Pushy Dancers
Alyssatanggg
Anywho, there is a skinny, ebony dancer who dislikes me and a few other "exotic" looking girls at the club. We tend to avoid each other as our manager said that if she even looks at me the wrong way she'll get the boot. And I, being the newblet I am, don't want to be involved in anymore unnecessary drama. So I look the other way.
However, last night, I was coming out of the dressing room to converse with customers. As I sat down with a familiar face, I noticed he seemed a bit annoyed. Turning to me he goes, "Don't leave me with that crazy broad again. She's trying to hustle me for dances!" Apparently the ebony dancer who hates me is in a bit of a pinch. She's been demanding all guys at the bar to tip her for her "stage dances" and when they say no, she gets her panties in a bunch and tries to cause a scene.
Seriously, how does she still have a job? This isn't the first time I've heard customers complaining about her. My second night, she tried to steal a customer from me and even went as far as to say no dancers like the new girl and that I'm rude to her or some stupid shit. I'm a pretty relaxed person, but I'll soon be at my wits end with this bony little harlot ugh. Once again, the custies vouched for me and paid her no attention. Doesn't she see that her crazy antics push them away from her and towards the dancers she dislikes? Sheesh. Guess I shouldn't complain but still! What do you custies think of pushy, bratty dancers? Do you not mind so long as they're attractive?
Personally, I feel like any dancer who tries too hard to hustle for dances breaks immersion. A SC should be a fun place to let go, see pretty ladies, and spend some cash. Not feel pressured by unattractive girls with the people skills of a blank sheet of paper..
Then again, everyone is different when it comes to their tastes in dancers.
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Many a custy has had run-ins with at best “pushy” black dancers that at times borderline in being aggressive and disparaging to custies whom brush tem off or don’t spend on them.
One def needs to watch their back w/ ghetto people (and many a black dancer fits this profile). I’ve heard of black dancers jumping on a dancer in a club’s dressing room and beating her senseless and taking her $$$ - this is not the norm but def does happen especially in the ghetto black clubs – ghettos are often violent places and so are often the people whom come from them.
Below is a link another TUSCLer sent me about a vicious beatdown of a black dancer by other black dancers which was recorded on a cellphone and update to YouTube – it happened in a black dive I visit down here in Miami and I was actually there yesterday.
The video made my stomach turn and I could barely watch it just one time – so be warned b/c the beatdown is graphic and although not all black people behave this way often times most people that behave this way are black (sorry to those that my comments may offend):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DYBgqbh4…
The club I work at is mostly white too, with rocker roots and themes. My manager thinks it's just jealousy that fuels her dislike towards me and the other non-white dancers as he said we've taken some of her business. It's competition to her, but instead of acting like such a brat, she could at least focus her insecurities on working HARDER. Seriously, when she gets on stage I have to stifle a yawn! It's almost as If she thinks she's too good to be here. No one likes the boring stripper look. I was so nice to her the first day too, and all she did was purposefully ignore me and a Latina dancer. Right to our faces.
Luckily, the SC is pretty upscale and the managers are very kind and family-orientated. I doubt any jumping would occur, but I kid you not..if she dares put a finger on me it's off with her wig!
Why can't we all just get a long? Lol
And yeah, I agree HungryGiraffe. It'll definitely take time but I'm certainly trying. I've had no problems with anyone else but her.
I do not care for pushy dancers, or pushy people in general. Good luck dealing with the bitch.
Customers often bring her up, but luckily I've been able to maneuver around conversations by changing the subject. My second night, she actually stopped her stage performance to yell at a customer for "talking shit about her with that new girl". It was quite weird because I said nothing about her at all..it was him who talked about how demanding she was to me. Luckily, he went to management and smoothed it all over. Still, I feel as though she trusts me even less, and no amount of me attempting to explain myself will likely get through to her.
I'm just going to have to take diva's advice and focus on work. Here's to hoping she does the same.
And I agree George, that's probably it. I believe the managers are just waiting for something more threatening to happen or anything that may look bad for the club itself. In any case, I just have to hold out until she becomes their problem. I know for a face any fighting of any sort is grounds for immediate removal from the club. I just don't want it to get there.
I can't stand pushy, catty dancers...especially when they start talking shit about other dancers in the club. It's an instant turn off and she sure won't be getting any of my $$$. Most custies feel the same way, tho be aware that there are those douchebags out there that not only enjoy it, but they also encourage dancers to talk trash about each other. Steer clear of losers like that if at all possible.
Ugh, you posters never cease to amaze me with your advice and comments. :) I love it here! Lol
Just don't let that dancer come over here and hustle me, I'm just too tired of getting hustled by dancers like that you mentioned.
Very true Papi. Getting hustled by anyone is annoying period.
"She's been demanding all guys at the bar to tip her for her "stage dances"...".
That is the almost the norm in S. Florida. Almost all clubs, the dancers do a tip walk afterwards. Some dancers take a (Didn't see you.) well, others, not so well.
I'm just kidding, but yeah, I was being pretty sarcastic.
That's really interesting Clubber! I don't think it's the norm here. I've seen guys not tip girls at all here. It kinda annoys me, as she's dancing to entertain you..the least you could do is acknowledge a working girl's ambition! What if the Dancer is terrible or not considered attractive?
A tip is intended to be discretionary – not a requirement – why should a custy tip every dancer just b/c she is there even if he doesn’t find her attractive nor is interested in her – if a custy asks a dancer to do something then the custy should pay her – but a custy does not tell/ask a dancer to get up on stage and dance for him; so why pay for something he did not ask a dancer to do.
As clubber mentioned; here in South Florida there are many clubs in where when a dancer gets off stage she circulates the room asking for a tip even if you were not even paying attention to the stage for w/e reason and even if you are engaged w/ a dancer; and even if you were sitting where you really could not see the stage – and they’ll give you the evil eye if you have the gull not to oblige there tip request.
And even worse – many dancers in these clubs will take to circulating the club for tips even when they have not been on stage but want to make the custy think they were where it gets to the point where on a busy night a PL can be tipping a dancer every 30 seconds (and I’m not exaggerating) – if a PL spends two hours there; he can go thru $60 or more easily on a busy night w/ just dancers accosting him for a tip every 30 seconds.
A custy should tip a dancer he likes and is interested in – not every dancer just b/c she is there – I would ask a dancer – when she goes out to eat; does she tip every waitress/waiter in the restaurant or just the one that provides her a service?
At the stage, most will always tip. But the walk around the club, not so much. I do't sit at the stage. I mean, I can be sitting with friends or a dancer and not even facing the stage and I should tip? Well, yeah, I do. To me, just a few dollars, so what's the big deal. My visits are most always afternoons, so never a cover. I just consider those tips my cover charge. Now if I truly enjoyed the dance or want more time with a dancer, I will approach the stage and tip her, but not sit, or when she comes by, but always more than a buck.
Be more concerned about physical attacks and stealing. Fortunately this one is small so you should be OK as long as you don't let her sneak up on you. As much as possible, avoid her getting info or chances where she could attack you with friends and/or weapons in the parking lot or outside the club. If the club doesn't give you a place to lock up you money, bring in a lock box.
Don't look at racially. If you keep dancing long enough, there will be white strippers who will pull the same shit, and black strippers who will watch your back if you watch theirs.