I start to notice that the better I do at work the worse I do in love and the better I do it love the work I do at work.
I have been on a roll lately with the ladies and there has been an unfortunately it noticeable dip in my overall performance at work where a few years ago I was a really high performer but socially I was not doing very well.
Just wondering if anybody ever found that perfect balance between having a great love life and a great work life and what's your secret?
Yeah – it's easy to get distracted and easy to sorta put the wagon ahead of the horse – for the most-part the SCs and the dancers will always be there; but one won't be able to enjoy them if one does not have the mula – i.e. one needs to focus on work that way they can enjoy the clubs.
My problem was when I was young, I played sports, played guitar, did art work and liked photography. Every time I had a girlfriend, I spent all my time doing stuff with her and ignoring the hobbies I liked.
I think lots of people experience this and also lots of people try to keep the two separated.
And yes, I also have lived most of my life that way. But it has not been without my knowing that something was wrong.
So now I am building something where work, play, and continuing education will be fused together seamlessly supporting each other.
Of course the example of this comes from religion, work is worship and worship is work. Everything is kept in balance, but also there are a minimum of divisions.
Those who work with me in this will enjoy pussy saturation 365 days per year. They will never experience a day when dolled up stripper grade hotties are not draining them dry. The will also enjoy vast social, intellectual, and financial security benefits.
The only people who will lose in this are those who promote neo-liberalism and those who make Viagra. And then of course those who sell the old fashioned stuff, alcohol, street drugs, born again Christianity, and psychiatric medication, will also lose.
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If you are a dedicated monger it is sometimes hard to keep the two worlds from either overlapping or sometimes colliding. I also find that perfect balance to be elusive.
I seek total fusion. I am working to build this.
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Ahh, Grasshoppers! We of the Shaolin temple have perfected a micosociety free of sex, drugs and all music except for those damn flutes and gongs.
The secret, Grasshoppers, is ....
Aw, who am I kidding. We're just bored as hell...
There is no balance for this imbalanced person.
Maybe you need a testosterone supplement Sheila.
"Total fusion" of our strip club world and our regular lives? What a nightmare that would be. Up until 6 am every night, sleep until mid afternoon, nothing but drugs and thugs. I'll pass.
Find yourself a steady fwb. You can get your rocks off on the reg without spending as much time and effort chasing pussy.
No love life here, therefore no need to balance anything!
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Some of my earliest thinking on this matter was inspired by Richard Nelson Bolles, author of What Color is Your Parachute.
Here he is talking about Education, Work, and Play, as the three boxes. The idea is that we are forced into these boxes. Education is supposed to be so that we can Work. And then Work is to be so that we can Play.
So then you see, we are always trying to get something we don't have, and basically preparing for retirement.
So Bolles's idea is that we need to have balance, like for example a sabbatical every 7 years. Or maybe just some balance from day to day or hour to hour.
Or at it's very best as Bolles explains, Education, Work, and Play become completely fused. This is what I am working on.
Education is an ongong 24/7 process. Work, my Life's Work, doing what I believe in and need to do, is a 24/7 process. And then play, enjoying moment by moment, is a 24/7 process.
So this might help people understand better why I don't go for chemical escapes. I do go for rituals of mindfulness and cosmic attunement, and included in this is Tantric Sex.
Now as far as strippers, JS69 is right, I don't want to live in the strange ways and on the strange daily schedules that some of them do. But on the other hand, strippers are some of the most highly sexualized women you will find. They are the epitome of ritualized dolling up. So they are naturals for inclusion in this.
Now the other source of ideas of balance and fusion do come from religious monasticism. What could be more natural than doing what you believe in, and at all times.
I don't mean what you profess ( " I am a Christian "). No, I mean what you actually do believe in. What could possibly be a more fulfilling life?
Now most monasticism in both East and the West has required celibacy. And the communities which have lasted very long have all been this way.
But then there have also been religious groups based on prostitution. It was this way in the Ancient World.
In Bruce Sterling's works there is the "Temple of Ishtar". amazon.com
Religious prostitution predates secular prostitution, and religious prostitution is also probably where money originated. As I always say, "Money was invented for handing to women."
Okay, but I don't personally want to be making money off of prostitution. And I don't want money to be involved that way inside the internals of anything I set up.
But the idea though that sex is liturgical, is most important.
The three Abrahamic Faiths were invented to exterminate liturgical sex.
Numbers 25, 6-15
6 At this a certain Israelite came and brought in a Midianite woman* to his kindred in the view of Moses and of the whole Israelite community, while they were weeping at the entrance of the tent of meeting. 7 e When Phinehas, son of Eleazar, son of Aaron the priest, saw this, he rose up from the assembly, and taking a spear in his hand, 8 followed the Israelite into the tent where he pierced the two of them, the Israelite and the woman. Thus the plague upon the Israelites was checked; 9 but the dead from the plague were twenty-four thousand.
10 Then the LORD said to Moses: 11 Phinehas, son of Eleazar, son of Aaron the priest, has turned my anger from the Israelites by his being as jealous among them as I am; that is why I did not put an end to the Israelites in my jealousy.* 12 f Announce, therefore, that I hereby give him my covenant of peace,* 13 which shall be for him and for his descendants after him the covenant of an everlasting priesthood, because he was jealous on behalf of his God and thus made expiation for the Israelites.
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And about these matters, the works of Jonathan Kirsch. He calls the above, "two bellies one spear".
The Harlot by the Side of the Road amazon.com
God Against The Gods: The History of the War Between Monotheism and Polytheism amazon.com
Anyway, there have been lots of communes and some you could even call cults, where there is no celibacy or monogamy. Now most have not lasted very long. But there is always a chance of making one which will endure. Sex cults have existed as long as Christianity has.
Consider just the basic idea that the women are provided for and get long term benefits. And then also, they don't gain rank or status until they have demonstrated that they are on board for the program.
So they know that they are to take care of their men. So when you come in, you will be greeted by a bunch of dolled up lovelies. They might try to get you into the Jacuzzi. But anyway, if you don't pick one of them, they will pick you. 365 days per year you will be kept pussy saturated.
Not really that hard to do as women have a very high sexual capacity. Strippers, hookers, AMP workers, etc, are the ones who know this. The AMP girls in San Francisco are downright cock crazy.
Okay, but these women need longer term affiliation. And everyone needs community and lifelong education.
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^^^^ what happened san_jose_guy?
did you switch to magic mushrooms after your ex-mail order bride took your stash of weed?
and stop sending psycho PMs
You've just got to be able to separate it. When I'm at work, my complete focus is on work. When I'm not at work, my complete focus is on the ladies.