Shit Testing Your Fave
alabegonz
I thought what would happen if I do this and see how she reacts? Would she dump me right away? Maybe, let's find out.
So, we were texting and somehow the conversation went like I should come and visit her tonight and my reply to that was a big yes.
The night came and I was like: OK here goes the shit test. I'm supposed to show up on that time and have a fun time with her. Instead I was miles away, sitting in chair thinking what would I do to enjoy my night. So I send a text without mentioning I was late and all that crap. I get no reply, silence. I text her again around 1:30AM and again no reply.
Hmmm, this is interesting, she may just be busy.
2:30AM, I send her a message saying I am going home. No reply from her.
3:00AM, I send her "I'm sorry, I'll make it up to you." Then I get a message "It's OK."
Oh man. Let's see if she can handle that. I'm sure she will dump me and flake on me from here on and simply go cold on me.
Like I give a fuck.
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It's not like she would shed a tear for one guy--me.
Dude, these girls can handle it, she has seen thousands of dudes already.
I'll be a bad memory to her.
If she can't get over it, well, I will stay with her and move it forward. But first she has to get over this one.
I think you will get punished for that.
You are *way* too emotionally wrapped up in this girl. Move on *now* before it's too late.
#1 There has to be some type of courtship/relationship going on for a "shit test" to take place. Strippers and customers are in a business relationship, not a dating or courtship.
Regardless, the vast majority of the time it's a FEMALE shit testing a guy to see if he's congruent with his frame (persona) and not needy.
Example: Civvie girl in bar you're chatting up starts making comments to see how you will react.
#2 Your shit test totally failed. She ignored all your texts until you apologized to her and then sent the "it's okay" test. She has a stronger frame than you. She may have not even been busy, but saw through your attention getting behavior.
Guys and girls, dancers interact with hundreds of customers a month and are hit on constantly on and off the job. They are hustlers and can see through or figure out most customer ruses without much difficulty.
Running "shit tests" to see if a dancer cares about you is pretty much a waste of time considering it's a business relationship.
Good to see you back Alabegonz.
SJG
https://sites.google.com/site/sjgportal/…
You were probably one of a dozen guys she texted.
What I did was simply Shit Testing her, nothing big about that, mi hermanos.
Wait, I guess she lost a drop of of money that night, a Benjamin or two if I may say. She's awesome looking girl, bro. She can make at least fives on a night.
Plus, these Joes/Joses/Morons are by the dozen emptying their wallets on lapdances which actually good for every dancers working at that club.
It's cool bro. She's still around, we are still texting.
I think that one did not even put a dent on her armor.
She's stronger than what most people think.
The reason is this: I wouldn't want someone to fuck with my money so I don't do it to someone else. She has a general idea of how much I'm going to spend, and she may need that money to pay a bill the next day or buy something for her kid. If I've told her I'm going to be there a certain night, she may have especially got a ride from the bartender or taken an Uber. Not showing up would be a douche move, unless my car broke down or there were some unforeseeable circumstances.
Some of you
You're implying like I'm the only possible source for that night. Nope, I'm not the only guy with a wallet that night.
What about the Stripper Shit I got from her? I'm OK with that, I took it like a man.
I manned-up on that one, took the shit and called it good.
If you're talking about the whole going back for more punishment thing you appear to be doing, not once we figure out what's going on.
If you're talking about the "shit testing", no, I don't. Why waste time and energy that would be better spent having actual sex, instead of wishing for it?
Maybe because we don't. Why the fuck bother? There are too many other chicks in the farm yard to be wasting time on that crap.
Shit test a waste of time?
Dude, hear me out, here.
I just made a huge win doing that.
Not going to tell how it went down, but I'm sure those words she said is going to put a big smile on my face.
Dude, turning your back and walking away is not the way to go.
Of course you can contest me on that one, I will not say it works all the time.
I dunno dude, this may work for you but if I do what you say -- she will walk all over me.
As I said yesterday, she knows your games and your weakness. You are just a customer to her, and sooner or later she will end up firing you as a client.
No contest there, bro. Logically I agree to that as well.
But we are dealing with stripper/woman here who is also into it. She has a buy-in into the game.
That means she's going to play.
SJG
https://sites.google.com/site/sjgportal/…
"Posturing only makes it worse because it isn't being straight."
Straight what?
Posturing is a strategic move designed to make her line up with an agreed protocol.
I dunno dude, these girls are pros, hustlers, mentirosas. I can't even figure out what straight means.
It has been a time since I posted back and a lot of things happened already with this girl.
One thing I'm sure of.
1. When I'm there to see here, she is one hell of the friend inside the club. She hates it when I toss singles to other girls.
2. When we go out, oh my man, she is muy loca en la cama, very very wild.
3. When she is not available, that's the part I don't even think about.
Bottomline here is dude, this girl does not want a relationship, she is very happy where she is at right now, and I am just a phone call away from having a very intense serious moment.
Being straight just means being yourself, saying and doing what you feel and nothing else. It means you are not trying to manipulate her by playing games with her.
Being straight is how you stay grounded. She probably is playing games. But you playing games ( shit testing, pimp moves, posturing, etc. ) only makes it worse because you no longer have an anchor. So once you stop being straight you get wound into her drama. But if you stay straight you can pull back when needed.
Girl who doesn't want a relationship, part of it is just that she doesn't want to get hurt. Pull back, but still stay close by. And always stay straight yourself.
Good Luck
SJG
https://sites.google.com/site/sjgportal/
Santana 2000
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