The world may never be the same again

A few days ago I posted a question about how to deal with arranging an OTC date with a dancer that I affectionately refer to as amazing slut. Basically the responses fell along two lines. First was my usual approach which is to just ask and put everything I want specifically up front. The second group was along the lines of don't discuss any specifics, but just talk about sex and things will go the way you want if they were meant to be. SJG is of course in this second camp, although admittedly his theories on romancing sex workers are on the extreme side of things. Nevertheless, the essence of this second camp's position was pretty similar to what SJG says which is don't ask her for sex just let the sex happen.

Well I'm about to say something on this board and I never thought possible. And I'm not high when I say it. At least to some extent, with this particular dancer, San Jose Guy was right. Damn, I never thought I'd write that. Somehow, even though he's never been to a strip club or had sex with a woman, he had the right general idea with this particular dancer.

We spent about three hours together in the club, and until the very end I never even briefly mentioned that I wanted sex with her. Instead, we just talked about all kinds of stuff, much of it sexually explicit. We talked about our favorite sexual practices, sexual experiences, her history as a cam girl, all the guys she has been with, what I do with my DS, and similar topics. We got lots of dances and played in between talking. In these conversations, I made it very clear what I like and she made very clear that she's comfortable with that even though we weren't expressly talking about doing those things together.

At the end of the night, I said casually that I would love to take her out to dinner the next time I am in town and if she was comfortable with it we could hang out in my hotel room for some fun. She said that would be great and she would love to do it. Since we haven't actually gotten together yet, I can't swear to the ultimate success of this approach, but it certainly seemed to go well. She was pretty clearly open to everything I like, and true to her nickname she's done a lot of wild shit that I have not. It almost certainly went better than if I had starting out just telling her that I wanted her to come to my hotel room and provide a litany of all the services I expected.

So there you have it. The world may never be the same again because at least partially and at least with respect to one woman, San Jose guy was on the right side of an issue. If he keeps developing his game like this, his mom might eventually let him out of the basement so he can finally meet a woman.