Your a great guy, but your too nice...

That is code for "you don't excite me."

or it could mean you have a tiny dick. :)

hmmm, I actually never heard that before. It must be a secret code.

Maybe they dumped you because you don't know The difference between "you're" and "your"

Code for you come across desperate and needy, but other than that no complaints...

Shailynn said it best, girls love rejection and "nice guys" don't reject.

Keep going to strip clubs. Get some OTC, become more discerning. You won't hear it for too much longer.

And for God's sake, if you are one of those guys who ask "why" girls are attracted to what they are attracted to...fckn stop.

Men love rejection at least as much as women. We even came up with an euphemism: the 'hunt'. If there's no risk (of rejection/failure/competition), then it'd just be a buffet. So I would agree with GACA in the sense that there's no need to ask girls why they are attracted to assholes. Just ask yourself why you're attracted to the female equivalent.

These categories aren't mutually exclusive. Most people have been an asshole at some point and been burned by one at others. It reminds me of one of the more insightful points on this topic. The rapper Ice Cube was being interviewed in the documentary 'Good Hair' (which itself was on an entirely different topic) when he said, to have power over a woman you gotta be "fly'er" than her.

Not saying nice guys ain't fly guys, but nice guys probably don't like a worldview where there's "fly" and fly'er", aka hierarchy. They also probably don't like to view male-female dynamics (aka human sexual selection) as one dealing with the notion of power. Which is a very 'nice' perspective, and I hope more people proscribe to that (more pussy for those of us that don't). But until then, as Freud explained, everything is about sex, except sex which is about power.

@ shailynn. The misuse of 'you're' and 'your' is one of the things that drives me mental. My fellow countrymen are the worst offenders. I blame the teachers.

I used to get that a lot when I was younger – I used to get the ole kiss of death “I like you as a friend” – I would def prefer to be called an asshole by a chick than a nice guy and I think I overall have gotten farther w/ women whom may have thought I was kinda an asshole than w/ women whom thought I was a nice guy.

Being thought of and referred to as a nice guy by women is probably the worst thing IMO – i.e. it’s the kiss of death.

Not saying one needs to be an ahole; but def it’s best to come across as indifferent rather than needy.

When I was growing up my older brother by 3 years told me a friend of his told him you should never like a chick more than she likes you – IDK how valid this statement is but it may have some merit.

I guess one can be “nice” as long as he does not come across as a wimp; needy; or a pushover. – i.e. don’t like her or do more for her than she likes you or does for you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tiZ-yLYI…

pensionking got it in the very first response, code for "you don't excite me". No reason, you're nice enough, just don't excite her. And that doesn't necessarily mean she wants to be treated badly, she just wants someone who is a little more exciting and has a little bit of an edge, rather than safe and bland

When I was traveling a lot I told escorts that I was "on tour and willing to give them a true boy friend experience". Explained that I scarcely bath, drink beer, burp, fart, screw, and fall immediately fall asleep. It was amazing how any energetic takers were available.

I agree that pensionking nailed it
It is code for "you don't excite me"

Chicks dig confidence...
they just can't tell the difference between confidence and arrogance.

To get with a stripper, being a "musician" helps.

I love how people say "confidence" like it's not an abstract, loosely define, absolutely subjective concept.

I like the term "self assured" a lot more than confidence.

It's another version of "you're too good for me". "Fuck off" by any other name.

They like guys who don't give a fuck.

Women already have enough friends with their female buddies; so a dude does not have to be her “friend” or buddy; she already has plenty of those.

A dude needs to be a man – it takes a man to make a female feel like a woman – being her buddy at best will probably just put you in the same boat as her female friends and you’ll probably just get used as an emotional crutch (especially if you get “friend-zoned” for being a nice-guy at the beginning).

If they tell you that you're too nice, tell them "fuck you, suck my dick bitch". Maybe she'll see you in a new light. Or slap you. Either way she will never think of you as too nice again.

I really haven’t heard too many females say they fucked a guy b/c “he was a nice-guy”.

Much more often I’ve heard things along the lines of “I can’t believe I fucked that jerk/asshole”.

@Papi I always hear girls say they fuck this guy because he was nice, but that's only because they don't want to seem like low self esteem sluts. It's OK to be called nice after you got the cookies, just not before.

First off, decide what you want. You run different game on potential fuck buddies than girls you want to date.

In general the correct setting either way is to be Cocky and Funny. Sincerity doesn't go very far. Compliments should be given sparingly.

There's a time to be "nice", and it's after you've already fucked her at least once.

Don't put the cart before the horse. Fucking is much much older than thinking. We don't analyze it and decide who we want to fuck, we just want to fuck them or not. If a guy (or chick, for that matter) finds it fairly easy to get laid, he is much more likely to not develop filters that suppress jerky behavior.

Basically don't be so careful you are afraid to say something wrong Or do something wrong. Like @ilbbaicnl <---(BTW - what the hell does that handle stand for) guys who get it with some frequency will be comfortable enough not to try to impress.

Like @ilbbaicnl said <---(BTW - what the hell does that handle stand for) guys who get it with some frequency will be comfortable enough not to try to impress.

Like @ilbbaicnl said (BTW - what the hell does that handle stand for) guys who get it with some frequency will be comfortable enough not to try to impress.

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A server at one club told me that I was a nice guy and I shouldn't be hanging out in places like that. That was actually the first time I had met her...which is odd because she called me by name, too. Hmm.

LDK, I've always tried to treat women nice and with respect; guess that's why I've been exiled to the friend zone my entire life. Course, being a geek probably never helped matters any either.

There's a difference between be respectful and being afraid. Respect is offering an apology when you are told that you are being offensive. Afraid is trying not to be offensive so you end up not doing anything.

Women are attracted to the BBD.
That is: any dude that appears to offer her a Bigger Better Deal.
Nice guys are safe, but offer no upward mobility or increase in social esteem. Jerks, in a weird way, offer a form of safety due to the assumption that, if they're jerky enough, no one will fuck with them.
Nice rich guys, on the other hand, get laid. Handsome guys get laid. Nice guys that are good listeners with no prospects for prosperity . . . well, we know how that turns out.

A woman once told me that many women, especially when they're young, don't know what they want.

She said that being persistent, as long as it's not in a creepy way, will often times pay off.

I don't think it's that women don't prefer nice versus not nice it's just that nice has a very low weighting relative to other things. The more important things might have some small negative correlation with nice. So they aren't exactly when they say they prefer nice... And if you think being "too nice" is the only problem, chances are it's also other things - "nice" is likely being used as a euphemism here.