What am I suppose to do in this situation?
Xeinok
One of my regular dancer always sit down next to me and chat with me for a few min, then when I don't buy a LD from her asap, she always came up with excuse like I have to go to the bathroom, go smoke or go inside dressing room real quick, except that she got up and went over to talk to some other PL instead, and she did it in front of me couple times, still not a big deal except the PL wouldn't even bother tipping her or buy her a LD, and still she sat next to the PL for at least a good 20 or 25 minutes. Now I don't understand the logic behind that. If she calls me her regular, shouldn't she be showing me more attention or at least not disrespecting me like that? Now If I was the one that get up or go over to other dancers instead, she would freak out and giving me shit for no reason....so what's with the double standard? Does she think it is acceptable to disrespect her regular and not worry about hurting my feeling but I am now allowed to do the same?
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So do it.
But if she gives you shit for getting dances from another girl. You should tell her... don't get jealous, because I don't when you go make money with another guy. That will get her to stop the double standard....or take you into the LD room and give it all she has got. This has worked for me.
A really good strategy for you would be to follow the four Fs- Findem, Fingerem, Fuckem, Forgetem. The fourth F is critical.
Also, maybe a change of scenery to some new clubs and new dancers would do you good for a while.
How many dancers are there at your clubs? Are there enough choices? Should you pursue other hunting grounds? What time of day are you going? Night and day clubbing are very different.
I do. You gotta keep up. Yes, it is brilliant.
And looking for respect from people who won't even respect themselves. .. you're one of those people so you probably don't get the irony.
The naked truth is she doesn't like you. She doesn't want to chat with you. She'll take your money for dances, but if you play hard to get she'd rather spend time playing the field. IMHO you need to find an actual g/f; you won't find her in a club until you grow up a little, and even then it's not really a worthwhile goal as strippers make terrible g/f's.
Knock-knock you really should consider weather a Behavioral Therapist can help you improve the quality interactions with strippers, you might have to start slow, like with your actual coworker, grocery store cashier, waitress, but eventually even you might have a more appealing personality to strippers. The thing about a shitty personality is, just like having bad credit, people will charge you more for less and believe they are doing you the favor, and of course with a great personality the absolute opposite is true.
A woman is attracted to a man for being in his prime, for being above average in some way, for thinking she is special. That is to say, a stripper generally has zero reason to feel attracted to a custy. So they are fighting their own instincts when they are working. I don't know why we think it's easier for them to tolerate us than it would be for us to accept the attentions of a woman we had zero attraction to.