How to get scammed

Oh, also: Assholes are very unlikely to get scammed. They don't trust stripper enough. Assholes are mostly just in the club to be mean to or make fun of strippers not to spend money.

AN: Ok, I consulted an inside source about this and here is what I learned:

Strippers who scam customers are often exploiting the customer's lust. You are also right that they often rationalize it as "well he is only trying to get sex from me so it's ok for me to just try and get money from him but without giving him sex (or as little as possible!)".

Now I'm sure everyone here sees the obvious problems with this "rationalization": a) Two wrongs don't make a right. b) Is it really so "bad" for a man to want sex from young and beautiful woman? Is that as bad as lying? (I would agree that if both are being dishonest about their feeling toward each other it's just a matter of "no honor amongst theives".)

Those are two obvious problems with the rationalization: However, there's another subtler and more surprising problem: as incredible as it may sound, the scam victims often are not that interested in sex!

These victims see some strippers as princesses "trapped" in a terrible world they do not belong in and they see themselves as her saviour. These men are typically middle aged to older men with lots of money. In some sense they are seeking to be her "daddy" and it is this desire the strippers are exploiting. Is wanting to be her "daddy" in the sense of helping her get life together stupid? Probably! It is as unethical as scamming someone desiring to help others? No way!

AN, I agree, but it goes further than that. If you act like a total asshole, all the nice girls will avoid you. The only girls who will approach you are the ones who don't give a shit about you as a person, they only care about your money. In other words, the scam artists. If you're courteous you'll automatically attract the nice girls.

There's a saying among con artists they use to justify scamming. You can't con an honest man. For the most part scams rely on greed (or lust in this case) and a bit of dishonesty on the part of the victim to succeed. In this case my guess is that they don't need to scam to get money out of the decent quiet ones, and if they do cheat them the quiet ones merely move on, so they may get paid for an extra dance or something, but that's it. As far as FONDL's tips, not all deal with being a jerk. Most deal with staying sober, keeping count of what you ask for and spend, and keeping it in perspective. In the end assholes are more likely to be scammed 'cause it's easier to scam someone you really dislike.

I suspect FONDL is way off track with his advice. I bet it's nice/non assertive guys who are the ones who get marked as dupes and get the most scams run against them.

Maybe some stripper told FONDL that they only try to scam the jerks and FONDL beleived them.

Think about it: who is a con artist going to think is more likely to fall for a scam? A nice, weak, guilible person, or an asshole? With this in mind read FONDL's rules again and then decide for yourself if he knows what he is talking about.

Don't forget you should repetedly ask her to tell you her real name, her phone number, address, if she has a boyfriend, husband or kids and demand that she meet you outside the club. She'll appreciate your honesty and forthright nature. If she doesn't she's a manipulative whore using you to make money.