy rimjob right off the bat! Might freak her out and make her wonder what you do in the club!
Brilliant point!
And a more subtle way of saying "don't be too extreme" than my "don't go for the rimjob right off the bat" advice!
Though I still stand by my advice! And pleasebelieve my advice since I've fucked up LTRs!
That sounds pretty reasonable! Last time I was in NY was a while ago, but I enjoyed myself in a place called Stillettos! Brilliant evening! ;)
Nothing extreme like the strip club hounds on here like! But the girl I got a dance from said she was 18 (plausible, but I thought 21-22 more likely), had C-ish cups, and was generally a brilliant dancer! ;)
I would suggest Penthouse, Hustler, Scores since you need beautiful women AND extra-mileage.
You will thank me later, sir:)
Right, women never say the opposite of what they really mean. They always speak literally. They always know in advance exactly how they will react emotionally to a new circumstance that that have been reluctant to face. Nothing can go wrong with this plan.
+ couples getting ignored – many dancers have a hard time reading a couple; primarily the female – dancers don’t know if they are there just to drink and watch; whether it’s the husband that wants to be there and not the wife; etc – i.e. you, and perhaps even better the wife; need to be proactive about approaching dancers and tipping them and asking them to join you for a drink where you can talk about what you want
+ couples will often get charged 2x – i.e. if both the husband and wife want to get dances from a dancer at the same time, they may often get charged 2x even if you are just there watching – from what I’ve heard; NYC clubs can be ultra-expensive and many custies can get ripped off into paying big $$$ and getting little in return – additionally – I would not use my credit card in a club b/c at times bogus charges in the hundreds and even thousands can appear
I have not clubbed in NYC/NJ; you may have to read some reviews on here and do some homework. One place in NYC that seems to get decent reviews is Gallagher’s 2000 (you may want to read its reviews and see if it’s your speed) – The Lido Room also seems to get good reviews but this seems to be more of a private club where one needs to get an email invite; but it sounds like a laidback place which may be better for a couple (read the reviews).
In NJ; Playhouse in Burlington seems to get a lot of reviews and seems to be good mileage (contact).
Oh, gawd. No. Don't do it. Well, hopefully she is not so crazy as I am, I am just giving you insight of female's point of view. I strongly suggest you to hug her and say something like "Oh, I don't even want to be around these harlots and watch you doing anything with them. Baby, you are so beautiful. You are seriously the most amazing woman I ever met in my life. Do we really need anyone else around us? Let's get away from everyone and spend weekend together, just me and you". It might sound cheesy, but whatever, I bet, it will bring better reaction. However, it's up to you.
And no, I don't think I will be a perfect wife. I would be rather be just myself than letting my partner to pressure me into anything.
For this to have *any* chance of working out to be anything but a disaster, you must, as I said before, make it *all* about her. Let her pick the club. Let her pick the time. Pay attention to her body language. Listen to what she's *not* telling you. Don't talk to the girls unless *she* wants to. Don't tip the girls unless she wants you to. Don't make her tip the girls unless *she* wants to. Don't buy dances unless *she* asks. Don't let any of the girls pay attention to you. Don't get any dances for yourself, even if she says it's ok. And leave when *she* wants.
If you've been to the club, make sure nobody gives away that you've had your dick sucked, or whatever you've done there.
Originally, I thought you might have a shot, but based on what you've posted, I think you're lying to yourself about her interest. Good luck. You'll need it.
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I remember sitting behind one female couple before and I could tell she was mad. Hopefully it works out well for you.
A lot of PLs just watch their first trip to a SC. You should be willing to let her do the same if she wants.
- Let her know she's in charge and if she's not comfortable you're fine with leaving.
- Most contractors want nothing to do with couples for reasons that probably need their own seven discussions. If you and your S/O see a contractor you like, have a server bring that to the contractor's attention.
- If your relationship is already messed up, it won't fix anything. In fact, it'll make things much worse.
- I don't know anything about the venues you'd mention, but if there's a tip rack, both of you have to tip at the rack.
- Some people, especially women, seem to think 1 tip per couple is enough. If you're financially strapped to the point where you think that's an option, try some entertainment you can afford instead.
- Some contractors will expect to be paid at 2x the rate for private entertainment. Get that issue hammered out before agreeing to anything.
- If don't get fucked up and don't use plastic make sense when you're flying solo, it applies 10x more when you're a couple.
- Above all, KNOW WHEN TO LEAVE. Don't think more of the same is going to make your experience even better. If you had fun, take it and run. Moderation in all things.
I don’t know the first thing about you, your wife or your relationship together but every sentence in your first post screams to me that she’s doing this to pacify you. You shouldn’t have to CONVINCE her to do anything she really wants to do. You wouldn’t have spent “a long time to get her interested” for her to “finally agreed to come to a strip club” if she was “very into it” and “has been fantasizing a lot about it”.
Everything you post on the subject just keeps telling me you’re trying to validate taking your wife to a SC. Do you go to SC’s by yourself now? If so, then take that $100-200 you currently spend and double or triple it and remove any and all attention you may now get from strippers. A couple is going to spend $300-600 and MAYBE get some light action. Honestly though, unless you’re going to a known VHM upscale club it’s going to take a little while, maybe even several visits before the strippers get comfortable with you as a couple and are willing to go farther. I say an upscale club because everything you’re saying tells me she won’t have a good time at a dive where mileage may be cheaper and easier to come by.
This isn’t a way to make your marriage more thrilling or exciting or sexual if it isn’t off the scale already. If your looking to increase the spark or bring back the spark you’ll probably just end up with your wife thinking you think the strippers are more desirable than she is and she’ll end up sitting there all night with a sourpuss look on her face and y’all will be bored because no one will stop to chat you up or show you any attention. (phew, what a run-on sentence that was)
If you get LD’s for $20-25 now then it’s going to run you $40-50 per song as a couple. If this place actually has rooms then you can maybe negotiate a better deal with the dancer. If you’re both sitting at the stage then you both need to tip. If a stripper plays with your wife and she tips you better put up several $$ as well to show you’re both willing and able and will spend.
Your wife might want to drink to feel more at ease. Make sure you have her drink a bottle of water in between every 1 or 2 drinks. The last thing you want is a hammered wife to drunk to do anything and passing out on you. She def won’t have fun and will wake up the next day feeling like crap. All she’ll remember is she got drunk and woke up feeling like a truck ran her over instead of how fun her night was. Besides, the ENTIRE point is both of you not being able to make it back home without ripping each others clothes off.
My suggestion for you is to just drop it. Do your research. Find out where the clubs are and read up every review you can on all of them. Put a stripper money stash somewhere in your house with $600-800 and just leave it alone. Forget about it. If your wife REALLY wants to go then if and when SHE actually says, “I want to go to a SC” that should be the first time you ever mention anything to her again about it.
I could keep going but I’ll stop my ramblings because I really don’t think you’ll listen anyway.
They can go to boroughs but as I said, they would have to settle for loooow quility.
Awesome read there. Thanks for your valuable insight on this topic. You & mrs seaboardrr are the couples gurus of TUSCL.
When they got home, she started dancing in a local club. Yes I saw her there when him along and without him. All was great in the beginning, but went to hell over time.
Something you might think about!
THANKS EVERYONE.
It's good that you two had fun, and it sounds like the situation did arouse your wife, even if she had pretty serious limits :)