Customers - if a stripper TELLS you that she wants NOTHING to do with you OUTSID

I doubt that, considering we just did a couple $20 dances, and I gave no indication of having money to spare (which, I do not anyways). Also, she's 29 and seems to have been dancing for a while.

I'm willing to bet it's either an offer for friends, or code to say she works as an escort. But, perhaps that's just what I want to believe, since there wouldn't be malicious intent behind either. In any case, I'll hopefully find out in the next couple weeks and will post what the deal is.

johnny: my guess is that if you go for a beer with her she is going to ask you to borrow money.

Johnny, yes it could be either of those.

To answer the original Q, that dancer and I would have never connected anyway. Let's say I thought something was there, a "friend" thing. I'd ask her after seeing her 3 times and feeling a vibe. Then I get the above response. It would mean my radar was off. I've never been flat out rejected. One made me wait a while to know me better. She had kids so that was cool. We did eventually hook-up. I've met most of her family at this point.

A stripper would never tell you such a thing in the first place unless you asked her to meet OTC. I would only ask that if she gave a clear indication that she wanted to meet me OTC. If she then said no I would be PISSED OFF and not spend another dime on her.

It might be a little awkward enjoying yourself if she told you that in a blunt fashion, but assuming she does it for you and you have a good time, then sure why not keep going with her? Unless you are looking for something outside the club, then of course it's time to accept things and move on. Doesn't that seem obvious to everyone? Maybe if I phrase this differently, RL will understand:

STRIP CLUBS are for seeing and talking to STRIPPERS. If you want an experience OUTSIDE THE CLUB, that is what DATES and ESCORTS are for. If you ask a STRIPPER to see you OUTSIDE THE CLUB for no charge, you are asking her to DATE you. If you ask a STRIPPER to see out OUTISDE THE CLUB for a fee, you asking her to BE AN ESCORT. In either case you will be DISAPPOINTED when she likely TURNS YOU DOWN, and gets ANNOYED at you for asking.

So just don't do it, OK? If a dancer wants to see you outside the club, she'll make the first move and then you just have to figure out if she's just dicking you around, asking for a date, or asking for a (ahem) 'date' if you get my drift.

Yes. Just interested in a good job and a perfect body.

I believe RL would do it though. But only if the stripper agreed to do it for only 5 dollars. He has a spending limit for everything.

No that would be dumb.

Well, I've been "asked out" by strippers twice. The first time was a few months ago at a bikini bar in San Jose. It seemed so weird, I didn't say yes, just kind of changed the topic. I talked to another dancer later and asked what the story was. The girl that asked me out had moved there last week and was looking for a guy to show her around town. Since I wasn't from San Jose, it wasn't really an option, so whatever.

The second time (and the stranger one) happend last week. I stopped in a small club for the first time last week in the late afternoon. Get a couple $20 dances, have a nice conversation, and she encourages me to stop in again. Then as I'm getting up to leave she says maybe nex time, I could give her my number and we could go out for a beer sometime. Now, I know better than to think this was a legitimate offer. More than likely it was just a trick to get me to come back. Could also have been a signal she works as an escort on the side. Anybody else have ideas?

RL is writing a book. I'm convinced

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